Cens Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Just need to tell my story. Ugh. I posted about this girl once before here right after the “first” breakup. We crashed hard into each other, eight weeks later it sort of exploded. We broke up and got back together three times that week :-) Lots of emotion both in person and emails. After another week of turmoil it finally seemed to end with “goodbye” On both sides. I was seriously depressed about it and went no contact (she kept texting me) --made it three days before she showed up my door unexpectedly late one night and the affair started over again, only this time “much slower.” Since then I’ve been doing my best, and largely succeeding at calming myself down, but she has been all over the map. Calling me to say she wished I was there, missing me, gushing sentimentalism etc, etc, only to have it dry up and go cold the next day. If I make any mention of the relationship, or ask what she’s thinking she says “she hasn’t thought about us yet and is trying to just let things happen.” She can't seem to go more than about four-five hours without texting me though. I really like this girl, and we have a lot in common--things are great when we are together, but I’m getting a face full of different mixed signals every 12 hours! Friday night she spent a half an hour telling me how much she wanted to be with me (she was out of town) Sunday I’m told “we are friends with benefits lol.” Friends with benefits could be nice, but its not where I am emotionally with this girl. How long would you wait to see if it actually evened out or if its just going to be a crazy ride not worth taking in the long run? Those first two months were amazing.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 she told you you were friends with benefits, i wouldnt wait id get it NOW (assuming you want a relationship with her and not FWB). if she really wants to be with you she will agree to a relationship rather than let you walk away. although i cant imagine telling a guy i wanted to be with that we were just FWB.
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