Did any of your ex's ever contact you months or years later when they are now single?

[bluz73]

Just wondering since I have had only 3 serious relationships in my life...1. puppylove 2. was a longterm marriage with children so we are in contact and 3. my ex. He cut off all contact since he has a new GF.

Should I ever expect him to see how I am doing in the future when and if he is all alone and single? We had a 6 year realtionship and its hard to phathom he could just erase me and not care what came of my life

[hurtandheartbroken]

Yes, he did. They always usually come back.

 

ALWAYS.

 

Don't hold onto that hope he'll return to you, because hopefully by then, you'd have moved on or something will happen to let you see he is an ex for a reason BEFORE you get caught up and hurt again.

[D-Lish]

In my experience they always come back, and when they do, it's liberating to not respond or say no thanks.

[USMCHokie]

A majority of responses you'll get here are: he always comes back...very rarely will you ever hear that she came back...

[bluz73]

In my experience they always come back, and when they do, it's liberating to not respond or say no thanks.

Even years down the road? thats hard to imagine. But he still has a GF and they got there lil place and puppy now all cozy.(yeah 5 months into it they rushed it bigtime) I am not waiting for him, I just wonder what to expect. I would love for him to talk to me after im healed just to explain to me why he abandoned me at the worst possible time in mylife. I doubt he ever will. He no longer has my email or me his and we changed our numbers so i dont see how he would ever contact me

[D-Lish]

Even years down the road? thats hard to imagine. But he still has a GF and they got there lil place and puppy now all cozy.(yeah 5 months into it they rushed it bigtime) I am not waiting for him, I just wonder what to expect. I would love for him to talk to me after im healed just to explain to me why he abandoned me at the worst possible time in mylife. I doubt he ever will. He no longer has my email or me his and we changed our numbers so i dont see how he would ever contact me

 

Yes, even years down the road. A guy I dated 4 years ago just called me out of the blue a month ago. A guy I dated 6 years ago recently contacted me through facebook and wanted to go to dinner. In my experience you hear from most of them within a few months- especially if you have been silent. My highschool bf that broke my heart just contacted me on facebook after getting divorced and is trying to hang out.... I won't tell you how many years that has been!

 

The thing is- by the time it takes for them to call you, you probably won't care anymore- you'll be over it. Some of them I've dumped, some of them have dumped me- but they often do come back at some point.

 

Often, by the time they try and re-kindle things, you're way over it- ideally anyway.

[bluz73]

Yes, even years down the road. A guy I dated 4 years ago just called me out of the blue a month ago. A guy I dated 6 years ago recently contacted me through facebook and wanted to go to dinner. In my experience you hear from most of them within a few months- especially if you have been silent. My highschool bf that broke my heart just contacted me on facebook after getting divorced and is trying to hang out.... I won't tell you how many years that has been!

 

The thing is- by the time it takes for them to call you, you probably won't care anymore- you'll be over it. Some of them I've dumped, some of them have dumped me- but they often do come back at some point.

 

Often, by the time they try and re-kindle things, you're way over it- ideally anyway.

Thanks for your story... Its a shame I havent had much dating exp..I married young ugh! But I have a feeling this girl he is with isnt going anywhere and they will be married or something. She has hung on to him now for 9 months...thru me trying to win him bac, me trying to warn her, her family/friends trying to warn her, his drug battle his job loss, she just wont let him go. She found her way out of her parents house and now has a roomate and someone to split the bills with, a new car of his to drive and a good guy in the sack, so she isnt budging. And he is enjoying taking advantage of her money she has from a car accident. The dumb girl got email/bank and cell accounts in both their names already.

The way he walked away from me so cowardly I cant see him ever contacting me Like 6 years of his life I never exsisted

[Eeyore79]

It's funny you should mention this. My ex contacted me just a few days ago after not seeing me for ten years, pretending that he wanted to say hi, but really he was hoping to meet up with me and probably get his rocks off. He turned the conversation pretty quickly towards meeting up, and when I said no because it would be disrespectful to my bf (who he obviously didn't know about) and his gf, he ended the conversation abruptly. When I mentioned his gf, he did say "my ex, not my gf", so I assume that's why he's come looking for me - because he's single and bored, and he thinks I'm a pushover and he can have a piece of me whenever he feels like it!

[hopefulguy]

I've been one to come back after many years, but now Karma has bitten me in the butt. I was with a wonderful girl for a few months about 6 or 7 years ago. I started talking to another girl at the same time me and the current gf were having problems. I broke up with her out of the blue....ended up being with the new girl for 5 years. Then she broke up with me about a year ago and has a bf now. I called the ex from 6 or 7 years ago a few months after i was dumped...and that didnt work out. Yea it happens. But your story is like my current story....I still feel for my ex and do always wonder if she'll come try to rekindle things if her and the new guy didnt work out. I mean, i tried contacting my old ex even we were only together a few months when i became single...let alone 5 or 6 years. Anything can happen, especially if it was really genuine.

[Feelin Frisky]

I never. But I did have one that I loved who had since married someone else and moved from NY to FL. She was carrying a lot of guilt for the way she insulted me and embarrassed me on the last day of our relationship. It was typical of her to take a long time to take responsibility for any wrong-doing but her apology was a welcome birthday present. I wasn't seeing anyone when the phone call came. She couldn't have known how I cried--wept out of control the night of the day she decided to verbally abuse and embarrass me. I didn't tell her of all that.

[northstar1]

As USMCHokie said, there is a much higher probability that an ex will contact you down the road if the dumper was a male.

 

My experience is that by the time most women walk from a relationship, they are about 95% emotionally detached. Once it is over, they don't sit and agonize with regret and feelings, they've already moved on emotionally and have a much easier time coping.

 

Whereas men will either ignore their feelings or make an impulsive decision to breakup and then come to regret it.

 

 

So, in all my years of dating/relationships, I've only had one girl come back, but by the time she did, I didn't care about her at all. The ones I wanted to come back, never did......they just vanished. Best thing I suppose, since Second Chances rarely work.

[bananaboat11]

As USMCHokie and NorthStar1 have verbalized... I feel it's easier for men who are dumpers to return as opposed to women. Men may move on easier, but women can cope better, I feel. I highly doubt I'll hear from my recent ex ever again. Regardless if she had been playing the block/unblock game on FB. She's crazy. She deserves crazy. I'm 99.9% confident I will not hear from her... and I hope I'm right. Regardless... I don't see myself contacting her, ever.

 

me as a dumper... I've gone back. after a year.

 

so far... I've only known 1 ex (bad breakup, but mutual) to come back to me as friends and by that time it was 2 years later. now we're good friends. we still joke about our sexual experiences... apparently I was her best. heh. But we're both mature enough not to act on it. It's nice. She has a new bf (whom I think is a tool)... and I have a new-soon to be gf

[dan_the_man]

Yeah, I once had a one night stand with an ex a year after we split up. I was 17 at the time.

[bluz73]

How ironic for me to ask this question then to have this happen....today a guy I thought I loved who i dated for 3 months and left me crushed at the time contacts me via facebook after 10 YEARS!! Wow he just asked how i am what I been up to. Now I have no feelings for this guy whatsover, he was a terrible lover, he was short, and was an indoor type of guy, and I like tall, good in bed and outdoor type of guy. But it caught me by suprise he actually rememberd me.

I didnt add him to FB and dont intend too, he creeps me out but the guy I hope contacts me one day is my ex and I hope I feel the same for him as the guy from 10 years ago. Although I think he will always have a place in my heart. Funny how life works