mortensorchid Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 So I had gone out with this guy a few weeks ago. We had known each other on and off for about two years, then we had a really good time when I decided to take the bull by the horns and ask if he wanted to go to a movie. We did, had a good evening together, then I came by his house (the next weekend per his invite) for a basketball game party. I was going to be out of town for the next two weeks so I wasn't going to be around. While gone, I sent him one text saying I was having a really good time but would be back around (date). No response. I was back all this week, I just signed into Facebook. He was online, I sent him an IM saying "Hey there". He signed off the IM, and is now listed as "in a relationship". It seems we have reverted to the sixth grade here. F*** him, he's not getting this good stuff he'd rather get it someplace else I guess. I'm so tired of being disappointed like this. What a coward.
carhill Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 I sincerely wish for some good things to happen in your love life. It seems like Fridays are the day for the news reports to come out and they rarely are splendid. Question: When you say you've known him for a couple years, what does that mean? Example: there's this nice lady who works at the post office who's been there for nearly 20 years. We chat and wave to each other and know each other's names. She was a pleasantly smiling face during some really dark times, but I don't really *know* her. Once I get stbx out of my hair I might like to. What's your story?
Author mortensorchid Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 The story for more clarification: I had met him two years ago on Halloween at a party. Then we did not see each other again until the next Halloween. I had gotten his phone number then, we had Facebooked once or twice between last Halloween and just recently. He said he was very busy and wanted to take me out sometime. Then, one Saturday about a week ago, I decided to call. He is/was very busy as he works full time, has classes, and also has two little kids. I didn't want to interfere or bother him as he is no doubt very busy. Then, I called for that Saturday movie as described before. He sent an invited to me via text that he was having a basketball game party at his house. During this party, when I was sitting around chatting with his friends and things, he later said they were all sending him texts, cheering for him saying that I was really cool and they hoped that he would consider inviting me to his son's birthday party in a few weeks. I smiled thinking that this was nice to have such supportive friends. Then, I was gone for two weeks. While gone (first in New York then in Chicago), I sent a text from NY saying I was having a good time and hoped that we would see each other soon. No response. Then I was on Facebook tonight and he was online. He listed himself as in a relationship, and then I sent an IM. He signed off. What a rotten coward! It doesn't matter to me if he is or isn't really in a relationship, I am angry that I was given the shaft. I was going to make him work for this good stuff, I wasn't after sex or anything, I was hoping we'd have a friendship or even a romantic relationship. Back to the drawing board. I hate guys, you are all such cowards at heart.
carhill Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 I've walked that path, many times, obviously with the genders reversed. Felt like a bit of a fool. Thanks for sharing the background. Just like I had to learn to bite the bullet and ask ladies out on proper dates, I guess it'll be your job to accept proper date requests from eligible gentleman and let go of these more nebulous interactions as having any real potential. Guys can be real flakes....
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