ipnez Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 (edited) I need to give a little background before telling about this little incident. I am a forty four year old man, married with a nine year old daughter. I need to say three things before I tell you what happen; firstly, I am genuinely happily married and my wife is wonderfully sexy. Secondly, I am a teacher mostly of 16 to 19 year olds but also a teacher of adults in a university. Thirdly, I have been trying quite hard to get fitter and lose weight. I’ve been quite successful; from 90kgs I now weight 75. My wife really appreciates this and loves my slimmer, more muscular body (which is a great incentive to do more). Moreover, a few weeks ago, a young attractive female colleague said (after a few drinks) “you’re really hot now you’ve lost some weight”. Wow. In connection with my university work, one of my female students contacted me and said she and her friend would like some private tuition before their exam next week. We agreed a place and rate and we meet yesterday evening. M turned up first, she was the woman who contacted me. She is very attractive, early thirties, pretty, blonde, great figure. In any case, we got down to some work looking at a question. Her friend A then turned up. She is one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. Slim, elegant, dark hair with eyes that are utterly captivating. It wasn’t easy to concentrate; any of those who are teachers might have had the occasional experience of students, apparently enraptured by your words staring into your eyes. She did just that. Well, we finished the lesson and they paid me (I'm an educational tart). M had to return to work but A had had an exam that day and came with me for a drink in the pub nearby. One drink turned into a few and we had a lot of fun. Our journeys home coincided for most of the route and we travelled together by Tube. When my stop came she kissed me twice. One simple kiss on the lips and another, she slipped her tongue into my mouth. I got off the train and went home. This was probably the most erotic experience outside my marriage. I have to think, would I try to take this further? No, I cannot. The price is too high. I even find fantasising about A difficult. I would love too, of course, but, it would destroy my marriage which would be catastrophic for three of us. And, beautiful as A is, I cannot imagine that sex with her would be better than it is with my wife. It is very pleasant for me to be middle aged and have such a beautiful woman attracted to me. Edited May 23, 2010 by ipnez
Spark1111 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Ipnez......what are you doing? Do you think these women are attracted to you because you have become fit? Or is it that you are the teacher? Would they have flirted with you when heavier? Or if you were NOT the teacher? How would you feel if your wife was slipped tongue while out with friends or colleagues? How would you feel if it was from someone who had something to gain, like better grades or better position, from your wife? C'mon.....you know the answer.
jenifer1972 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Don't be naive. Anyone with HALF a brain doesn't need any extra tutoring after class. These women set this up and it went swimmingly for them. You need to avoid any other contact with these women where you are alone with them. Just tell them, "read the chapters, do the study questions and you will do fine. If you need help, I have some student tutors who can get you up to speed." Let them prey on someone else, because that is what it is. In cases like this, it is the professor who gets the punishment. If I were your wife, I would be PISSED....
FitChick Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Make sure you wear a wedding ring and mention your wife and daughter frequently.
hopesndreams Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Don't be naive. Anyone with HALF a brain doesn't need any extra tutoring after class. These women set this up and it went swimmingly for them. You need to avoid any other contact with these women where you are alone with them. Just tell them, "read the chapters, do the study questions and you will do fine. If you need help, I have some student tutors who can get you up to speed." Let them prey on someone else, because that is what it is. In cases like this, it is the professor who gets the punishment. If I were your wife, I would be PISSED.... If I was your W, I'd want to know about it. Have you thought about telling her? You're weak. What is missing inside of you for you to take this woman, who you lusted after, to a pub?
txsilkysmoothe Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 This story is DEPRESSING! A man who knows he has a sexy loving wife who loved and desired him even when he was overweight. He enjoys GREAT sex with his wife and YET: He entertains the thought of risking it all for sex with a stranger. He improves his appearance and looks for someone NEW to stroke his ego! Shameful and Very Sad!
