Mr.P Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Hi all, A couple of months ago I split with my girlfriend as we both wanted different things and I couldn't give her what she wanted so we had to go our own seperate ways. Even while I was with her, a few times a year for the last 3 years I would see another female friend of mine at certain events, but since we met up last year we have kept in touch more and more. She was happily in a relationship as was I so in my opinion being friends with her was no big deal. Anyway things turned pretty bad for her and they broke up so I was there to offer a perfectly innocent shoulder of support. A few months later my relationship went downhill and we split up. My friend returned the favour of being a shoulder for support, and after we had split up, my ex who I was trying to remain friends with noticed I had a txt from my friend just asking how I was. Well she thought I'd moved on already which was not the case and another argument was had. By this time I was developing a crush on my friend and whilst no flirting was going on, I liked her. My friend went on holiday soon after and upon her return announced she had met someone on holiday and was head over heels in love with him. Knowing that the distance would be an issue she was prepared to give it 100% commitment. Needless to say I was a little bit dissappointed. I saw her for the first time this year about 3 weeks ago and there was definitely a mutual attraction between us, it could be seen by friends from both sides! Being quite good friends already, I invited her to stay for a few nights at another event hosted by my local sports club, and she happily agreed and was looking forward to it. The day before that I was away from home and about an hour away from her area, so she asked me to pay her a visit and stay over. I of course obliged and after a few drinks in her local bar we got pretty close, and after we got home we made out. Knowing that she had a boyfriend in another country, we both felt guilty and we didn't sleep together that night. She was still coming up to see me the next day, so I set off in the morning as I had things to arrange still. So in the afternoon she turns up and we have quite a few drinks, one thing lead to another and we share a night of wild passion. We knew it was wrong but it just felt so good and so right! Next morning was a case of head holding in hands, it never happened etc but even the next night we still shared a bed cuddling up together with a little kiss. Although we kept what happened between us amongst ourselves, that weekend was obvious to so many that there was something between us and I really wish we could have developed it. After she got back home she realised what she had done and regretted the whole thing. I said I did too but I wished it could have happened under different circumstances so neither of us felt bad about it. She shortly afterwards told me that she only came up to see me because other than her boyfriend, I'm the only one she has any kind of feelings for. But! All we can be for now is just friends. The next day we were chatting away, about us sleeping together and it got pretty intense. I was telling her how amazing it was for me and she was saying she did enjoy it and paid me a few compliments too It went on for like half an hour and we were both pretty aroused just talking and thinking about it. Again another bout of guilt the next day and we both felt we shouldn't have discussed it the way we did. Last night I went to see her again but I had a hotel booked so wasn't going to drink as I had an hour to drive back to the hotel afterwards. She told me when I got there that I was more than welcome to stay over again, and so off to her local bar we went again. I remembered a few faces from last time and they were surprisingly happy to see me. I was told that they all thought something was going on between us too. I stayed over again, no kissing this time and I was there when she phoned her foreign boyfriend. Listening to all the "I love you so much" etc wasn't all that pleasant but hey, I just smiled through it as I knew all we could be is just friends. We moved to the couch and she was leaning on me, gently stroking my arm with her finger so I put my arm round her and we had a little cuddle before heading to our seperate beds. We went out for breakfast this morning and went on our own seperate ways. Even now we are txting back and forth every few minutes, and she's coming up to see me this weekend again for 3 nights. I just don't know what to do! There is something there between us and I've told her already how I feel about her but completely understand that all we can be is friends at the moment as she has a boyfriend who she loves more than anyone she has loved before. I can't say to her that it's a big mistake especially with the distance / language / culture barrier, and she'd be better off with me but I really really like her! Close to using the "L" word. Any thoughts on what I should do?
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