2sure Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 Been there. You cannot insist he take the child / willingly give him the child while you know the enviroment is unsafe. Until a court orders you to do so. And the court has alreay deemed him capable of supervised visits only...it sounds like you decided on the longer unsupervised visits. Until your child's dad can be a responsible parent...you are on your own here. First, I completely understand how valuable your alone time on Saturdays is. And thats valid. You WISH he could just take his son once a week , be a father, and you dont have to worry. But thats not the case. Your alone time on Saturdays means your son is not being taken care of responsibly. So, right now it isnt an option for you. It doesnt sound as though your ex is demanding to see the child. So, you really have no reason to send him. As to having to take him back to court for child support: In most states this is done in Family Court, meaning you dont need an attorney. His refusal to pay child support is nonsense. He can not pay it, but he will be breaking the law once it is ordered. If he were paying child support - you could afford to hire a sitter on Saturdays.
ADF Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 ----------------- I know of a girl who has never encouraged or asked for child support - worked two jobs - just so the convict sperm would not have a part of their lives.. It worked. I know a lot of "girls" like that, too. I work in a family law office, and we deal with child support issues every day. Over half of the men in this country who owe child support fail to pay, either at all of in large part. That many men would try to weasel out of supporting children they never wanted isn't that suprising. What is suprising is how many women let them get away with it. An astonishing number of women never bother to file for support. In my experience, most of these women have one of the following motives for not doing so: 1) They don't want to anger the man. Never mind that the man fathered the children. Never mind that he has a legal, as well as moral, responsibility to look after their well-being. Some mothers are quite willing to risk letting their kids go without just to please a man. 2) They want to be heroes. This sounds a lot like the "girl" you mentioned. Some women want to raise their children without support so they can brag about how they did it all on their own. Instead of risking letting their kids go without to please a man, these women are willing to risk it just to feed their own egos. 3) They want to distance themselves from the man, and believe making him pay child support will prevent that. This also sounds a bit like the "girl" you mentioned. However, making a man pay child doesn't obligates a woman to see him. She can demand he mail the money directly to her or have it deposited in her account. If he fails to do this, his wages can be garnished. She can do this all through an attornye; she never has to deal with the man directly at all. If the man wants visitation with the children, he has to sue for it. Paying child support DOES NOTgive him any visitation rights.
califnan Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 ADF, She didn't want him in her life or her children's life, and she has since married.
ADF Posted June 11, 2010 Posted June 11, 2010 ADF, She didn't want him in her life or her children's life, and she has since married. You didn't read what I said, did you? I doubt you did.
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