Can I text him two pictures he's never seen? thought it would be nice.

[rose45]

I have a much longer thread but i wanted to know if it was ok to send something to my ex but first here is a little background information:

 

My ex and i were with each other for almost 4 years and a year of no contact after the break up..noone cheated..i think we did really love each other..it was petty stuff that i think we can get over from just learning from mistakes etc..i know what i would do differently and told him this. We went a year with no contact after the break up and i was strong but i decided to contact him because i knew i still loved him. We have been talking for months and from knowing him i know he isn't the type where he would jump back quickly into things. He is in his 30's and i am in my mid twenties.

 

I did ask him very direct questions and made direct comments of how maybe he is just trying to be this "nice guy" and doesn't want to say that he just doesn't want me. And he said that isn't exactly right b/c if it was about me then he would be seeing someone already or looking. I think he knew i was upset. He said he isn't going anywhere and we can talk whenever I want. He said he can only offer friendship for right now.

 

We have been having nice conversations although its mostly me calling at this point and in terms of us seeing each other he said let him get his head together. So i figured I should give him the benefit of the doubt and maybe eventually he will come around. I am dating in the meantime.

 

I was organizing alot of things and I came across two pictures of me and him he never saw before. He actually didn't see alot of pictures because i am not really organized with that stuff or take too many. But these caught my eye. One was at a function and someone must have called my name and I looked up and he was looking at me in that moment i guess laughing at something i said. Another is on a boat a friend of mine took. The sun is in our eyes so we both look kinda funny but its still a good picture.

 

I figured maybe if get him on the he phone one night, i can say i am organizing some things etc etc..when we get off the phone i can text him about 20 minutes later and in the text just simply say i came across these 2 pictures i don't think you ever saw before; just wanted to show you. Something plain and simple.

 

I know its not going to change anything at all but I just thought it was something nice since he's never seen them before and its not like we just started talking or I am sending him pictures right after the break up.

 

But i guess i just wanted feedback like is this a completely horrible idea or is it what i thought--just something nice to show him and its only two pictures.

Edited May 23, 2010 by rose45

[LucreziaBorgia]

I don't think it will do any good to send them, honestly. He is being as nice to you as he is willing at this point, and sending him 'couple' pictures is just going to chip away at his willingness to continue being nice to you. Despite what your intentions actually are, he isn't going to see them as anything but manipulative.

[rose45]

thanks for responding!

 

i don't see how sending two pictures he has never seen before is going to make him stop being nice to me though and how is it manipulative? if i explain look i found these two pics, one of them is kinda funny..its not like i am stalking the guy or sending him 20 of them and we still have memories together. I just thought it would be something nice to say like i came across them