EricaH329 Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 I don't know whether to be pissed off, or shocked. Maybe you could help me out? I started talking to this guy off of a dating website. Him and I have never actually met eachother. But, we have talked through IM and text for the past month. He decided to visit me at work tonight (I work at a bar). He shows up, and as he approached me, he practically fell over. I asked him what he had done tonight, and he told me that he had been drinking for about 7 hours. We had continued to talk (mostly him talking), and he admitted that he had done drugs tonight. I told him that i'm glad he was honest, but that wasn't cool. He continued to tell me that it happens about once a year. Ok, fine. He told me that he would let me go so I could do my job, and that he would come back to talk once in awhile. The minute he left me, he went to a group of girls and started hitting on them. I walked away, and when I came back, he was hitting on a different group of girls. I decided at that point that he just wasn't worth my time. I didn't talk to him after that. He texted me after he left and asked me to meet up with him. I told him that I couldn't, and that we would talk tomorrow when he was sober. Am I completely wrong for thinking this is the most absurd way to meet someone????
USMCHokie Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Well, this one is easy...at least for me... Drugs = LAUNCH. His behavior = LAUNCH. Next please.
Eeyore79 Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 I wouldn't contact him again if I were you... you don't need someone who is involved in substance abuse and doesn't respect you enough to turn up sober.
deux ex machina Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 (edited) I can relate to the part where you didn't know whether to be pissed off or shocked. That really does seem to happen sometimes when people act so unexpectedly stupid that it's difficult to believe it's even happening. But it is. What a wanker. Edited May 22, 2010 by deux ex machina
sagetalk Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 You talked to him online too long, what does he live in another country? A month is a long time, too much friends chatting. I'd say next him, but I think you're already there.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 Well, this one is easy...at least for me... Drugs = LAUNCH. His behavior = LAUNCH. Next please. I wouldn't contact him again if I were you... you don't need someone who is involved in substance abuse and doesn't respect you enough to turn up sober. I can relate to the part where you didn't know whether to be pissed off or shocked. That really does seem to happen sometimes when people act so unexpectedly stupid that it's difficult to believe it's even happening. But it is. What a wanker. Agreed!!!! You talked to him online too long, what does he live in another country? A month is a long time, too much friends chatting. I'd say next him, but I think you're already there. We've had plans to hang out before, but they fell through due to our different work schedules. I really don't think his behavior can be chalked up to being 'friend-zoned'. I'm not too sure what exactly was going through his head, I found it to be extremely odd behavior for someone meeting anyone for the first time. I'm still trying to make sense of all of it.
Art_Critic Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Let's see... Shows up unannounced at your job even though you have never met. Shows up trashed and then tells you he has been drinking 7 hours. Then tells you he is also high on drugs and lies about his periodic use of them. Then hits on other women in front of you. I'd say you found a keeper You did say you would talk to him when he was sober the next day.. WTF ? Did he cross any of your boundaries ? or light up any of your red flags ?
Citizen Erased Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Some people really do know how to make epic arses of themselves. Next.
USMCHokie Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 You talked to him online too long, what does he live in another country? A month is a long time, too much friends chatting. I'd say next him, but I think you're already there. I agree with this...
Engadget Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Wow, I can't believe someone would actually do that. What a douchebag.
carhill Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Numbers game. Bet he took someone home to his drug den. Who really uses drugs once a year? LOL
Author EricaH329 Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 Let's see... Shows up unannounced at your job even though you have never met. Shows up trashed and then tells you he has been drinking 7 hours. Then tells you he is also high on drugs and lies about his periodic use of them. Then hits on other women in front of you. I'd say you found a keeper You did say you would talk to him when he was sober the next day.. WTF ? Did he cross any of your boundaries ? or light up any of your red flags ? I told him i'd talk to him today because I wanted to know what would make him act like that! After sleeping on it, I don't really care why he would do something like that. I was just so shocked at the time I didn't really know how to handle the situation. Some people really do know how to make epic arses of themselves. Next. Wow, I can't believe someone would actually do that. What a douchebag. I'm thinking the same thing!! Numbers game. Bet he took someone home to his drug den. Who really uses drugs once a year? LOL Oh, that's just the beginning of it. We talked for a good 20 minutes or so. You should have heard the things he was saying!! It was the most absurd conversation ever. There was no hiding the fact that I was extremely disappointed that he had used drugs, so he decided to go on a mini rant about how he did it, why he did it, how he felt like he needed more... I think the icing on the cake was that he had texted me earlier on in the night asking if it was alright that he stopped by my job to see me. I told him that was fine, and after that is when he used the drugs. So he did them knowing full well he was about to meet me for the first time. What a shame.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 What type of drugs was he on anyway? Coke.... which explains the non-stop ranting. That mixed with the amount of alcohol he drank, could have ended very very badly. It explains the majority of his behavior, but what cannot be explained is why he did it to begin with... knowing he was about to meet me for the first time. I feel half guilty talking about him like this. He has a great personality, and I know that he means well... I just think he is lost. No one in their right mind would do the things he did.
sagetalk Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Coke.... which explains the non-stop ranting. That mixed with the amount of alcohol he drank, could have ended very very badly. It explains the majority of his behavior, but what cannot be explained is why he did it to begin with... knowing he was about to meet me for the first time. I feel half guilty talking about him like this. He has a great personality, and I know that he means well... I just think he is lost. No one in their right mind would do the things he did. Don't even think about trying to save him yourself. Tell him to go to rehab or a church, but don't try to girlfriend/wife him into being a better man.
Author EricaH329 Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 Don't even think about trying to save him yourself. Tell him to go to rehab or a church, but don't try to girlfriend/wife him into being a better man. Oh definitely not, I don't have the patience for that sort of thing.
FitChick Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Who cares why he has a problem? Don't make it your problem.
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