rewe4reel Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Ipnez, you got some pretty good bashing so far by some of the ladies at LS! If you're still reading...I can sympathize with the rush you got out of all this. It actually sounds like the woman on the train was the aggressor. This type of thing is why setting boundaries is so important to protect your marriage. Once you start having a few drinks with the attractive female, "stuff happens" even if you didn't intend for it to happen. I'm not quite sure this whole thing was a "set up" by these two women, though. But, if you did want to have an affair--and I'm not suggesting it's a good idea--it would not be a good idea to pursue one with a student, in a situation where another student is her friend/"witness." I'm a little older than you (50) and of course from time to time it's fun to fantasize about being with a different, younger, tighter body. Anyone would be lying if they said they didn't have these kind of fantasies from time to time. But you took this thing way too far, unfortunately. Or let it go way too far. Part of the fantasy scenario is that you could somehow have sex with the beautiful other woman and it would be wonderful, and there would be absolutely no repercussions, either personally or professionally. We all know that's very rarely the case, if ever, but that's what makes this a "fantasy." Not just the part where you actually get to have sex with the other woman; the part where nothing bad happens afterwards. You now have a quite difficult decision to make. Do you keep your mouth shut, hope these women keep their mouths shut, bury this forever? Or, do you tell your wife? You do realize that having drinks and kissing this woman would be regarded as unfaithfulness to your wife, right? It's not sex but kissing is still physical contact. So the problem is if you're honest and tell your wife what happened, you will be facing a pretty serious sh*tstorm. If you don't tell, but your wife finds out eventually, the storm will probably be even worse. And if either of the women drop a dime on you, it could have professional consequences. It might help you to schedule an appointment with an individual counselor to try to figure out why you let yourself get into this position in the first place. Good luck, you sound like a pretty good guy going through somewhat of a midlife crisis. Don't let it wreck your marriage.
sweetjasmine Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 It wasn’t easy to concentrate; any of those who are teachers might have had the occasional experience of students, apparently enraptured by your words staring into your eyes. She did just that. Yes, that means they're enamored with your authority and power, and if you let anything happen, you're abusing your position. It doesn't matter that she's in her early 30s and not 17. Well, we finished the lesson and they paid me (I'm an educational tart). M had to return to work but A had had an exam that day and came with me for a drink in the pub nearby. Going out drinking alone with one of your students is also a line you should never, ever have crossed. This was probably the most erotic experience outside my marriage. Outside your marriage is right. I have to think, would I try to take this further? No, I cannot. But you didn't stop it from happening at all, either. It is very pleasant for me to be middle aged and have such a beautiful woman attracted to me. How pleasant would it be for you if your wife had a hot younger stud - one of her students - sticking his tongue down her throat? How pleasant would it be if getting caught fooling around and drinking with a student put your job in jeopardy? This story is DEPRESSING! Yeah, no kidding.
secretlady76 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 I need to give a little background before telling about this little incident. I am a forty four year old man, married with a nine year old daughter. I need to say three things before I tell you what happen; firstly, I am genuinely happily married and my wife is wonderfully sexy. Secondly, I am a teacher mostly of 16 to 19 year olds but also a teacher of adults in a university. Thirdly, I have been trying quite hard to get fitter and lose weight. I’ve been quite successful; from 90kgs I now weight 75. My wife really appreciates this and loves my slimmer, more muscular body (which is a great incentive to do more). Moreover, a few weeks ago, a young attractive female colleague said (after a few drinks) “you’re really hot now you’ve lost some weight”. Wow. In connection with my university work, one of my female students contacted me and said she and her friend would like some private tuition before their exam next week. We agreed a place and rate and we meet yesterday evening. M turned up first, she was the woman who contacted me. She is very attractive, early thirties, pretty, blonde, great figure. In any case, we got down to some work looking at a question. Her friend A then turned up. She is one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. Slim, elegant, dark hair with eyes that are utterly captivating. It wasn’t easy to concentrate; any of those who are teachers might have had the occasional experience of students, apparently enraptured by your words staring into your eyes. She did just that. Well, we finished the lesson and they paid me (I'm an educational tart). M had to return to work but A had had an exam that day and came with me for a drink in the pub nearby. One drink turned into a few and we had a lot of fun. Our journeys home coincided for most of the route and we travelled together by Tube. When my stop came she kissed me twice. One simple kiss on the lips and another, she slipped her tongue into my mouth. I got off the train and went home. This was probably the most erotic experience outside my marriage. I have to think, would I try to take this further? No, I cannot. The price is too high. I even find fantasising about A difficult. I would love too, of course, but, it would destroy my marriage which would be catastrophic for three of us. And, beautiful as A is, I cannot imagine that sex with her would be better than it is with my wife. It is very pleasant for me to be middle aged and have such a beautiful woman attracted to me. Why have you tried to get fitter and lose weight by the way?! Only interested in your reason behind this.... Mmmm, it's so very easy when someone who you find attractive makes it clear to you that they fancy you. It's so easy to get caught up in it, because it makes you feel special, it makes you feel good, it makes you feel desired. I'm afraid it isn't until afterwards you think 'What the hell was that all about' and also start to think of all the things you could lose if it was to a) carry on or b) get exposed. If you're sensible, you will avoid being in this situation again and avoid the persuasive nature of this woman. Don't be weak, otherwise you will get into very hot water. However, I can understand how addictive this type of situation can be. You will be thankful you didn't let it go further though, I promise you that........Good luck.....
