Sari Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Hi all, I'm not quite sure if I'm going about this break-up the 'right' way and just wanted some advice please? Since my ex fled in panic 2 weeks ago almost to the hour, I have been absolutely inconsolable about 99% of the time, with occasional glimmers of peace, which I pretty much expected. However I'm finding it very hard to galvanise myself in to having a 'proper' night out. I'm still making it in to work most days (though bursting in to tears or having a panic attack has become an annoying frequent occurance), and seeing friends in their houses, so I haven't become an agorophobic recluse or anything, but when I try to go out for a drink or someone suggests a big night on the town I feel shaky and tearful and that I want to go home and sit with my close friends and family. I went out for some random girl's leaving do on Friday night and felt so alone and sad that I left abruptly after one drink. I seem to be able to trust only a few people with my company at the moment, and it has to be very low-key. Is this a bad strategy, should I just be getting out there and living life? On a plus note, ran a 5k race for breast cancer today, managed to run the whole thing in half an hour without stopping, and with no training and minimal food and sleep lately, I'm pretty proud of myself! I actually said "f*** you" to my ex as I crossed the finishing line. Maybe petty but felt good!
Ronni_W Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Is this a bad strategy, should I just be getting out there and living life? It's only been two weeks. It sounds pretty normal to me, that you're not yet able to trust yourself to control your 'emotionality' in certain social settings and that you're not yet interested in acting all 'Miss Social Butterfly'. I think it's perfectly fine to give yourself permission to be kind and gentle with yourself Congrats on your 5k race -- hopefully you had a nutritional/replenishing meal after that, and will get some restful sleep to further promote your body's 'healing and recharging' after such physical activity. Hugs, and best of luck.
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