Cinderella7 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 A guy who works for the same company as I do asked for my number recently and said he would like to take me out to dinner sometime. I'm normally against office romances or dating people from work, but I really like this guy & feel like this definitely has potential. We work in different departments and on different floors, so we don't see each other on a daily or even a weekly basis, so that's not my concern. However, his department is full of younger people (mostly guys) and is VERY gossip-y (there's a running joke that it's like an extension of college or a fraternity). Everyone always tries to get involved in everyone else's personal business, particularly when it comes to dating. I'm young but already have a decent career established, and my professional reputation matters a lot to me, which is why I've avoided dating anyone from the office for a long time. I don't want to become the talk of his department (and believe me, I will be) if word gets out that we went out on a date, let alone begin a relationship. So I know this is premature, considering he hasn't called me yet, but what's the best way to request that we keep things between us as much as possible, particularly in the early stages? I don't want him to think that I'm embarrassed to be dating him, because that has absolutely nothing to do with it. And when's the appropriate time to bring this up? I don't want to freak him out early on or make something into a bigger deal than it has to be.
MrNate Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Hm, this somehow spells potential disaster down the road. But then again, maybe it's just me. Judging by what you wrote, I can only say, it only takes a spark to start a fire.
Author Cinderella7 Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 Hm, this somehow spells potential disaster down the road. But then again, maybe it's just me. Judging by what you wrote, I can only say, it only takes a spark to start a fire. So are you suggesting that I don't go out with him? Or just leave it alone and let people gossip, because it will be a bigger deal if we hide it and then people find out?
MrNate Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 So are you suggesting that I don't go out with him? Or just leave it alone and let people gossip, because it will be a bigger deal if we hide it and then people find out? This is exactly why. This whole thing just sounds messy.
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 If it isn't against company policy then who cares really? So people gossip? So what? Keep it professional (no BJ's in the parking lot) that happened where I worked. LOL!
harmfulsweetz Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 You can't help who you like IMO. Provided it's not against company policy, it should be okay. I wouldn't make any added effort to keep it under wraps, just keep it professional. People may talk, but who cares really? This week's gossip is next week's chippy wrapping is what they say over here in the UK. My friend was sleeping with a guy she worked with, and she was so concerned with what other people would say to her about it, I was just thinking if they say something, they say something. It's their issue, not yours.
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