Leahh Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Is it weird if a girl messages a guy? I want to but not sure what to say or if men are turned off??
neowulf Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Is it weird if a girl messages a guy? I want to but not sure what to say or if men are turned off?? Nope. Not at all. I've met some amazing girls through online dating that contacted me first. If anything, it takes a lot of the pressure off the guy. Infact, compared to my real life average, I'd say I get "hit on" *waaaaay* more online If you like the look of the guy then I say go for it.
Ross PK Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I've never found it weird or a turn off. In fact I really like it because it shows they're actually interested, where as if you messaged them first they might only be messaging back because they feel obliged.
brainygirl Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I message more than I am messaged. But I tend to message to say hi, tell them I like a picture, call them out on a boneheaded statement in their profile, or respond to a cleverly embedded joke or reference. Most are too rude, or too chicken spit to respond. Seriously considering deleting my account.
sagetalk Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Most are too rude, or too chicken spit to respond. Seriously considering deleting my account. If a guy said that he would get ripped on. Try taking better photos. Show your whole body and don't do a "from above" shot just to flatter your figure. 1 head shot, 1 full body shot and don't say anything stupid in your profile. You should be getting lit up.
brainygirl Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Okcupid, user alley_g, it can't be THAT bad. And I don't do the from above shots because they look so moronic.
sagetalk Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Okcupid, user alley_g, it can't be THAT bad. And I don't do the from above shots because they look so moronic. Do you want me to be honest or nice?
BetterOffWithoutYou Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 when i did online dating i messaged guys first! i mean why not? that's the whole point of the site, to message each other to see if you hit it off! don't be shy or you could miss out on something great
brainygirl Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Do you want me to be honest or nice? I think ur gonna be an A$$ either way so you might as well be honest
sagetalk Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I think ur gonna be an A$$ either way so you might as well be honest 1. Retake your picture. It looks like your holding a bat and trying to look strong. Men like feminine, not manly. Wear your hair down. Wear a dress in the full body picture that flatters your figure and shows off your curves. Take it in a place with less clutter. Wear pink, red, white or a girly color. 2. Get in shape! If you can't get to a gym buy a home workout like P90X or another popular one (if you don't know ask). 3. Give up all sodas (no diet or juice either) and drink water 4. Remove these quotes from your profile, "(please no skanky teacher fantasies I've heard them all and when you are a teacher, they are kinda creepy)""If there's a way to stick my foot in my mouth, I find it. ""I'm short""and you don't mind being seen in public with a total nerd girl" If you do those three things you will get men messaging you, no problem.
brainygirl Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 1. Retake your picture. It looks like your holding a bat and trying to look strong. Men like feminine, not manly. Wear your hair down. Wear a dress in the full body picture that flatters your figure and shows off your curves. Take it in a place with less clutter. Wear pink, red, white or a girly color. 2. Get in shape! If you can't get to a gym buy a home workout like P90X or another popular one (if you don't know ask). 3. Give up all sodas (no diet or juice either) and drink water 4. Remove these quotes from your profile, "(please no skanky teacher fantasies I've heard them all and when you are a teacher, they are kinda creepy)""If there's a way to stick my foot in my mouth, I find it. ""I'm short""and you don't mind being seen in public with a total nerd girl" If you do those three things you will get men messaging you, no problem. Interesting. I reserve the right to blow some of this off completely.
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