Katherineos123 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 So my ex and I broke up about 2 years ago, it was difficult at first, but we managed to maintain a pretty close friendship... But now things are a little different. The last few months, we have been hanging out alone a couple times a month, and talking for sometimes 40 minutes at a time on the phone... Both of those things are not out of the ordinary, but one night when we went out he ended up staying the night at my house, and he slept in my bed (an all too familiar place) ... nothing happened, no sex, no kisses, no cuddling... but it felt really good to me. About a month or so later, we went out yet again, and he stayed over, this time we cuddled a little bit and I fell asleep on his chest. It was wonderful. All along this time, he has said some things relating to him being jealous when he hears about me dating, or sees me with another guy... And also has made reference to some of our more "intimate" moments... For example, last night we went out, and we drove by a beach where we once snuck away from at a party to go hook up he brought it up jokingly saying "remember that time??" and did the ole elbow jab... kind of strange thing for an ex to say to a "friend" ? So later that night we went back to his apartment, neither of us were drunk or anything, and he invited me to stay over... which he has never done before. He actually ended up getting sick (not quite sure what i should make of THAT! ) So I didnt end up staying. Needless to say, Im a little confused. I dont know what this guy is thinking or what I should do, if anything.... Ive never gotten over him, and Im pretty sure he knows that... but does he still have feelings for me?
lofi_tokyo Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 It sounds like he may be interested again... or just bored and needs entertainment. How did you two break up? Have you always been on good terms? Also, if you went for it - and tried making things work again - if he took off a week/month later, how would you feel?
Author Katherineos123 Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 Hi Tokyo! Thanks for taking the time to respond... To be completely honest, hes not the type of guy to "get bored" in the context in which youre using it... I mean, since we've split, I had one brief serious'ish relationship, but he hasnt even so much as dated any other girl, and Im sure he's had women take interest, hes very attractive and intellgent, and personable... but needless to say, also very picky, and nothing he does is by accident. What you said lastly is exactly what Im worried about... If we did decide to try it again, and he left me, I know I would be devastated... It took me a LONG time to heal the first time, and Im sure it would be just as (if not more) painful the second time around. I also wouldnt want to ruin the "friendship" that we do have... althought Im pretty sure that if we've already dont everything to f*** that up, and if we've made it THIS far! Haha. The break up wasnt particularly "bad" it was just bad timing for us to be together at that time, I had gotten out of a long term, awful, relationship which had done a number on me, and admittedly, towards the end... I wasnt very good to him. But we always stayed on good terms... Ive told him recently that if there was one thing in life I wish I could take back and change, it would be that summer, and my behavior... Which is 100% true. Since then, Ive become a much more independent, healthier, and overall happier person. I just wish I met him now. My gut is telling me that there is still some residual feelings there on both ends, but I think both of us are scared to really act upon them. Maybe Im romanticizing this a little too much, but in a way, I almost feel as if the fact that we simply slept next to each other, and there was no sex involved, is almost more intimate to me... Its as if he wasnt there just to get in my pants or for any other ulterior motive other than a desire to be next to me.
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