Pyro Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Corrected. You could learn a thing or two from St. Nick. I have grown up and have passed the bitter stage years ago. Nothing new for me to learn from that.
donnamaybe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Corrected. You could learn a thing or two from St. Nick. Um, Pyro HAS a girlfriend. The other? Maybe one manufactured in Hong Kong...
carhill Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I'm sure we all recognize the situation, but how can it POSSIBLY help when he purposely goes on misandrist websites and immerses himself in the hatefulness therein? All he's doing with that type of activity is prolonging the healing process. Personally, think it hurts the clarity and acceptance process to antagonize one's psyche with 'replays' of one's own pain by exposing oneself purposely to similar situations in other's lives, like on an internet forum. That was why, in another of Wog's threads, where he talked about his therapy process, I suggested he take a vacation from LS, and I'll now add 'other relationship forums', while he's in active therapy. I often see signs of counterproductive dynamics in myself and recognize them in him as well. It seems to me he *has* a lady who is *content* with being *content* with him, so his work is being *content* with that. Hope it works out
St. Nick Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 LMAO @ Pyro. Thanks man. To donnamaybe and Mary3, if you don't like his threads, why do you keep bumping them to the top by responding? If I don't like a thread I just click out of it and move on with my life. Why is that such a hard thing for you two to do? You two have some of the most posts in this thread and you're responsible for it getting bumped while other threads get sent back. Quit posting in it if you don't care for the thread or the threadstarter. Jeez. Is that so difficult? Back on topic, I don't think a woman can be content unless she recognizes her pickiness is causing her unhappiness.
Pyro Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 LMAO @ Pyro. Thanks man. To donnamaybe and Mary3, if you don't like his threads, why do you keep bumping them to the top by responding? If I don't like a thread I just click out of it and move on with my life. Why is that such a hard thing for you two to do? You two have some of the most posts in this thread and you're responsible for it getting bumped while other threads get sent back. Quit posting in it if you don't care for the thread or the threadstarter. Jeez. Is that so difficult? Back on topic, I don't think a woman can be content unless she recognizes her pickiness is causing her unhappiness. way to avoid my reply. You and Woggle have much in common. I agree with you that we should ignore Woggles threads. I am guilty as well, but if everyone can get together and ignore them, then maybe he will stop and hopefully try to help himself.
DadofTwoGirls Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 My sister and her husband have always had loud verbal arguements..but they would back the other one up no matter what at the drop of a dime and they would take a bullet for each other if it called for it..they have been married 15 yrs..they have seemed the closest couple I have known...me and my stbxw NEVER had a loud verbal arguement NEVER...sure a couple of 'oh well' spats but nothing that constitutes 'arguing' and after 17yrs she decided enuff is enuff and left..not sure if that is a general rule but just 2 examples I know of.
donnamaybe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Sounds about right. I mean, even in the example provided, sure some guys will begrudgingly do the dishes - when asked (as if it's a woman's divinely appointed chore so that she should HAVE to ask ). Then MANY guys, in order to never be asked again, will PURPOSELY do a lousy job. I don't know about any OTHER guys, but who wants to eat off dirty dishes? MY guy sees something that needs cleaned and he has the time, he cleans it. It isn't some contest whereby he plays this waiting game to see if I'll do it first. In other words: he's an adult. Two adults in a relationship = contentment. I'll post whenever and wherever I damn well please. As you may note above, I actually have something of value to add considering I'm actually IN a relationship (which is more than I can say for SOME people who think they have any valid input to offer).
Pyro Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 over 20,000 posts on a mssage board. I'll brag to my girl about 20,000 posts on an internet message board. On second thought I'll have sex with her. Slow day at the office is the only reason I'm wasting my time. I wasn't sure if trolls had office jobs.
donnamaybe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Back on topic, I don't think a woman can be content unless she recognizes her pickiness is causing her unhappiness. Pickiness? I guess that's the new buzz word for "having standards." No wonder...
St. Nick Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I'll post whenever and wherever I damn well please. As you may note above, I actually have something of value to add considering I'm actually IN a relationship (which is more than I can say for SOME people who think they have any valid input to offer). You can stick in the threads if you want to. But it's strange that if you have valid points then why haven't you posted any. You've merely made random comments about me and Woggle. Is it possible that you could stay on topic without making personal attacks on other posters? I could make personal attacks too. I could talk about how it's lame for a chick to get over 6,000 posts in less than 2 years on this site. But I won't do that because it would hurt that chick's feelings and she'd feel the need to make some lame retort with a smiley face included. Does anyone have any opinions on why most women can't find contentment? Or is this just a thread for bashing the OP?
donnamaybe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Sounds about right. I mean, even in the example provided, sure some guys will begrudgingly do the dishes - when asked (as if it's a woman's divinely appointed chore so that she should HAVE to ask ). Then MANY guys, in order to never be asked again, will PURPOSELY do a lousy job. I don't know about any OTHER guys, but who wants to eat off dirty dishes? MY guy sees something that needs cleaned and he has the time, he cleans it. It isn't some contest whereby he plays this waiting game to see if I'll do it first. In other words: he's an adult. Two adults in a relationship = contentment. Valid points. And don't delude yourself into thinking someone like YOU could ever hurt my feelings.
