Lakeside_runner Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Certainly, the more 'sophisticated' the man is the more attractive he is. I'm not talking about cheap "mid-life crisis wannabe sophisticated" like buying a Porsche etc. I'm talking about men who genuinely enjoy the pleasures of life. Plain simply put in one sentence - there are guys for whom a cup of coffee will do and there are guys who really enjoy espresso . Assume as well that the guy has a good personality is a good listener/conversationalist knows how to make a lady comfortable around him. So, how big of a bonus is it for you girls if a guy for example - knows his way around wine and/or whisky - knows his way around gourmet cuisine (and cooks of course) - knows art, history etc. I could continue the list but you get the idea So, comments? Please.
alphamale Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 So, how big of a bonus is it for you girls if a guy for example - knows his way around wine and/or whisky - knows his way around gourmet cuisine (and cooks of course) - knows art, history etc. I could continue the list but you get the idea you should add: - knows his way around the female body
Author Lakeside_runner Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 you should add: - knows his way around the female body Yes, that too. But it's not all about sex.
jthorne Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 None of that means anything to me. None of it. My man is ambitious, makes a good living, and is responsible with his money while not being cheap. And he can hold his own in a conversation. And he is funny as hell. And he would laugh his azz off if you told him he needed to know wine, Monet, or truffles to impress me or women like me.
marsle85 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 To me, the most important quality in reference to a man's sophistication is the ability for growth. A guy can talk about whiskey for an hour, but if he's unwilling to try new things, and want to learn? He's sophisticated and...stuck. I'm not saying he has to be the biggest fan of ballet, but TRY IT. Or going to museums, or experiencing new foods? So necessary, and so appreciated.
alphamale Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 are you talking about a man like the one in the dos equis beer commercials? "stay thirsty my friends"
alphamale Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Yes, that too. But it's not all about sex. ahh but a man can be all sophisticated and stuff about stuff outside the bedroom but if he can't give her good sex its all for naught.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Certainly, the more 'sophisticated' the man is the more attractive he is. I'm not talking about cheap "mid-life crisis wannabe sophisticated" like buying a Porsche etc. I'm talking about men who genuinely enjoy the pleasures of life. Plain simply put in one sentence - there are guys for whom a cup of coffee will do and there are guys who really enjoy espresso . Assume as well that the guy has a good personality is a good listener/conversationalist knows how to make a lady comfortable around him. So, how big of a bonus is it for you girls if a guy for example - knows his way around wine and/or whisky - knows his way around gourmet cuisine (and cooks of course) - knows art, history etc. I could continue the list but you get the idea So, comments? Please. um, its not lol. but thats just me.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 None of that means anything to me. None of it. My man is ambitious, makes a good living, and is responsible with his money while not being cheap. And he can hold his own in a conversation. And he is funny as hell. I'm not saying HE HAS TO Everything you have mentioned above we assume that he has - this is how it should be. What I have mentioned are just little things, cherries on top of a cake. And he would laugh his azz off if you told him he needed to know wine, Monet, or truffles to impress me or women like me. I'm sorry but this sounds absurd. Both you telling him that he should know these things and him laughing at you.
sweetjasmine Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 So, how big of a bonus is it for you girls if a guy for example - knows his way around wine and/or whisky - knows his way around gourmet cuisine (and cooks of course) - knows art, history etc. I could continue the list but you get the idea So, comments? Please. Those specific things you listed? Yeah, that'd be a bonus for me because I enjoy wine, good food/cooking/baking, art, and history. They're among my interests, so I'd consider it a bonus to be with someone who shares them and likes cooking or going to museums, the opera, or the ballet with me. If I didn't like those things and found them boring, his interest in them would be pretty irrelevant.
