affairshipper Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I've been trying my best to refrain from having contact with married man and it's hard to stop because he is constantly on my mind. This past September I initiate NC, and then in December to no avail. He has contact me this recently wondering why I stopped calling him. He says he needs to work out his marriage, but he wants to see me nonetheless. I told him that he has issues to work on.
mizundastud Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I'm attempting to go NC for the 4th time with my ex who is now in a new relationship. He still tells me he has feelings for me and I love having him as a friend but I'm not getting what I want so its pointless to keep contact. Hope you find someone new to replace the space he takes in your mind....block his emails, calls don't let him stop ur happiness...
Author affairshipper Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 I'm attempting to go NC for the 4th time with my ex who is now in a new relationship. He still tells me he has feelings for me and I love having him as a friend but I'm not getting what I want so its pointless to keep contact. Hope you find someone new to replace the space he takes in your mind....block his emails, calls don't let him stop ur happiness... He says he doesn't want to hurt me, but yet he wants me to not date anyone. I've already met someone new, and all I do is think of him more.
mizundastud Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 He sounds very selfish ...he's married but is telling you not to date anyone WOW! I know how you feel though...I've tried to have new relationships after my ex and each one made me want him more. He wants his cake and to eat it too...you have to be strong...I knp easier said then done cause I'm in the same boat. Try to find something else that makes you happy and focus on that.
Author affairshipper Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 He sounds very selfish ...he's married but is telling you not to date anyone WOW! I know how you feel though...I've tried to have new relationships after my ex and each one made me want him more. He wants his cake and to eat it too...you have to be strong...I knp easier said then done cause I'm in the same boat. Try to find something else that makes you happy and focus on that. Yes, last time we were out for dinner he said he was glad I wasn't dating. He only wants me. I miss him a lot.
Author affairshipper Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 Over the weekend he texted me, and I am back to thinking of him.
GrayClouds Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Over the weekend he texted me, and I am back to thinking of him. Why do you not think that this guy's interest is anything but insulting to you? He is telling you that you are not as good as his wife, that you do not deserve real love, and that your silly enough to listen to his sweet words rather then his discussing behavior. Please do not agree with him. You need to some way to discover you deserve much, much more then this. I suspect your thinking of him is a substitue to distract you from doing some needed work at finding your own worth and some deep self love. I guarantee if you do that work, you will see quickly how little you think of him... and of him.
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