likestolaugh Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I would just like to chime in and agree with everyone that you need to dump her. HOWEVER, I think you need to consider how controlling you are in future relationships. Very few women will enjoy you having to know who they're talking to at every moment, you going through their stuff like you own it, etc... Just give a future gf some more space.
Mimolicious Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 yeah, i can't ever see myself with someone who flirts with another guy, that may be ok for some, but for me i want a completely open honest relationship thanks all STOP! Talk is cheap at this point... you say one thing and do another. If you really can't see yourself with someone like her, then why are you still debating and dwelling??? Either you leave the chick and find yourself another gal that wont take you for a sucker or (like I said before) get ready to parade her Jamaican BF. For anyone to say that exchange of text with thsi kind of context is NOTHING... you gots to be kidding.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 25, 2010 Author Posted May 25, 2010 STOP! Talk is cheap at this point... you say one thing and do another. If you really can't see yourself with someone like her, then why are you still debating and dwelling??? Either you leave the chick and find yourself another gal that wont take you for a sucker or (like I said before) get ready to parade her Jamaican BF. For anyone to say that exchange of text with thsi kind of context is NOTHING... you gots to be kidding. i've basically made up my mind to end it, everytime i read those texts i get madder. As we sit at the table, she tries to rub my foot with hers, which confuses me...because her previous actions say she doesn't care. why would a woman flirt/emotionally cheat and still want her bf?! doesn't make sense, lol, guess it doesn't have to
2sunny Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 i've basically made up my mind to end it, everytime i read those texts i get madder. As we sit at the table, she tries to rub my foot with hers, which confuses me...because her previous actions say she doesn't care. why would a woman flirt/emotionally cheat and still want her bf?! doesn't make sense, lol, guess it doesn't have to because SHE gets the benefit of YOU while she's waiting for the guy far away. she can string you along while she spends emotional time and energy in someone else. what do you provide in her life? time? attention? money? fun times out? emotionally available? she doesn't leave because you make it easy for her to stay and use you for what she needs until she gets with the guy she flirts with.
ComeUndone Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 i've basically made up my mind to end it, everytime i read those texts i get madder. As we sit at the table, she tries to rub my foot with hers, which confuses me...because her previous actions say she doesn't care... She cares to the extent that she gets something out of it: dinners, companionship, a roof over her head away from her parents... other than that, she doesn't care. She's trying to stay in your good graces so SHE won't be negatively impacted, so don't let her foot-rubbing fool you. It's actually very telling! She's not doing it for you, she's doing it for her.
EricaH329 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 My post has explained everything. You either break up with her or deal with this. You know that she is lying to you. Whether or not you have enough self respect to break it off, is totally and completely up to you. But... if you decide to stick around for it then don't complain.
ADF Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 *Sigh* And here we have another person who thinks nothing of snooping through people's private things. Did you open her mail, too? Oh, wait--that's a federal offense. I honestly don't know why all you spymasters bother. Leaving the respect for privacy issue aside, how often are you wrong? If you feel the need to spy on your SO, clearly the relationship is over. The trust is gone. Something is making you suspicious. Whether you snoop or not, the result with be the same. Dump her already.
phineas Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 i've basically made up my mind to end it, everytime i read those texts i get madder. As we sit at the table, she tries to rub my foot with hers, which confuses me...because her previous actions say she doesn't care. why would a woman flirt/emotionally cheat and still want her bf?! doesn't make sense, lol, guess it doesn't have to Why isn't she rubbing something something else? Oh because she loves the other guy. Not you. what everyone else said. She is using you for her own purposes.
phineas Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 *Sigh* And here we have another person who thinks nothing of snooping through people's private things. Did you open her mail, too? Oh, wait--that's a federal offense. I honestly don't know why all you spymasters bother. Leaving the respect for privacy issue aside, how often are you wrong? If you feel the need to spy on your SO, clearly the relationship is over. The trust is gone. Something is making you suspicious. Whether you snoop or not, the result with be the same. Dump her already. I pretty much agree with this. The only person I ever snooped on was my STBXW and that was only when I found pictures of her & another guy mixed in with the baby pictures on her computer. She asked me to burn them to CD for her so I wasn't even snooping then. They were just there in the default folder where the camera dumped them. That's when I went into investigation mode because she denied,denied,denied & I needed proof. I didn't like myself too much for doing that, but it had to be done. If I suspect future women of cheating i'll just break up with them. If they loose my trust I know their not going to get it back.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 i've basically made up my mind to end it, everytime i read those texts i get madder. As we sit at the table, she tries to rub my foot with hers, which confuses me...because her previous actions say she doesn't care. why would a woman flirt/emotionally cheat and still want her bf?! doesn't make sense, lol, guess it doesn't have to like i said before, because because her other jamaican bf is long distance and she wants someone around. it does make sense, its not right but it make sense. this girl is making a fool of you and only you can stop it. and rubbing a foot doesnt mean you care about someone.
