Els Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Women don't get guys, guys get them It is simplistic to believe that. Even if you adhere to the notion that a guy must be the one to ask the girl out, you need to think about what causes each of them to want to ask only certain girls out and not others.
Els Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Turn the stupidity down a notch, k? Two hints for you: 1) If you want to pretend to be the successful dating man advising lesser beings, I don't know about what your standards are, but I doubt most people will consider not getting a lay for 5 years as successful. 2) If you want to troll successfully, some subtlety goes a long way. Else people will recognize you for what you are far too easily, and all your effort will go to waste in the void of Ignoredom.
MrNate Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 A person with low self confidence can be courageous. A person with high self confidence can be non courageous. So courage does not make the world go round. Courage does not make the end go around, but it does defeat anxiety, when you act on it. When you experience anxiety, you can either let it eat you up, and do nothing. Or use courage to overcome it. When you use courage, to tackle your anxiety, you build confidence. It's similar to when you learned how to drive. I bet you were nervous your first time in the car. You could've easily quit, but I'm sure you kept on driving..why is that? Self esteem, high or low, doesn't matter. Use courage to build confidence, use courage to build self esteem.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Sorry AD, but cheer up, it's summer! The season of showing skin. If you're not shape already, hit the gym then the beach. There' bound to be alot of girls at the beaches. You got to stop putting yourself down and actually do something about it. If you're under 30, my advice is to plan for the long haul. When I was 29, I was 335 lbs and felt nobody would want me. By 32 I weighed 215, made some good progress in my job and learned how to dress for success. Flirting seemed to suddenly come naturally as soon as I hit the age where I had to consider myself a grown-up. It didn't mean that I could be a player and juggle women--that just wasn't in me to be a liar/deceiver. But my ego soared as I got looks and comments and smiles for looking the part of guy with good looks and good sense.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 That's most chicks silly. It takes two to have consentual sex so no one gets used. um they do if you lying in order to obtain that consent.
You Go Girl Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 Now that I actually think about it, Confidence, or lack thereof, is most likely my biggest issue because I often think "why would a woman even want someone like me when she can choose better" when I'm out, and that adds to the problem--and ultimately stops me from talking to women and building friendships with them. I hate it and want to stop it. Why would a woman want you when she can choose better? Geesh, if I walked around thinking well, he won't want me because I'm not the most beautiful woman on the planet...well you can see where that would go=nowhere fast. If you take comparing yourself to others out of the equation, you can concentrate on what does matter, and that's that you are the creator of your personality, the god of your little universe, and why not share that interesting part of yourself with someone whom you respect for their power over their creation, themself?
You Go Girl Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 To me being yourself is the only advice worth giving. Being yourself means not letting fear stop you from going up and talking to the people you want to talk to about the things you want to talk about... Being yourself means not being afraid to ask a girl you like out and not being afraid to kiss a girl you want to kiss... To thine own self be true. There's not a lay in the world that is worth sacrificing being yourself--because faking yourself is the ultimate betrayal to yourself.
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