Woggle Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 I think it is good to appreciate both common tastes and finer tastes. I am one of those people who can appreciate a fine gourmet restaurant and at the same time appreciate the local dive that serves great burgers.
alphamale Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 some women's idea of a "sophisticated man" is one who wears clean underwear and matching socks
marsle85 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 are you talking about a man like the one in the dos equis beer commercials? "stay thirsty my friends" I'd date that guy, haha. ahh but a man can be all sophisticated and stuff about stuff outside the bedroom but if he can't give her good sex its all for naught. Very true. Mmm, a man in a suit only makes me wanna take it off.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 You guys are overanalyzing the question, taking it to the extreme (like 'talking about whisky for hours' - why would he do that?). It's as simple as - a guy cooks for you and it can be a simple edible pasta dish or a halibut bourguignon and a chocolate fondant with a fresh raspberry butter sauce for desert. Bare with me for a second. Yes - yay! He cooked for you and the most important thing is that he is there with you and you both have a great time. AND THIS IS ASSUMED in both above described cases. But - if you had a choice - which one would you chose?
Woggle Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Sometimes simple can be better. I don't like all that fancy crap in my food.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 some women's idea of a "sophisticated man" is one who wears clean underwear and matching socks Geeezzz.... ::banging my had against my desk:: the mankind is dying...
Author Lakeside_runner Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 I think it is good to appreciate both common tastes and finer tastes. I am one of those people who can appreciate a fine gourmet restaurant and at the same time appreciate the local dive that serves great burgers. Oh, sure. We assume he's not a snob.
Confusedalways Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Big bonus, of course! I love when a man knows those types of things.
sweetjasmine Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 You guys are overanalyzing the question, taking it to the extreme (like 'talking about whisky for hours' - why would he do that?). It's as simple as - a guy cooks for you and it can be a simple edible pasta dish or a halibut bourguignon and a chocolate fondant with a fresh raspberry butter sauce for desert. Bare with me for a second. Yes - yay! He cooked for you and the most important thing is that he is there with you and you both have a great time. AND THIS IS ASSUMED in both above described cases. But - if you had a choice - which one would you chose? If he made halibut bourguignon and a chocolate fondnant with raspberry butter sauce, I'd be hovering and looking over his shoulder, going, "Teach me teach me teach me"...
St. Nick Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 are you talking about a man like the one in the dos equis beer commercials? "stay thirsty my friends" I love that guy! "He's a lover not a fighter, but he's also a fighter so don't get any ideas!" Some of my idiot friends actually think that dude exists and tried contacting the beer company so they could actually meet him.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 are you talking about a man like the one in the dos equis beer commercials? "stay thirsty my friends" :lmao: This is an awesome commercial! Haha, "he's personality if so magnetic that he can't wear credit cards on him." :lmao:
brainygirl Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I think that a certain amount of sophistication is desirable. I wouldn't presume to TELL a man what he had to be interested in. But I was recently on a first date (no second date per me) with a guy who could only really talk about 1) his ex and his kid, 2) his online role playing and how he sells his personas and 3) star trek books. I am not opposed to any of those things, but his focus was so narrow that while he said he liked movies, he couldn't talk different actors (bruce campbell baby) or directors (sam rami rocks). He said he likes scifi, but couldn't talk about an franchises or series. He didn't know the difference between a book and a graphic novel. And he couldn't talk much about anything else either. Talked a bit about jobs and it became clear he'd lied about his. He was completely ignorant about politics or even local stuff. I don't know if he was actually unintelligent, but he certainly came off that way. I'd say, get some interests. Have them be things you actually like to do and talk about and learn about, and that you will probably attract women into your orbit who are into the same things.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 I'd say, get some interests. Have them be things you actually like to do and talk about and learn about, and that you will probably attract women into your orbit who are into the same things. I assume you meant his in general Oh I got my hobbies... plenty of them. Thanks everyone for their replies.
marsle85 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 "His sweat smells like cologne" "He wouldn't mind showing his feminine side... if he had one"
kimbop Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 He sounds gay. As a woman with lots of gay friends who are my eternal dates to operas, classical music concerts, fine restaurants, theater, art shows, wine tasting, and what-not. Yup. Add in cooking, interior decorating, therapist to bad dates, and fashion connaisseur, you have yourself my gay friends (not necessary all gays).
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