Can't find many people who I click with?

[DollWelch]

I hate idle chit chat, it's so boring. I'd rather discuss something interesting like politics, or NY lobbyists preventing alternative power methods from being put in place, etc etc. Something that you can actually discuss and formulate an opinion on.

I can't stand idle chit chat, either.

 

Rarely does a woman come across a man that is both articulate, and stimulating during conversations that involve worldly issues or high profile topics. And those are the best kind of conversations!

 

The worst is when I have to hear women discuss gossip - "She said what!?" or "She stole my boyfriend!":rolleyes:.

 

Bottom line is, if you want to meet women that share the same morals/values, and can engage in intellectual banter with you, you'll have to "up" your game - and stretch your horizons.

 

Or: You could just go to a bar, and hope your soulmate walks through the door!

[Els]

Well, I used political discussion as merely an example. But I guess I usually let the conversation flow however it goes. The problem I have is I tend to get stuck on subjects, and the conversation sometimes stagnates. Then I quickly switch to something that I know can enrapture people, one of which is politics. Like you said though it's not the greatest can of worms to open up, especially with someone you might be interested in.

 

That being said I still want to engage in stimulating conversation, and yet sometimes I find myself at a loss on how to engage this. I know that trying to get stimulating conversation off the bat isn't something to go for, but sometimes I feel like it's just a big waste of time to do the "small talk".

 

I think it's more about 'who' then 'how' for some of us. To some people, I'm a great conversationalist; to others, I'm worse than a radio that isn't switched on - because, frankly, I'd rather let my mind wander than talk about how cute a particular lecturer is or what dress you bought yesterday or how afraid you are that you haven't studied for the exam, TYVM. Think about people you've had great conversations with - did you meet them in a particular way or place, was there anything they had in common? And head for that.