DeenasRhino Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Hello Forum. I am in need of help or advise of how to cope with a breakup. My ex-girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years. We've seen our ups and downs as a couple. I started college this past year. She is a year younger than me so she was finishing up with high school. College really impacted our relationship. We used to talk all the time before this and during the past about 8 months we've been talking less and less. We've gone stretches where we have ignored each other for days at a time. This has never happened. The last week of school, I had finals and we had gotten into an argument and I choose not to speak to her to concentrate on my studies. She did not try to contact me either. A week later I am done and very happy with the result of my exams. I text her and she say's that she has moved on and no longer has feelings for me. We talked and argued and she did not want me contacting her again. I secretly surprised her the next day and wrote her a long letter of what she meant to me and how important she was in my life. I explained that I needed to pay attention to my studies and that it was hard for me too but I never wanted her to move on. When I saw her she immediately was not the same as she normally was. She did not want to see me or talk to me. I gave her the letter but in an angry scuffle I ripped the letter in half. We ended up calming down and talking things out but it was clear she did not want to get back together with me. It seems I've been living in this fantasy world that has turned upsidedown on me. I thought we were meant to be together and had plans on marrying her in the future. She is going to be going to a different college than me and it's in PA while I am in NY. I just need help dealing with this situation because it is really pulling at my heart strings not being able to talk to her. I've tried my best not to contact her but I still do and she flips out and turns me down everytime. She is going to ignore me for good if I do again. I've done so much for this girl and never thought I'd be in this position today. It's really tough and it's taken it's toll on me. We talked on the phone today and it is supposedly the last time we're going to contact each other for a while. She is leaving on a vacation to Europe in a month and she promised to call me and make a date for the both of us to hang out. What should I do? I don't want to let her go but she tells me she is happy alone. I just wish we could have another chance but that is out of the picture. What do I do until she contacts me again? Any help or advise would be greatly appreciated. P.S. This is both our first relationships but I really saw something in us that we could beat the odds and get married one day. I really sincerely did and still do. I loved her with all my heart. I just can't believe it's come down to this day. Thank you for taking your time to read this.
Author DeenasRhino Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 I just wanted to add, she still wants to remain friends and I do not want her completely gone from my life. It's just that in the future if I ever see her or know that she is with another guy it's going to cut my wounds even deeper. She wants to talk to me after I've moved on and gotten over about her and then be friends. Please what should I do? I am in love with this girl still and want a second chance but can't get through to her. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.
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