Mimolicious Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 she said that the messages regarding visiting eachother were just play, that ppl don't make serious plans like that Whatever! She'll come home pregnant (after not being with you in a while) and tell you that she was just "playing". She is saying the truth here... she is playing- PLAYING YOU! Grow some skin and drop the chick!
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 23 yrs old haven't had sex in a while my place, stays here a lot So why no sex? I mean your both young & in love. You should be humping like rabbits with all the time you spend together. I'm gonna guess, because she is in love with someone else & doesn't want to cheat on them with you. Boot her. Seriously. how dysfuntional is it that BF & GF are sitting across from each other with GF texting the guy she's really in love with & you posting on a web site asking what to do? It's a really F'd up situation if you ask me. Does she have a key to your place?
Author femaletroubles Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 So why no sex? I mean your both young & in love. You should be humping like rabbits with all the time you spend together. I'm gonna guess, because she is in love with someone else & doesn't want to cheat on them with you. Boot her. Seriously. how dysfuntional is it that BF & GF are sitting across from each other with GF texting the guy she's really in love with & you posting on a web site asking what to do? It's a really F'd up situation if you ask me. Does she have a key to your place? nope, no key
Author femaletroubles Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 All I can say is shes full of ****, if she cared for you she would stop or compromise in some way. This is how it starts, a few small harmless texts usually turns into something real, even if it was a mistake. My buddy caught his wife making plans to meet a guy at a hotel. This is exactly how it started. End it man and move on, i rarely tell people to end it but in this case. Move on. i asked her that, she said shes fine with who she is, she doesn't want to change or compromise at all
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I have the intelligence and insight to know the truth about the nature of women, yes. SOME women & SOME men are like that. I usually tend to gravitate away from these people. I do have a female aquaintance that may or may not become more when my divorce is final. I've spent an entire day with her & her phone beeps maybe once. I actually find it quite weird because I as a guy will recieve more texts from random chicks daily.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 she says her interest in the relationship is waning, she doesn't know if it's completely gone, she's willing to work at it but that when i do stuff like this (look at her phone, apparently i'm why she has a pw) that it decreases her interest sad sad situation lol
Ihavenoidea Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 i asked her that, she said shes fine with who she is, she doesn't want to change or compromise at all then she obviously doesnt want to be with you or work it out with you. Dump her right now. I seriosly would. then go no contact.
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 nope, no key Then were gonna have to black ops on her like she has to do. Wait till she leaves, pack the **** she left there in a tote & leave it in front of the door. text her that it's over & her **** is in a tote in front of your door & leave town for a week. Or tell her to take her lieing, cheating ass & get out of your apartment & never come back. Seriously, I mean if you were at least getting laid I could understand staying for the sex but she isn't even doing that. What's the point then? No trust, no sex what else is there?
Author femaletroubles Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 Mimolicuous and OpenGL stop bantering back and forth on this guys thread, STFU and go someplace else you both are equally ignorant. haha its fun, gives a deeper insight to the convo
Mimolicious Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 So I guess you are OK with this behavior. It's your world honey, we just live in it... If you're happy, I am happy for you.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 haha its fun, gives a deeper insight to the convo haha true but also derails what little credibility each of them already have.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 then she obviously doesnt want to be with you or work it out with you. Dump her right now. I seriosly would. then go no contact. she doesn't want me looking through her stuff, is that an unreasonable request?? Then were gonna have to black ops on her like she has to do. Wait till she leaves, pack the **** she left there in a tote & leave it in front of the door. text her that it's over & her **** is in a tote in front of your door & leave town for a week. Or tell her to take her lieing, cheating ass & get out of your apartment & never come back. Seriously, I mean if you were at least getting laid I could understand staying for the sex but she isn't even doing that. What's the point then? No trust, no sex what else is there? ya not a lot of emotional attachment here
