waterudewing Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I've been with my girlfriend a little over three months now. She is leaving to study abroad in a few months, and we've decided we would stay together during this period of time. Over these last few months everything has been going absolutely terrific. We are perfect for each other and all that, however... This last time we saw each other I got this weird feeling about our relationship that I haven't been able to shake and it's driving me crazy. I have no idea why I'm feeling this way because there is no real cause for it, other than subtle differences I may have picked up on in the way she was acting. Basically, I feel like she might be getting bored of the relationship, or that I'm not acting like the guy she thought I was. We've grown close really fast, sometimes I worry maybe too fast. I told her before she left that I was feeling kind of weird, and she spent the rest of the day asking me if I was feeling better and telling me how much she loved me. So for a period of about 30 minutes I thought "I don't have anything to worry about, everything is fine." And the truth is, I know everything is probably fine, because she is acting pretty much normal, and I'm probably just projecting these feelings onto her. Also of note, when she left my place the last time was the first time we spent every day together for a long time, approximately 2 weeks. I guess what I'm looking to know is if anyone else has felt like this during a relationship and the feeling just ended up going away and everything turned out fine. I know people are probably going to tell me I should talk with her about it, but how do you even start a conversation like this? I feel like me worrying like this could harm what I have going on with her.
St. Nick Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 What country is she studying abroad in? If it's a country where American women are picked up cuz they're easy or a source of quick cash then you might have to worry. If it's a country where American women are treated like wallpaper then there's nothing to worry about.
Author waterudewing Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 I'm not really worried about her studying abroad. That's a situation that would be completely out of my control, so I figure worrying about it will only make things worse.
St. Nick Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 The more you worry about it, the less manly you're gonna look. What would you do if your suspicions were confirmed and you ended up breaking up after all?
FitChick Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 (edited) Can you go visit her at least once while she is away? Then you would be able to gauge her feelings. Say, after six weeks and she's not really that happy to see you again, you could cut your losses early, instead of waiting the entire three months only to find out she had moved on. I really grew up after several months in Europe on my own after college. My friends back home seemed a bit too provincial for me when I returned and I gravitated toward new friends who had traveled a lot and seemed more sophisticated. "Travel broadens the mind." As far as your feeling of dread, have other premonitions of yours come true? Then pay attention. It's called intuition and it's a valuable tool to cultivate. Edited May 24, 2010 by FitChick
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