You Go Girl Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 ok. You found out you "still got it". Now what? Are you going to need 'verification' of your manhood outside your marriage again next month, week, or year? I've known a few cocky profs that hit on me while married or getting a divorce. The ego trip of profs can be huge. Problem is, they come to depend on it, feel entitled. Keep it in the imagination only. Go bury your head in Richard Russo's Risk Pool. And give that wife a really deserving passionate kiss when you get home tomorrow. She's earned it. Those women haven't.
Author ipnez Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 (edited) I thought I should say that what I am certainly guilty of is having an ego. And, I imagine that, most of us find that the occassional incident that massages this pleasant. I will not try to take this further. In twenty years of marriage I have never been unfaithful and, even now, do not have that wish. Some responses are a little excessive. I was kissed, I didn't initiate anything and went home straight after - we didn't hang around snogging - the event was over in seconds. I enjoyed the sensation and and boost to my ego but don't get the idea that I took this woman in my arms and returned her kiss - I didn't. I must stress again, I didn't initiate anything and her kiss was a complete surprise. I have often spent social time with my students, hell, that's not so strange. And to suggest that a 30 year old woman is incapable of looking after herself seems odd to me. Maybe I am naive, and she wants to seduce me so that she can find out the questions in the exam! As regards the suggestion that I should not have tutored these women, the fact is that they are resit students who had not attend the lectures or my seminars. They offered to pay me for some help. If you think that accepting money for doing extra work is wrong, I can say nothing to explain. But, this is the way I earn my living. Most offensive though is the suggestion that I made an effort to lose weight so that I could have sex with other women. No, I lost weight because I was overweight and wanted to be healthier. The biggest bonus was the reaction of my wife. I have never looked for other woman and did not on this occassion. Had this happened to my wife and she had been kissed by someone sexy, that would be fine. If she then gone to bed with them that would a problem. I confess that I will almost certainly not mention this to my wife (for at least another 20 years) and I confess that I shall enjoy this memory. The more smuggly moralistic of you maybe should consider whether you have already or are capable of twenty years of faithfully being in the same relationship. Edited May 24, 2010 by ipnez
secretlady76 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I thought I should say that what I am certainly guilty of is having an ego. And, I imagine that, most of us find that the occassional incident that massages this pleasant. I will not try to take this further. In twenty years of marriage I have never been unfaithful and, even now, do not have that wish. Some responses are a little excessive. I was kissed, I didn't initiate anything and went home straight after - we didn't hang around snogging - the event was over in seconds. I enjoyed the sensation and and boost to my ego but don't get the idea that I took this woman in my arms and returned her kiss - I didn't. I must stress again, I didn't initiate anything and her kiss was a complete surprise. I have often spent social time with my students, hell, that's not so strange. And to suggest that a 30 year old woman is incapable of looking after herself seems odd to me. Maybe I am naive, and she wants to seduce me so that she can find out the questions in the exam! As regards the suggestion that I should not have tutored these women, the fact is that they are resit students who had not attend the lectures or my seminars. They offered to pay me for some help. If you think that accepting money for doing extra work is wrong, I can say nothing to explain. But, this is the way I earn my living. Most offensive though is the suggestion that I made an effort to lose weight so that I could have sex with other women. No, I lost weight because I was overweight and wanted to be healthier. The biggest bonus was the reaction of my wife. I have never looked for other woman and did not on this occassion. Had this happened to my wife and she had been kissed by someone sexy, that would be fine. If she then gone to bed with them that would a problem. I confess that I will almost certainly not mention this to my wife (for at least another 20 years) and I confess that I shall enjoy this memory. The more smuggly moralistic of you maybe should consider whether you have already or are capable of twenty years of faithfully being in the same relationship. Firstly I did not make that suggestion, just simply asked why you lost weight. You simply assumed that is what I thought. It is not uncommon for people who are unhappy to lose weight and sometimes the result of this is that people pay them more attention, NOT the reason for losing weight. Also, we are not smug most of us are in fact speaking from experience, I am afraid people will write harsh things here, but not to be unkind, it is to be honest and realisitic and it actually in the long run makes total sense. If you read any of my threads you will see I was in a very similar situation to you and people were harsh to me and thank God they were.......I wouldn't have had such a lucky escape otherwise!!!!!