Mimolicious Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 i've basically made up my mind to end it, everytime i read those texts i get madder. As we sit at the table, she tries to rub my foot with hers, which confuses me...because her previous actions say she doesn't care. why would a woman flirt/emotionally cheat and still want her bf?! doesn't make sense, lol, guess it doesn't have to I'll tell you why- (depending on your gps and if you're in the states) about 1,500 miles. The dude (and this is the one that you know about) that your GF is living this fantasy R with is in Jamaica and she is in another country. She gets the butterflies, unicorns and rainbows by texting back and forth with him, yet you're the one that she can rub her feet against (BECAUSE YOU LET HER). You are sabotaging yourself at this point. Don't tell us you're going to "end it". You need to tell her that! You're 23 y/o, not exactly a baby. Man up and get it together. Unless you like being someone's puppet. I don't think it makes you really "mad" to read these text messages. You're either in denial or you like the attention. Your GF already knows that you don't like the fact of her being glued to her phone texting all day, yet she does it right in front of you (probably laughing while she is at it). No respect. You seem to love it though...
Krytie TV Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 HOLY CRAP! Sorry man, but what must it be like to go through life such a spineless doormat. Bejeezers man, MAN UP. I am practically in tears reading this thread and thinking of all of the fun ways in which I could mess with this girl before dumping her. Oh my my my my my. Please, come back and inform us when you guys get engaged. Wow.
SomewhatExperienced Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 HOLY CRAP! Sorry man, but what must it be like to go through life such a spineless doormat. Bejeezers man, MAN UP. I am practically in tears reading this thread and thinking of all of the fun ways in which I could mess with this girl before dumping her. Oh my my my my my. Please, come back and inform us when you guys get engaged. Wow. Agreed. I've just read this whole thread and about six times you've must have said "Yeah, I'm definitely going to dump her", followed by "so I hung out with her last night, I'm definitely going to dump her". Either cut her off and let her know why or start f***ing with her head. Not many people are in a position like this. Make her hurt and feel guilty. I'm not a vindictive person, but she deserves this. Start showing a serious interest in Jamaica. Start listening to lots of Bob Marley around her, get a t-shirt of his and wear it. Make a comment about buying a new "rock" with her in reference to a new place. Use your imagination. BUT in all this never let on that you know about this guy. It'll drive her nuts. The key is to lay it on thick enough that she thinks that you know, but isn't quite sure enough to do anything about it. When it reaches a breaking point, or she finally snaps, explicitly bring up this Andres guy and rip into her, then storm off. Grow a set, man. At least do SOMETHING about her behaviour instead of just saying you will.
Mimolicious Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Agreed. I've just read this whole thread and about six times you've must have said "Yeah, I'm definitely going to dump her", followed by "so I hung out with her last night, I'm definitely going to dump her". Either cut her off and let her know why or start f***ing with her head. Not many people are in a position like this. Make her hurt and feel guilty. I'm not a vindictive person, but she deserves this. Start showing a serious interest in Jamaica. Start listening to lots of Bob Marley around her, get a t-shirt of his and wear it. Make a comment about buying a new "rock" with her in reference to a new place. Use your imagination. BUT in all this never let on that you know about this guy. It'll drive her nuts. The key is to lay it on thick enough that she thinks that you know, but isn't quite sure enough to do anything about it. When it reaches a breaking point, or she finally snaps, explicitly bring up this Andres guy and rip into her, then storm off. Grow a set, man. At least do SOMETHING about her behaviour instead of just saying you will. Why waste your time and energy on kiddish BS, that at the end eats you more than her? Let's be for real...
