Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 More too the point than a similar thread I posted a few weeks ago (asking why it is so hard to get girls to hang out just as friends) I want to know, how do you get a wingwoman? An attractive girl who'll go out with you just as friends, give you constructive pointers and support chatting up other girls and otherwise just make you look good hanging out with her?
TheBigQuestion Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Well I guess you'd just have to befriend them to some extent first. Either way, there's far easier ways to improve your "game" than to go through the trouble of finding a wingwoman. I'd honestly recommend you find another guy who seems to have no trouble gaining the interest of attractive women and to closely observe him in action.
Els Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I think you should first ask yourself WHY a girl would want to do all that for you, especially the 'make you look good' part - she will know that she is essentially there to provoke jealousy in other girls due to her looks. How would you feel if a female friend of yours wanted you to 'hang out with her so that she could attract other guys'?
butterflysil Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 what if females don't wanna approach you because u have a female friend with you?
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 what if females don't wanna approach you because u have a female friend with you? The kind of women he's looking for are the type of women that will want what another woman has. Woman will approach him. I was friends with a younger hot chick from work. we went to the bars together. She was not interested in me romantically. Ok. no problem. Women would come up to me & start up conversations. She didn't like that. They would hit on me. She would cock-block me when they did. NOW we have a problem. That friendship did not end well. But with today's culture of non-exclusive hooking up & FWB he will attract woman if he has a hot chick with him. Just as long as he doesn't act like a love-sick puppy dog & follow her around.
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 How would you feel if a female friend of yours wanted you to 'hang out with her so that she could attract other guys'? It really doesn't work that way. Men will hit on anything in a bar & on everything around last call. My best advice for that particular woman is to wait until 2 hrs before closing then show up to the bar if she's looking for a man to approach.
Engadget Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I have one luckily, a girl that's attracted to me that I'm keeping as friends.
sam light Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 There are plenty of women and men who are always on the lookout to help their male and female friends find dates. They talk you up to potential partners and arrange informal meetings. Be kind to decent people as much as you can. it's from this stock of decent people that your wingperson will come. My best wingwoman was a lady who briefly dated me then broke up with me when Mr Right appeared. I wasn't overly attached and handled the potentially nasty situation pleasantly. She never forgot that.
John K Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 what if females don't wanna approach you because u have a female friend with you? Kidding right?
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 How would you feel if a female friend of yours wanted you to 'hang out with her so that she could attract other guys'? Guys don't work that way. A guy hanging out with a girl will NOT help her attract other guys; more than likely it will scare them off. Besides, it does nothing for the guys she's trying to attract. No guy has ever found a woman attractive because she's hanging out with a guy. I'm not saying it made her UNattractive. I'm just saying it's not a factor that's taken into consideration. Women DO want what other women have on the other hand. Women do find men more attractive when they see them with other women.
sweetjasmine Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Guys don't work that way. A guy hanging out with a girl will NOT help her attract other guys; more than likely it will scare them off. Besides, it does nothing for the guys she's trying to attract. No guy has ever found a woman attractive because she's hanging out with a guy. I'm not saying it made her UNattractive. I'm just saying it's not a factor that's taken into consideration. Women DO want what other women have on the other hand. Women do find men more attractive when they see them with other women. You completely missed her point. I think she meant, "How would you like it if someone pretended to be your friend so they could use you for something?"
USMCHokie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Guys don't work that way. A guy hanging out with a girl will NOT help her attract other guys; more than likely it will scare them off. I actually have to agree with this. When I was out at the bar with Erica (fantastic wingwoman...) a while back, I observed that it seemed to work out somewhat better for me...guys assume that if you're with a girl, that you're together, whereas girls...well, I don't know what they think when they see a guy with another girl...but it doesn't seem to hurt... Anyway, a guy actually approached me later in the night and asked if I was dating Erica, and I said no...I think it wasn't until he saw me kind of doing my own thing on the dance floor that he realized that we weren't together...which seemingly gave him the "green light" to talk to her...on the other hand, some woman practically pulled me away and didn't seem to mind that Erica was there... Sometimes I think she'd be better off if I wasn't there...but then again, I stopped going to bars to pick up women...but rather to have fun with the people I'm there with...
USMCHokie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 You completely missed her point. I think she meant, "How would you like it if someone pretended to be your friend so they could use you for something?" Hmmm, good point...I think the first step for OP is to actually make female friends before recruiting them as wingwomen...
Els Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 You completely missed her point. I think she meant, "How would you like it if someone pretended to be your friend so they could use you for something?" Indeed. I have personally seen men 'up their game' when they find out that another guy is interested in the girl they like... but as personal opinion may differ, let me offer another example. How would the OP feel if a female friend always asks him to fetch and accompany her shopping to get her clothes and mani/pedi for her dates? Or if a female friend wants him to introduce her to his hot friend and try to arrange a lunch for them together? You get the idea...
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 Indeed. I have personally seen men 'up their game' when they find out that another guy is interested in the girl they like... but as personal opinion may differ, let me offer another example. How would the OP feel if a female friend always asks him to fetch and accompany her shopping to get her clothes and mani/pedi for her dates? Or if a female friend wants him to introduce her to his hot friend and try to arrange a lunch for them together? You get the idea... That would suck. But like I said, women and men don't think and operate the same way, so I don't see why this is an issue.
Els Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Oh really? Men and women don't think and operate the same way, so a woman would not be hurt if you aren't interested in her but use her as a 'friend' to go and get other women? Whereas you as a man would? Riiight.....
USMCHokie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Oh really? Men and women don't think and operate the same way, so a woman would not be hurt if you aren't interested in her but use her as a 'friend' to go and get other women? Whereas you as a man would? Riiight..... In recruiting a wingwoman or even a wingman, wouldn't it be prudent to establish that neither is interested in dating the other...? And isn't that usually the case anyway...?
Els Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I have actually never seen anyone use a 'wingperson' of the opposite sex. But anyway. If that is the case, then why would the OP feel that the examples I listed above would suck? Is it not the same thing? Bear in mind, the OP is someone who says he doesn't have any close female friends. Thus he would not even be asking an old friend for a favour. He would be getting to know a woman, for the sole purpose of recruiting her as a 'wingwoman'. Eww.
sweetjasmine Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 He would be getting to know a woman, for the sole purpose of recruiting her as a 'wingwoman'. Eww. That's what it sounded like to me. "Hi, would you like to be my friend? I need some woman to help me get laid, and, well, you're a woman, so you'll do." I don't think many people would appreciate that.
USMCHokie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 I have actually never seen anyone use a 'wingperson' of the opposite sex. ::raises hand:: But anyway. If that is the case, then why would the OP feel that the examples I listed above would suck? Is it not the same thing? You're right in that your examples are also activities in furtherance of the same goal as the wingperson: helping you to meet potential dates. But again, if you are in a strictly platonic relationship with a person, you wouldn't have any ulterior motives in doing them these favors. I think it's just that I'd rather go to a bar and be a wingman than go get a pedicure with you...though that sounds strangely appealing... Bear in mind, the OP is someone who says he doesn't have any close female friends. Thus he would not even be asking an old friend for a favour. He would be getting to know a woman, for the sole purpose of recruiting her as a 'wingwoman'. Eww. Hmmm, this is a point I did not consider...that is rather shady...
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