xxoo Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 You went on a date with another woman and shared a parting kiss!!!! You speak as if the kiss "just happened," and there was nothing you could do to prevent it. But the truth is, you made a series of choices that led to that kiss. You went out drinking, alone, with the attractive student who you gazed into your eyes, enraptured with your words. Do you really not see the boundaries you crossed? If you do not recognize and accept responsibility for your part in this situation, how will you guarantee it won't happen again? Or are you ok with it happening again, as long as it does lead to sex? You say you would be ok with your wife doing the same--but you have no intention of telling her what you did. The important thing is, is she ok with what you did? It sounds like the answer is no. If you want to know if a behavior is infidelity, ask your spouse.
Author ipnez Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 Firstly, secretlady, I wasn't referring to you and your question and response were perfectly fair. There were a few other coming from people standing on high horses. Secondly, it's amazing how things can be interpreted. I honestly thought that this was an innocent incident and certainly not one I designed. It seems strange that having a drink with a woman is a date, for me, I can (and do) enjoy the company of women (as well as men) with no sexual designs. It isn't unusual to be kissed chastedly after spending time with a woman. This wasn't a chaste kiss but it came as a surprise and I did not respond. Now, I am riding the pleasure of a little memory of a boost to my ego. The weak point is,of course, that I do not want to tell my wife. The reason is, I fear she would react like most of you have. This is a poor reason I know. If my wife spent an evening with a man who flattered her ego and invited her to bed but she came home to me I would be very pleased for me and for her. For me, because she came home to me and, for her, because she I would imagine that her self esteem would be boosted a little. I didn't expect this level of hostility. It stikes me that my respondents are have a "holier than thou" attitude. I'm far from a perfect husband or man and my, unwillingness to tell my wife is reprehensible, but my god, I am a bit shocked. It's easy to criticise others and that's probably what these forums are for. I should have guessed that.
reboot Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 On LS you learn to take the good with the bad. Now I am not taking the side of the "morally smug", however, I just have to say, I have never in my life been kissed when I was unwilling. I applaud that you have never cheated, I applaud that you didn't let it go any further, and that you went straight home to your wife. But I'd do a little self examination. You allowed this to happen. You may have indeed been surprised, but you were willing.
xxoo Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 It seems strange that having a drink with a woman is a date, for me, I can (and do) enjoy the company of women (as well as men) with no sexual designs. . Sure, me too (the company of men, that is). But your story isn't one of enjoying drinks with a platonic friend or coworker: Her friend A then turned up. She is one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen. Slim, elegant, dark hair with eyes that are utterly captivating. It wasn’t easy to concentrate; any of those who are teachers might have had the occasional experience of students, apparently enraptured by your words staring into your eyes. She did just that.. You were obviously attracted to her. She isn't someone you know well as a friend to be sharing a drink. You had trouble concentrating when she stared into your eyes, enraptured by your words. And then you went out alone together for drinks. That is a date.
Steadfast Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I didn't expect this level of hostility. It stikes me that my respondents are have a "holier than thou" attitude. I'm far from a perfect husband or man and my, unwillingness to tell my wife is reprehensible, but my god, I am a bit shocked. It's easy to criticise others and that's probably what these forums are for. I should have guessed that. It is human nature to get defensive and angry when we're wrong, and you are mate. Top to bottom. Everything you wrote, from sexy students at school and in pubs to your sexy wife at home smacks of deeper issues. I'm guessing that the need for increased sex appeal was the motivation behind your weight loss too. Bottom line, you've got some problems but you know what? Deep down, you know it. That's why you posted. A bit of mid-life crisis is my guess, combined with a fear of mortality. Toss in some entitlement and self-esteem issues and you're getting warmer. For the most part, the regular posters here are insightful types that in many cases have lived (or are living) through one side of infidelity. My advice is to listen and take heed; what you're doing and how you're doing it is wrong. If you can justify what you've already done, it's a short process to justify more. That's how it works, that's the trap. Be warned. You are a married man, with children. You are not entitled to this. Having a healthy ego is normal and in most cases, a good thing. I'm sure your wife is happy that you are fit and attractive, and at some level is even pleased that others find you attractive too. But, acting on that (which you've done, albeit in limited scope) is mental and emotional abuse. To your wife, family and finally, to you. Be content with the rich blessings already granted to you. They were not earned. They are gifts.