Mimolicious Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 People get what they deserve. She'll eventually end up with someone that will do the same to her. Right now, this "Payback" wouldn't even phase her since she's in her own fantasy with her Rude Boi. He's 23 y/o... Move the hell on! Go find some other chick to poke, stop being boy toy and quit the childish games.
phineas Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 People get what they deserve. She'll eventually end up with someone that will do the same to her. Right now, this "Payback" wouldn't even phase her since she's in her own fantasy with her Rude Boi. He's 23 y/o... Move the hell on! Go find some other chick to poke, stop being boy toy and quit the childish games. Except, he isn't even pokeing her.
Mimolicious Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Except, he isn't even pokeing her. According to what he said, he is not! People love to complicate their lives for the sake of "love". Life is too short to deal with so much nonsense. Live it up!
malala7 Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I have the intelligence and insight to know the truth about the nature of women, yes. OpenGL you don't have any idea of how ridiculous and STUPID you sound.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 so for those of you who have been avidly watching this thread...here is the conclusion We're driving back from school, she's texting on her phone, and i'm getting annoyed. When i get annoyed i get quiet. She says what's wrong, in an aggitated manner i said, we need to talk about why you feel the need to flirt with andres on the phone. I can't have my girlfriend flirting with other guys. Is there something i can do to make you feel like you don't need to do that. (wanted to put it out there but not put her on the defensive.) she got PISSED!!! all mad, at that point i was parking the car, and she starts screaming, i can't take it, i can't take the problems and the fights. She tells me to "go get my f**ing keys" i told her to get out of my car first, she refused. I told her again, and she said "don't you f**ing disrespect me, i will F**k up this car, and i will break your F**ing face in infront of all of these people and embarrass you." at that point, i think, well it's only my fathers brand new infiniti, so i go get the keys from my apartment. She gets in the car, screaming at me. I screamed back have a nice life flirting with andres. She drives away. So i call my friend Tim, and talk to him, try to laugh off the situation. I see her come back, and i say oh S**t she's coming back. She parks in front of my car, and boxes me in. She tells me she will "f**k up my car really bad if i don't go get her S**t" So i go in, and make a few trips, meantime she's texting and calling me, i'm not responding. she texted me "i'm calling the cops unless you stop holding my stuff hostage" I was getting her things from my place as she was doing this. Anways, i finish getting pretty much all of her stuff out, i go back in for the last trip, and when i come out she had driven off. I check my car, it's fine, no damage/keying etc that i saw. Cool. So i talk to my friend tim for 15 minutes, i'm packing my things up and i'm getting in my car. I see 3 cops pulling up to the apartment building next to mine as i'm leaving, and entering the place. Now i think it has to be a coincidence, unless some bystander called to cops calling it a domestic disturbance. IDK i think it has to be a coincidence, bc otherwise the police would be going into MY building right? Anyways, i chocked the police up to being a really strange coincidence, and i continued on my way back to school to move my things out of our shared locker, just in case she gets any ideas of messing with it. I'm at home with my parents right now, i'm just hoping the car will be ok parked there from now on?? I'm not mad, i wasn't mad at the time. Aside from saying loudly as i was walking towards my car "have a nice life flirting with andres" i kept my cool 100% of the time. At no point did i lay one finger on her, or make any threatening gestures. She did hit me in the car on my arm when she was refusing to get out of my car though. I'm not mad, clearly someone who gets that upset at me asking to talk about her flirting with another guy, doesn't care. I'm better off without that weight dragging me down. I'm taking the money that would have been spent on her and buying myself a nice gift, a 600cc sportsbike for the summer. Gotta love being single!
Author femaletroubles Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 oh and i have pics that i took of her blocking my car off, as evidence just in case i ever need to substantiate this story...not sure how crazy she really is. Very unstable that one.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 bitchis suck lol i'm sorry but there is nooo way that is a normal response. absolutely no way i mean blocking my car in with hers!? threatening me with violence?! screaming at me?! i hope "andres" enjoys it
Ihavenoidea Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 glad to see you got out of that mess, good thing you got it out now.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 27, 2010 Author Posted May 27, 2010 ya everyone was right here, i should have ended it the moment i saw those text messages. She's clearly not for me, i've learned a little more out of this relationship-- girl never wanted to hear of any issue, but the fact was i didn't start it, i wasn't flirting with other girls anyways, its over now, i'm going to ignore her existence completely when i see her in class/around school...going to be a fun next 3 years! Her actions have shown me she doesn't deserve my attention
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