jakinbandw Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Come on, there has to be some other men out there besides me that wants (or wanted in my case) a girlfriend for a relationship. There has to be men that want romance and love rather than sex and lust. Yes I know they are not mutually exclusive, but as far as priorities go? Every time I see men portrayed they want to get laid, so this is a thread to fight back. So men who are more interested in a loving relationship than in getting laid, please sound off!
Ross PK Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I don't think there are that many, apart from asexuals.
Engadget Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I'm looking for more than sex, enough so that I haven't had sex with a girl yet that clearly wants it. After being in an extremely LTR, I'm taking a different approach.
marsle85 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 So... for men: is sex the motivator for the relationship? or is sex a PLUS of the relationship?
Lakeside_runner Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 So... for men: is sex the motivator for the relationship? or is sex a PLUS of the relationship? For me it's a plus. I don't think relationships should be about sex. Meaningless sex is about sex and that's enough.
Engadget Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 So... for men: is sex the motivator for the relationship? or is sex a PLUS of the relationship? It's a necessary and integral part of the relationship. For many it is the motivator however.
single ape Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 There are all sorts of guys.. but a lot of them dont have enough self awareness to recognize it.. which is why they dump girlfriends because they are going to go have sex with models.. but then realize the were actually really attached to the girl and come crying back begging for their love back. So maybe you should sound off for guys who actually have the self awareness to recognize they too want a relationship?
Disillusioned Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Come on, there has to be some other men out there besides me that wants (or wanted in my case) a girlfriend for a relationship. There has to be men that want romance and love rather than sex and lust. Yes I know they are not mutually exclusive, but as far as priorities go? Every time I see men portrayed they want to get laid, so this is a thread to fight back. So men who are more interested in a loving relationship than in getting laid, please sound off! Dammit, you're stealing my lines.
Author jakinbandw Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 It's a plus. Why would I want to have sex with a girl that I don't love and that doesn't love me? The classic answer of course is 'to get laid man' but I personally don't buy into that belief.
OpenGL Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Here are the facts: Most men want a relationship. The men that women want only want sex. Thus the "all men are pigs" line that women spout. /thread
St. Nick Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 So... for men: is sex the motivator for the relationship? or is sex a PLUS of the relationship? For me it's the motivator.
Disillusioned Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 It's a necessary and integral part of the relationship. For many it is the motivator however. Sounds like the ramblings of a typical junkie in disguise... "I got to have my fix, I got to have my fix".
Engadget Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Sounds like the ramblings of a typical junkie in disguise... "I got to have my fix, I got to have my fix". What? In a relationship, sex is a damn necessary part. You don't know me, so don't even begin to try.
single ape Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Here are the facts: Most men want a relationship. The men that women want only want sex. Thus the "all men are pigs" line that women spout. /thread kinda true.. the female version of "there are all sorts of single nice girls.. but a lot of guys like bitches.."
Disillusioned Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Heh, it almost calls for a re-make of the Stepford Wives... but in this re-make, the men of Stepford would build fembots which would actually love them, leaving the real wives to pout and sulk.
Lakeside_runner Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Here are the facts: Most men want a relationship. The men that women want only want sex. Thus the "all men are pigs" line that women spout. /thread Get away from your keyboard, take a deep breath, look at the wall in front of you, start running as fast as you can... Now, get up and repeat. Stop living in a fantasy world! You know what I'm thinking? If dating really would be so hard this forum would not have about one hundred regular posters but millions! The internet would be full of fora like this one... They would be more popular than all the porn sites!
Author jakinbandw Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Here are the facts: Most men want a relationship. The men that women want only want sex. Thus the "all men are pigs" line that women spout. /thread If that was the case man I wouldn't have a girlfriend. I don't like the typecasting of women any more than I do men. I think it depends on upbringing. I can't see a Mennonite girl thinking of having sex with the man she is dating before marriage. In this situation then there is more on both sides than being in a relation ship then just sex. now I understand that is an old fashioned example, but it was somewhat how I was raised. This thread is proof that these type of people still exist even in our modern culture.
single ape Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 of course there are exceptions.. and everything is in general terms.. but there is truth to the fact that all humans regardless of gender tend to not always be attracted to what is best for them.. but instead what turns them on. Which often the two seem to be total opposites.
Cracker Jack Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Yeah, unfortunately, I've never had a chance to experience true companionship before. Sex is great, no doubt--but I've longed for a real relationship when the sex would actually be significant to me. Sex is very important, though.
bac Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Come on, there has to be some other men out there besides me that wants (or wanted in my case) a girlfriend for a relationship. There has to be men that want romance and love rather than sex and lust. Yes I know they are not mutually exclusive, but as far as priorities go? Every time I see men portrayed they want to get laid, so this is a thread to fight back. So men who are more interested in a loving relationship than in getting laid, please sound off! Sure, there are many guys who want a relationship. Girls want a relationship is well. That is why all of those guys are attached and married. As result of that, most guys who are available for dating are guys who are into casual sex.
carhill Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 So... for men: is sex the motivator for the relationship? or is sex a PLUS of the relationship? The more intimate I get with a lady, the more I want to express that intimacy through sex. Evidently, the brains of women I meet and the one I married are wired up very differently. Life goes on.
BlankSlate Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Women want a guy who wants them. A guy who wants sex displays better signs of interest than a guy who wants other things than just sex. Girls want a guy who's physical, because they like a guy who can hold them and take care of them. A guy after sex is very physical. Don't be afraid of showing your interests, girls also want sex. It's part of a healthy relationship. I'm a guy who wants more than just sex. Sex is a major plus, but it's also still something I want. You have to learn to show exactly what you want in a relationship. Treat them how you plan on treating them in a relationship. If you do that already and constantly fall into the friends zone it's probably because you're treating them as if all you want is a friendship. Everyone wants to have sex, just work on letting yourself be comfortable letting the girls know that thats also something you want. If it wasn't then you wouldn't be in such a bind.
somedude81 Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Any man who says he doesn't want sex is lying. The problem comes when a guy doesn't show that he wants sex, and the girl ends up thinking he has no interest.
skydiveaddict Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 . So men who are more interested in a loving relationship than in getting laid, please sound off! Count me in your camp
Toki Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Unless something grave has happened in your life, men want to have sex. That may not be the only reason why we seek partners, but a good large chunk of it is. Some men have different strategies, and come up for different reasons as to why they're in a relationship, but you can't say the only reason why you want a girlfriend is to have companionship, because honestly, that's why you have friends, for men most of them are men, for women most of them are women. As you mature, you're less likely to put full stock into sex, but honestly I couldn't stand some of my girlfriends constant annoying habits if she didn't help me get my rocks off once and awhile.
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