Cinnamon2000 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 When my stop came she kissed me twice. One simple kiss on the lips and another, she slipped her tongue into my mouth. I got off the train and went home. This was probably the most erotic experience outside my marriage. I have to think, would I try to take this further? No, I cannot. The price is too high. I even find fantasising about A difficult. I would love too, of course, but, it would destroy my marriage which would be catastrophic for three of us. And, beautiful as A is, I cannot imagine that sex with her would be better than it is with my wife. It is very pleasant for me to be middle aged and have such a beautiful woman attracted to me. The questions you need to ask yourself are: 1) Now that you have cheated, flirted and let some girl kiss you, are you going to come clean to your wife about it? 2) Are you going to drop her (them) completely or are you planning to play with fire and see them again? Your answers to these two questions will determine what kind of person you really are.
jnj express Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 hey ipnez---were you just dropped on this planet You broke one hel* of a lot of educ. morality clauses---College prof. or not---you don't go out drinking with your students----you don't go riding around with them---you are SPOSE to be on a different level, as an educator---You have a duty to be above and beyond your students---you wanna mess around, wait till they have graduated. I assume you are in Eng. or on the continent---and not here in the states----over here you get caught doing that sort of thing---kiss your job---bye-bye. And don't tell us you were ravaged----YOU COULDN'T HAVE BEEN KISSED---if you weren't drinking and riding around with the girl. You actually wanted to see what might happen---DON'T EVEN TRY TO SPIN IT ANOTHER WAY. A properly married man would not have been drinking, and riding around with a younger chick. But I guess you are above that, right---you don't care about the future of your child, right!!! I strongly suggest you tell your wife---cuz if this gets back to your wife, you are in for much worse if she doesn't find out from you. Also how do you know these girls arn't setting you up----but you are to self centered, and into yourself at this point---to even see it coming. Be wary----you might not like the result and consequences of those 2 kisses---that YOU CLAIM YOU HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH
bentnotbroken Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 I thought I should say that what I am certainly guilty of is having an ego. And, I imagine that, most of us find that the occassional incident that massages this pleasant. I will not try to take this further. In twenty years of marriage I have never been unfaithful and, even now, do not have that wish. Some responses are a little excessive. I was kissed, I didn't initiate anything and went home straight after - we didn't hang around snogging - the event was over in seconds. I enjoyed the sensation and and boost to my ego but don't get the idea that I took this woman in my arms and returned her kiss - I didn't. I must stress again, I didn't initiate anything and her kiss was a complete surprise. I have often spent social time with my students, hell, that's not so strange. And to suggest that a 30 year old woman is incapable of looking after herself seems odd to me. Maybe I am naive, and she wants to seduce me so that she can find out the questions in the exam! As regards the suggestion that I should not have tutored these women, the fact is that they are resit students who had not attend the lectures or my seminars. They offered to pay me for some help. If you think that accepting money for doing extra work is wrong, I can say nothing to explain. But, this is the way I earn my living. Most offensive though is the suggestion that I made an effort to lose weight so that I could have sex with other women. No, I lost weight because I was overweight and wanted to be healthier. The biggest bonus was the reaction of my wife. I have never looked for other woman and did not on this occassion. Had this happened to my wife and she had been kissed by someone sexy, that would be fine. If she then gone to bed with them that would a problem. I confess that I will almost certainly not mention this to my wife (for at least another 20 years) and I confess that I shall enjoy this memory. The more smuggly moralistic of you maybe should consider whether you have already or are capable of twenty years of faithfully being in the same relationship. Did you toes get stepped on? And yes there are quite a few of us(nothing smug, just a fact) who did remain faithful.
