carhill Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 A woman with more than 2 male friends is a skank. Fact. And a man with more than two female friends is.... Lucky?
Opheliaimmortal Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 There's no such thing as a heterosexual man "genuinely friends with a girl". Either he likes her and is secretly trying to have sex with her; or vice versa and she likes him and is secretly trying to have sex with him. That's if they haven't had sex already. A woman with more than 2 male friends is a skank. Fact. Ok then, riddle me this. I'm friends with one of my exes from years ago, we never had sex. We are both in LT relationships and maintain a close friendship despite having dated. And before you bring it up, no, there is no sexual tension there, nor a desire to re-kindle our "romantic" relationship on either end. According to you this is impossible. So how does it exist? Also, according to your logic even a ton of virgins are "skanks"......wait, what?
EasyHeart Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I'm not sure what you're trying to do here. The OP asked what men thought about women who have lots of guys friends. Several men responded with various views, most of which are some variation of "I would have a big problem with it." Now Ophelia is telling us what? That we're lying? That our feelings are wrong? That our feelings are invalid or illegitimate somehow? What exactly are you trying to accomplish?
Els Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 from experience the women I have met with little to no women friends usually come in 2 categories: The really gorgeous woman and the terribly insecure woman. 1) The 'drop dead gorgeous and very sexually attractive' woman (rare) have little to no female friends because they make their female compatriots very angry/catty/jealous not because of being a massive flirt but because her looks alone will pull in the men. Her suitors (and her girl friends suitors) instead become her 'friends'. We all know they don't have a chance so they stick around as 'friends' hoping for the day. 2) The 'terribly insecure and usually has low self esteem' woman may be average to attractive. She flirts with all the men and puts out a sexual vibe/innuendo wherever she goes. This pisses her friends off and they all gang up on her because she is essentially betraying the friendship code by stealing the men underhandedly and with conscious effort . She refers to most men in her life as her 'friends'. She uses them for emotional validation. She does not want to hang around females because her low self esteem prevents her from seeing her peers as equals and they are threatening to her ego. (For more details on this type of woman please see sumdudes thread on girls to avoid and look for the 'flakey flirt') I vote for the 2nd option because rarely have I seen a drop dead gorgeous woman. Also, women of similar attractiveness levels tend to hang with each other. So they tend to cancel each other out when it comes to their boys. You're just generalizing. I have more male friends than female, I'm certainly not drop-dead gorgeous, and I don't flirt with any of them. Why does it have to be a sexual thing? I have 'male' hobbies and I enjoy spending time with people who share my hobbies, so I have more male friends. End of story.
dubs Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 I was just saying that's how I feel. And yes, when female friends of mine begin dating someone, I certainly back off because I know how her new guy would feel. All guys would feel that way if his new girl hangs out with another guy. It would bother me and most guys I know. Not drop off the map, just let them be... and be available if she needs you. Simple really...
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