heartbrokensj Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 (edited) Hi All, My husband left me and my 15 month old daughter 2.5 months ago and has been staying in another state to 'clear his head'. His reasons for leaving were: he didnt feel love for me or for himself, doesnt know what direction his life is going in, and wanted to feel happy again. He is coming back next Tuesday and may stay a few days or 2 weeks at best. Since our separation, we have had limited contact, talking on phone a few times a week so he can talk to our daughter. He main modes of contact with me are via text or email which most of them are directed toward me in a negative manner, blaming me for all that went wrong in our 4 year marriage. Have been seeing a marriage counselor for about a 1 month now for myself. Am on pins and needles about what he will say. Your advice would help me out greatly. I think he might be suffering from depression but refuses help and exhibits all the symptoms but i am not sure since he has not been properly diagnosed. Over the last year we have experienced a lot of changes: death of his athletic career, becoming new father and hardship with this economy finding a stable job, adjusting to life here( he's lived in different parts of europe before moving here to be with me), husband and wife issues (normal disagreements that he has a hard time seeing as just that)..... We have much to talk about as to what will happen next for us but I fear the worst that he wants divorce. i am normall the one to iniate serious converations, should i take that approach this time around or wait for him to start this conversation? Any other advice or words of encouragement you could offer would be greatly appreciated. Edited May 21, 2010 by heartbrokensj Left out information
hopesndreams Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Well, it is possible he has found another woman to help him deal with the stresses of life. She would make him feel special and needed by being pretty and subservient. If that is not the case, you have a good chance of recovering your M. He is a runner. Looking for "happiness" somewhere else. He doesn't know that the only way to be happy is from within. If he wants a divorce, the best advice I can give you is for you to let him have one. Only then would he get his head out of his azz and realize what he could be losing. If he still wants to "clear his head" with no mention of D, get the D ball rolling yourself. It would be his wake up call.
Author heartbrokensj Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 (edited) He is a runner. Looking for "happiness" somewhere else. He doesn't know that the only way to be happy is from within. If he wants a divorce, the best advice I can give you is for you to let him have one. Only then would he get his head out of his azz and realize what he could be losing. If he still wants to "clear his head" with no mention of D, get the D ball rolling yourself. It would be his wake up call. Hopeanddreams, thanks for your response. Can't be certain but I do not think he has another woman. His reason for "running" to another state was because he could not afford a place of his own where I live to try to stay close to our daughter. In this other state, his best friend lives there who is a guy lives there and offered to let him stay with him for a little while. I like your ideas about getting Divorce papers rolling if he doesn't which might also serve as a wake up call. Edited May 22, 2010 by heartbrokensj forgot to include more information
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