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 she says her interest in the relationship is waning, she doesn't know if it's completely gone, she's willing to work at it but that when i do stuff like this (look at her phone, apparently i'm why she has a pw) that it decreases her interest sad sad situation lol Ah yes, my STBXW pulled this crap on me when i'd question where she was & who she was with. It's called manipulation & your letting her do it. My STBXW did it right up until I told her to get the hell out.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 (edited) It isnt unreasonable of a request, shes entitled to privacy but its a damn phone for crying outloud. My buddys wife locked him out of her phone because she was sending negative texts. After he caught her she has no problem showing her phone to him and before she made him feel like **** that they kept having problems because he had trust issues and turned out she was cheating so..... Its just a phone its not like you are asking for medical and bank statments and her SSN If she wont work with you end it now, relationships are a team effort, and she isnt trying. Besides its easier to be the one ending it than the one cheated on and dumped Edited May 24, 2010 by Ihavenoidea
EricaH329 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I just knew she was going to throw that excuse out there. She obviously wants to keep this hidden from you, so why would she come clean now? Bottom line: She shouldn't be talking to other males in that way, period. As long as she is with you, you are her only 'baby, babe, hubby, etc'. Another thing i'm wondering, is that usually when two people are in a relationship, they are aware of their friends. Especially friends that are so close to them that they would speak to eachother in the manner that your gf and this guy have been speaking to eachother. Red flag. Huuuge red flag. I'd re-consider the quality of your relationship (please don't take offense to that), and whether or not this is something you are willing to put up with. You have two options. They are not flexible ones. Option A - Break up. Option B - Allow her to continue on the way she is, and you cannot doubt her/question her/snoop. She has made it very clear she doesn't want you in her 'personal' life, so you either need to deal with it, or move on.
FryFish Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Dude... SHE DOESNT GIVE A **** ABOUT YOU! She shouldnt care if you look at her phone... She DOES CARE because she is hiding the fact that she ****s other guys from you. Right NOW tell her to get out.
2sunny Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 who cares what she wants at this point. she's spending her time and energy on another man... a man she's willing to lead on. her words don't match her actions - at all = lies! YOU should want more for YOURSELF than her bad behavior! dump her NOW!!!
legallyblonde289 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 did not go well, i said you need to tell me who it is, she says she's not going to etc i told her i have trust issues from what's happened between us, and that the text messages do not look good. eventually she just said that's her best friend and that's how she talks to people, which is true in some ways she does talk flirtly with everyone. i told her i wanted her to remove the password from her phone. she said she wouldn't do it we basically came to the conclusion, she told me she would never cheat/do anything with anyone else before us ending it feel like i lost my spine she's lying. she cheated on you and she lets him call his "future wife". and from your previous posts, this isnt the first time either. im honestly confused about why you would even consider staying with her.
Heartford Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 She's disrespecting you, whether she labels it personal or not (which is weird, by the way). It's not cool. Don't turn a blind eye just to make yourself feel ok in the moment.
bolase Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 OP, this makes me so angry. She is using you. Please save your pride while you can and dump her because you don't feel you can trust her. Yes she is likely screwing around on you but her attitude is ****ty and you deserve better.
Author femaletroubles Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 sorry we went out to dinner, she sat on her phone and did her thing, and played on the phone the car ride back. she saw i was quiet and rubbed my hand a little so, i get to buy dinner, while she gets to text andres??
missfrenchie Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Wow. I completely understand that you're in denial... But she is taking you for a ride, sorry to say!!! I would have packed up her **** for her and told her to get the hell out of your house. Don't let her walk all over you. She needs to realise that what she is doing is COMPLETELY WRONG and isn't allowed to treat people with such disrespect!
Heartford Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 sorry we went out to dinner, she sat on her phone and did her thing, and played on the phone the car ride back. she saw i was quiet and rubbed my hand a little so, i get to buy dinner, while she gets to text andres?? Aww, dude, this is so wrong! Tell us what you are thinking, maybe that'll help.
Cracker Jack Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 No offense, dude, but she's making you out to be a huge tool. It seemed like you weren't going to stand for that mess initially, but it seems like she's gained control of your mind. And the unfortunate part is that she's likely going to end it on her own terms. Everyone's advice her is legit, but it seems like you're just not willing to believe this woman is a liar or a cheater. Oh, well.
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