philife Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Ok i'll give you the story first, me and my ex are both 24 and had been together for 2 1/2 years she recently ended it 3 months ago. i was devistated and couldnt understand why she wouldnt give me a second chance to show her how much i was willing to change for her. but any way she wouldnt give me a second chance and i found out she had started seeing another guy who she worked with a month later, now of course im pissed off because her moving on so soon made me feel like our relationship ment nothing to her. 3 months down the line and i still miss her, of course i do this girl i thought i would be with the rest of my life then pretty much out of the blue she ends it. but although i miss her and would give anything to have her back with me i have accepted that she has gone and probably will never come back. im here because a friend of mine was out last night and seen her out with this guy and told me today. the thing is where they were is a place where i go alot i mean when its sunny and if people want to go for a few drinks in the sun its where every one goes. I dont know how im going to act if i ever see them together because although i know the problems in our relationship where down to both of us i dont think it would have ended if this guy wasnt around and i partly blame him. i dont think they did anything when we were together but i think she might have had him lined up as a replacment, he might have been coming onto her, and at the time when we split i was going threw a very hard time and couldnt of been very appealing especially if this guy was hovering around. so yes i half blame this guy for the break up and even if he was'nt he's still with the woman i love. i have had no contact with my ex for over a month now but when my friend mentioned he had seen them i started to think what if i was there, how would i have acted? and i think there would have been a strong possibility that i would have kicked off maybe even started a fight with this guy (im not usually a violent person at all) Now what im thinking of doing is giving her a call and saying that maybe it isnt such a good idea for her to bring this guy out when there is a possibility of me being there because i dont know what i would do. i dont want to act like a dick but its how i feel and the other thing is i dont want her to know that im botherd about her any more. what do you think people, please give me your advice! thanks.
lost86 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 i'm in the same boat mate, don't actually know if my ex is seeing someone new (think she is and if she isnt i know she will be soon) and im dreading the day of seeing her with someone new.. wouldnt ever call her and say what your planning on saying, just deal with it, when you see them together just give no reaction, swallow any thoughts, hold back the urge to do or say anything if she approaches you just keep your cool, make light conversation then make your excuses and get back to your mates, just try and ride it out as best as possible and do what you have said yourself and dont let her know it bothers you
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