Fight4Me Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Nobody here is being intentionally smug or "holier than thou." I read a lot of concern for you because this one indiscretion could end up leading to something more (not necessarily with the same woman). People here DO care because they've seen scenarios exactly like this turn into so much more, either as the one who experienced it themselves or as victims of spouses who thought as you did. I believe you when you say you love your wife, that she's wonderful and sexy, and obviously loves you unconditionally. I can tell you that it wouldn't be the kiss that would be so painful to learn about, but that you, however unintentionally, made another woman your priority, your focus of interest, if even for just an hour or two. This is going to sound cliche', but a lot of women (usually the insecure ones) get a kick out of seducing married men, making them feel more powerful and "better than" the wife. I've known two such women in my life, one who is my best friend but is now a completely different person after extensive counseling (otherwise, she wouldn't be my friend). I'm kind of getting off on a tangent, but just wanted to say that there are some women out there like that. I am in the camp that says you should tell your wife. Now, the reason I say this is that I can attest that being told about even the tiniest of slip-ups really helps build stronger trust and respect. Not only that, but because you two have such an obviously great partnership, you both can team up on this together to prevent any possible fallout or future problems. It also totally sucks the fantasy and draw of it right out of the air. While it may be inconvenient, you may need to make some changes in your tutoring locations, hours, etc. And while it may be common to socialize with students, it doesn't mean YOU should. It only takes one incident to start you down the road to destruction. Bottom line, just protect yourself, and guard your heart and mind and marriage with your life. While a lot of people assume it takes a bad marriage and a husband or wife who has let themselves go, it's truly just an assumption. In fact, I think many of those who are happy and content can let their guards down because they assume they are impervious to the seduction of the flesh. Assume nothing about yourself. I'm a BW and while I can't fathom crossing any lines, I choose to set personal, unwavering boundaries as an added security measure. You can never be too careful, imho.
xxoo Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 The weak point is,of course, that I do not want to tell my wife. The reason is, I fear she would react like most of you have. This is a poor reason I know.. If my H came home with the story you are telling here...with all the details about how hot this woman is, and how she stared into your eyes, and how you went out for drinks together, and she kissed you....and how much you enjoyed the ego boost, but insisted you held no responsibility in the situation...hell yeah, I'd be angry! And justifiably so. On the other hand, if my H came home feeling guilty about his error in judgment, and told me how this happened and he didn't expect it to happen....if he told me he could see where he made his errors in judgment, and would have more appropriate boundaries so that it would never happen again.....my reaction would be very, very different. Can you see the difference? In the second scenario, I'd probably be upset and a bit shaken, but would appreciate his honesty and be comforted by his ability to see his power in the situation (so that I can feel confident it won't "just happen" again). After the hurt wore off, I could see me being happy for him getting that little ego stroke from the incident. Posters here are less outraged by the kiss, and more by your insistence that you did nothing wrong to lead to the kiss.
Trimmer Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 In twenty years of marriage I have never been unfaithful and, even now, do not have that wish.... I was kissed, I didn't initiate anything and went home straight after - we didn't hang around snogging - the event was over in seconds. I enjoyed the sensation and and boost to my ego but don't get the idea that I took this woman in my arms and returned her kiss - I didn't. I must stress again, I didn't initiate anything and her kiss was a complete surprise. I have often spent social time with my students, hell, that's not so strange. And to suggest that a 30 year old woman is incapable of looking after herself seems odd to me. Maybe I am naive, and she wants to seduce me so that she can find out the questions in the exam! As regards the suggestion that I should not have tutored these women, the fact is that they are resit students who had not attend the lectures or my seminars. They offered to pay me for some help. If you think that accepting money for doing extra work is wrong, I can say nothing to explain. But, this is the way I earn my living. Most offensive though is the suggestion that I made an effort to lose weight so that I could have sex with other women. No, I lost weight because I was overweight and wanted to be healthier. The biggest bonus was the reaction of my wife. I have never looked for other woman and did not on this occassion. Had this happened to my wife and she had been kissed by someone sexy, that would be fine. OK, so if you are then firmly dedicated and settled on all of the points above, then why the following: I confess that I will almost certainly not mention this to my wife (for at least another 20 years)
reboot Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Posters here are less outraged by the kiss, and more by your insistence that you did nothing wrong to lead to the kiss. Exactly. And his apparent attitude that he couldn't have avoided said kiss had he chosen to. To thine own self be true. Deep down he knows the truth.
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