summerl0vesyou Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 I was supposed to meet up for the 2nd time today with someone I met last week. He gives me mixed signals. Well, originally he said he would be ready around 2 or 3 pm. He said he had to help his family do something. At 2, he texted me to say that he was still there, and that he would text me when he was done. Its now 5pm and I havent heard anything. Im getting really annoyed and frustrated and all I can think is, hes either A: With someone else (a girl) and plans are running longer than he thought B: Doesnt really want to see me Does anyone think that Im being unreasonable? Is there any reason to doubt what he said?
Rorschach Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Doesn't really matter to me, I can't STAND people who say their going to be there at 2 and show up at 5. Thats instantly non-compatible for me.
Author summerl0vesyou Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 Good point. Well he didnt say he WOULD be here then...but last night, he said he would "probably" be done around 2-3, and then would be ready. But I didnt even hear from him until 2 today which was him telling me that hes still "helping"
SarahRose Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Why are you even putting up with this at all? You need to expect good behavior from the beginning. Forget about this one and find someone else to date.
Rorschach Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 I agree, no matter what the reason is if they aren't on their very best behavior for the first few dates that really says something. The first couple of dates people will be BETTER behaved than normal, so if you aren't happy at first you'll just be REAL unhappy later.
FitChick Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 He's a coward and afraid to say he's no longer interested. Better to find out now than after you've slept together.
SilentVoice Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Eh...second time ...Find something to do.. just be busy...Don't play no games but you seriously don't need to be waiting on anybody.When he calls reschedule or post pone to whenever but just go busy your self...and don't mention it to him. Don't let him see you sweat
legallyblonde289 Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 I agree, no matter what the reason is if they aren't on their very best behavior for the first few dates that really says something. The first couple of dates people will be BETTER behaved than normal, so if you aren't happy at first you'll just be REAL unhappy later. this. guys are on "good behavior" for the first few weeks so if he's doing this now i dont even wanna KNOW what he'd be like in a few months... NEXT.
Lakeside_runner Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Well, my German genes right now say: "Nein! Was fuer eine Frechheit!" But seriously, if a guy is not able to make SPECIFIC plans for a meeting that should be a huge turn-off. It should be like: "I'll be there at 3:26PM" and he'll be there at 3:26PM. Not a minute too soon and not a minute too late!
rewe4reel Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 I was supposed to meet up for the 2nd time today with someone I met last week. He gives me mixed signals. Well, originally he said he would be ready around 2 or 3 pm. He said he had to help his family do something. At 2, he texted me to say that he was still there, and that he would text me when he was done. Its now 5pm and I havent heard anything. Im getting really annoyed and frustrated and all I can think is, hes either A: With someone else (a girl) and plans are running longer than he thought B: Doesnt really want to see me Does anyone think that Im being unreasonable? Is there any reason to doubt what he said? Actually I was thinking he got tied up with some messy healthcare issue for an elderly relative that he didn't want to discuss with you, such as grandma's colostomy bag falling off and he had to spend the afternoon cleaning it up. Seriously, he told you he would text you when he's done, take that at face value. Do something else, if he txts you later on, either get together with him (if you feel like) or don't if you happen to have something better to do.
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