doomage Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Well a girl I was dating recently told me one night when we were talking about our past experiences that she had sex at her job in the back room with her shift leader, when seh worked at another bagel store location. I was kind of like damn, does that make her a slut? Kind of got me jealous too. she said they did it when it was just them closing up the shop for the night. Plus she told me she had 10 partners now 11 i guess including me but i dont talk to her anymore so i don't know how many more but she is 21. any opinions?
legallyblonde289 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 well do you consider the guy a slut as well? i'd probably consider it a "slutty" thing to do, but i wouldn't consider her a slut. and if i did, the guy would be just as slutty, perhaps more so bc he was the boss. and her number isnt that bad, i know girls her age with triple that. to each his own.
Engadget Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 well do you consider the guy a slut as well? i'd probably consider it a "slutty" thing to do, but i wouldn't consider her a slut. and if i did, the guy would be just as slutty, perhaps more so bc he was the boss. and her number isnt that bad, i know girls her age with triple that. to each his own. Yeah I was going to say, a girl that's 21 with 30+, that's slutty. Same applies to guys.
brainygirl Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 So you don't talk to her anymore, don't tell us weather or not she was seeing the manager at the time, but you come here to tell us about her and find out if she's a slut or not? sounds like the OP is the one with the problem.
Author doomage Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 Brainygirl: I was just pondering this and wondered what everybody had to say is all, why so defensive? I don't know if she was seeing him or if it was just a one time animalistic urge to bone. Didn't ask all the gory details.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Brainygirl: I was just pondering this and wondered what everybody had to say is all, why so defensive? I don't know if she was seeing him or if it was just a one time animalistic urge to bone. Didn't ask all the gory details. i assumed it was a one time thing, if they were seeing each other then its not slutty at all, but it is very hot;)
Author doomage Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 legally blonde: what is hot? lol the one time thing or if they were seeing eachother at work and doing this?
brainygirl Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Brainygirl: I was just pondering this and wondered what everybody had to say is all, why so defensive? I don't know if she was seeing him or if it was just a one time animalistic urge to bone. Didn't ask all the gory details. Because the whole thread smacks of gossip and voyurism. "Listen to what this chick I work with told me . . . oh and I don't talk to her anymore" What's the point of posting? Why are you so threatened by her suxuality?
brainygirl Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 threatened? lol i find it fascinating. Well, you don't know her well, have no investment in her because you don't talk to her anymore, and in asking us, the posters on a dating forum weather or not she was a slut, you are indicating that you think she is or may be. And the last time I checked, slut was a word ascribed in a negative way to women who sleep with lots of men. So, considering the fact that you aren't interested in dating her, don't know her very well, and have already decided to think of her in negative terms, what's your point? "fascinating" or not, what it is is none of your business and you reveal yourself to be petty and judgmental the more you write.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 legally blonde: what is hot? lol the one time thing or if they were seeing eachother at work and doing this? haha. that they did this at work when no one was around, if they were seeing each other/dating. not that it was a one time thing lol
Author doomage Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 well i know in those types of settings like jamba juice starbucks, things like this go on all the time. thanks for the input.
jthorne Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 If you don't talk to her anymore, why do you care about her sexual past?
Chicago_Guy Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Why would she even tell you this? She must be very immature because most women know that telling a guy stories like that will lower their value in their man's eyes. Regardless of what anyone says here, if you are disgusted by her past behavior (and there is nothing wrong with you if you are), then this is is probably going to be a big problem going forward.
Chicago_Guy Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 What's the point of posting? Why are you so threatened by her suxuality? So if he's grossed out by what she's done in the past with many random dudes, he's the one with the problem, not her? Most men would disagree with you.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Why would she even tell you this? She must be very immature because most women know that telling a guy stories like that will lower their value in their man's eyes. Regardless of what anyone says here, if you are disgusted by her past behavior (and there is nothing wrong with you if you are), then this is is probably going to be a big problem going forward. he doesnt talk ot her anymore. im guessing he thinks its slutty and wants to know if others agree. but everyone has a sexual past, and if a guy thinks less of her for it when theyre swapping stories, well i would probably think less of that guy for being a pot calling the kettle black.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 So if he's grossed out by what she's done in the past with many random dudes, he's the one with the problem, not her? Most men would disagree with you. who said anything about many random dudes? there's ONE dude, and he doesnt even know if hes random or they were dating.
Author doomage Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 he doesnt talk ot her anymore. im guessing he thinks its slutty and wants to know if others agree. but everyone has a sexual past, and if a guy thinks less of her for it when theyre swapping stories, well i would probably think less of that guy for being a pot calling the kettle black. It didn't affect my perception of her too much, i mean come on i was still dating her, and was always affectionette with her and well she pretty much ended it, but it's kind of krazy how you think a pesron is one way and little by little skeletons come out of the closet, she seemed like a innocent girl, but she told me she got herpes, (still stayed with her) didn't think anything less of her for that, but she wasn't too subtle with me. When we would tlak about our past i would ask her, just once and she'd say "well i cant lie to you" and she'd tell me straight up, like once we were messing around and talking as well and i asked if she'd done everything already and she said ya and i said " even in the back?" lol and this is gonna sound nasty but she was like "ya it freaken hurt and i couldnt even sh*t" I was like whoa, too much info lol
Green Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 dude the way you think about these things is imature and rude.
Author doomage Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 dude the way you think about these things is imature and rude. How is that green?
brainygirl Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 I agree with green, you shouldn't have asked the questions if you weren't prepared for the answers. I don't blame her for ending things with you.
Author doomage Posted May 23, 2010 Author Posted May 23, 2010 I agree with green, you shouldn't have asked the questions if you weren't prepared for the answers. I don't blame her for ending things with you. well this didn't have nothing to do with it, but thanks anyway. You seem like you have a lot of hatred for men brainygirl. anyway have a good day. 8)
brainygirl Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 well this didn't have nothing to do with it, but thanks anyway. You seem like you have a lot of hatred for men brainygirl. anyway have a good day. 8) Uhm, nope, like men just fine. Just don't like your attitude. There are men in the world who realize that a woman's sexual past in none of their business, and there are men in the world who have enough class not to start gossipy threads about ex-girlfriends in order to trash talk the girl who rejected them.
Green Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 well this didn't have nothing to do with it, but thanks anyway. You seem like you have a lot of hatred for men brainygirl. anyway have a good day. 8) I'm a man and I agree with what she said in ur quotes just now. You asked ur gf all these questions. You are just very judgemental and there is really no reason for it. You shouldn't call any girl a slut even if she has been with what you consider to be many guys. If you want to date virgins or women who have only been with few men in long term relationships that is for you to decide. What I won't agree with is you casting your judgment down on some random girl by calling her a slut
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