ADF Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I don't think that is common at all. People who crave drama and conflict often suffer from serious personality disorders (Borderline Personality Disorder, for example). They are a minority.
Crusoe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Does anyone have any opinions on why most women can't find contentment? Yup, too many boys, not enough men.
St. Nick Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Wow donnamaybe, only one post out of the seven you haven't dedicated to personal attacks. Good job. However, I noticed that almost whenever you post you have the same modus operandi: you make some extremely lame sarcastic comment to someone's post followed by a smiley. Spot on. Um, Pyro HAS a girlfriend. The other? Maybe one manufactured in Hong Kong... I'll post whenever and wherever I damn well please. As you may note above, I actually have something of value to add considering I'm actually IN a relationship (which is more than I can say for SOME people who think they have any valid input to offer). Pickiness? I guess that's the new buzz word for "having standards." No wonder... Valid points. And don't delude yourself into thinking someone like YOU could ever hurt my feelings. You've made around 8 posts so far and most follow your usual pattern: Boring sarcastic comment followed by a smiley. *yawn* I find it hard to take that your "knowledge" seriously. Maybe if you stayed on topic that would be a different thing.
donnamaybe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Does anyone have any opinions on why most women can't find contentment? Yup, too many boys, not enough men. THANK YOU!!!!
donnamaybe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Wow donnamaybe, only one post out of the seven you haven't dedicated to personal attacks. Good job. However, I noticed that almost whenever you post you have the same modus operandi: you make some extremely lame sarcastic comment to someone's post followed by a smiley.only those posts that deserve sarcasm. <---thought I'd make you happy. lol Note: I'm VERY content right now.
espec10001 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 THANK YOU!!!! This girls got a 'TUDE yea yea a 'TUDE.
donnamaybe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 This girls got a 'TUDE yea yea a 'TUDE. And my man LOVES it!
CLC2008 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Does anyone have any opinions on why most women can't find contentment? Or is this just a thread for bashing the OP? I will be finding my contentment when I watch Jesse James's pathetic plea to the public on National TV.
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I don't think being content has anything to do with my STBXW cheating on me. Mostly because she is now living with OM, divorce is almost done & she has come onto me both in person, email & text. I have naughty pictures of herself she sent to me recently also to entice me. She will have sex with me if I allow it. I've told her not until the divorce is final so as not to outright reject her since she seems to really really really need the attention & needs to know I find her attractive still for some reason. That is not lack of contentment, that's bat-chit crazy.
Mr White Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Psychological studies show that women are more "proactive" when it comes to repairing relationships, desiring and encouraging therapy and in general are better "watchers" of the relationship's status. In contrast, men tend to float through relationships and not notice changes in the status unless they are extreme. Researchers hypothesize that this is the reason for most women desiring divorce, prior to men. Yup, anything from the arsenal of pop-psychology to blame it on men . why not just say it? Here, i'll do it for y'all: "Most divorces are initiated by women because most men suck" :rolleyes:
phineas Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 define "proactive". honestly if the guy has no clue there is a problem the woman can't obviously be all the proactive in fixing the relationship.
Mr White Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I'm sure we all recognize the situation, but how can it POSSIBLY help when he purposely goes on misandrist websites and immerses himself in the hatefulness therein? All he's doing with that type of activity is prolonging the healing process. It helps --> when you see everything articulated and spelled out, then it is easier to make up your own mind. Most people can distinguish between the ridiculous and the sensible, and sorting through the hay is a normal first step.
donnamaybe Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 It helps --> when you see everything articulated and spelled out, then it is easier to make up your own mind. Most people can distinguish between the ridiculous and the sensible, and sorting through the hay is a normal first step. I think all it does is cement his belief that woman, as a whole, are horrible creatures.
TheBigQuestion Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I'm also suspicious of this whole "women are proactive in spotting the issues in a relationship and are thus more likely to initiate divorce" thing. It could just as easily mean "women are more likely to become restless in a marriage for no real reason but then project their own failures and insecurities on the man in order to justify her own flightiness." Different perspectives, same end result. As far as divorce goes in particular, maybe women are more likely to initiate divorce because 9 times out of 10, there's more in it for them, and they also have the social support network to make dealing with it far easier.
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