Star727 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Got a question. If a OW puts a hickey on a MM's neck, is she trying to tell the wife something?
Owl Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 In your case, I'd say it was a message from both of them. Clearly they don't give a DAMN about how they make you feel. Hickeys are "marking territory". She's claiming him as hers...and she's doing so knowing full well you'll see it and either be hurt, or get angry. And he let her do it. What do YOU think it means?
whichwayisup Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Got a question. If a OW puts a hickey on a MM's neck, is she trying to tell the wife something? More than likely she's hoping the wife will see it and begin to question her H, find out about the A. Hickey's on the neck are immature, in my opinion.
wish2b Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Yes, she is telling everyone involed that she is immature (well stated by the way) and disrespectful. Obviously doesn't care about the MM. Why would she want to put him in that posiiton? Controversy and drama are not things I like to deal with, but that's just me.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Put one low on his belly and see how she like that.
Owl Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Put one low on his belly and see how she like that. Nawww...I say setup an appt with a lawyer to talk about divorce. Then write down the date/time that you're going to have your H served on his back in permanent marker or paint while he's asleep.
ladydesigner Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Wow I would have died if my XOM would have left a hickey on my neck. I would say she is DEFINITELY leaving it there for you to find. His OW sounds young, I used to give or get hickeys in high school. Very immature.
jthorne Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Gotta agree with Owl here. Star, I'm assuming you are referring to your H. If that's the case, it reeks of exit affair. He knew on no uncertain terms you'd leave if he saw her again. Not only did he, but it was obviously physical. Did she just tell you something? Yes. She just told you all you need to know.
2sure Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Obviously it would be very upsetting for a H to come home with a hickey anywhere on him. But I would be less upset about the obvious infidelity itself than I would be about the fact that two people with such low class found each other and that I was married to one of them. Thats just...the ultimate tacky. I can forgive infidelity to a point...but poor taste, never.
ladydesigner Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Obviously it would be very upsetting for a H to come home with a hickey anywhere on him. But I would be less upset about the obvious infidelity itself than I would be about the fact that two people with such low class found each other and that I was married to one of them. Thats just...the ultimate tacky. I can forgive infidelity to a point...but poor taste, never. I agree not classy at all. Who gets hickeys over 18? I guess it's not my style either.
awkward Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I have never accidentally given my DH a hickey. I gave him quite a few when we were teenagers but not so much lately. A hickey definitely sends a message just not always the message that was intended.
StoptheDrama Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 In your case, Star, given what I've read, I'd say it was intentional. That being said, I did accidentally give one to my then MM - was really into it and bit him. No forethought, no pre-meditation, purely accidental. So, yes, sometimes, they can be an accident.
jthorne Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 In your case, Star, given what I've read, I'd say it was intentional. That being said, I did accidentally give one to my then MM - was really into it and bit him. No forethought, no pre-meditation, purely accidental. So, yes, sometimes, they can be an accident.Well, there's nothing accidental about what caused the hickey, that's for sure. He wasn't supposed to even be speaking to her.
jennie-jennie Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 "Hickey's on the neck" - funny to me, 'cause being a foreigner I wondered who Hickey was until I looked up the word in the dictionary. :lmao:
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Nawww...I say setup an appt with a lawyer to talk about divorce. Then write down the date/time that you're going to have your H served on his back in permanent marker or paint while he's asleep. You're right Owl. Hickey wars are for hicks. Sorry, Star, that you are being put through this. It does look like they are having fun at your expense, so beyond what ever they are gaining through the affair, they need to see you suffer as well. That's just sick.
jennie-jennie Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 You're right Owl. Hickey wars are for hicks. Sorry, Star, that you are being put through this. It does look like they are having fun at your expense, so beyond what ever they are gaining through the affair, they need to see you suffer as well. That's just sick. Star, are you a BS? I missed that. Sorry for this experience of yours. Hickeys seem immature in my opinion, and it must have been very hurtful for you to see traces of your husband's affair like that.
StoptheDrama Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Well, there's nothing accidental about what caused the hickey, that's for sure. He wasn't supposed to even be speaking to her. Exactly my point! They (the hickey, not the action that surrounded it) can sometimes be accidents but I don't think that's the case in this instance. He's flaunting the A and throwing it in her face
OWoman Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 "Hickey's on the neck" - funny to me, 'cause being a foreigner I wondered who Hickey was until I looked up the word in the dictionary. :lmao: I've never heard the word before, either. In my country they're called love bites, and it's not just a teenage thing either. Obviously some countries don't practice the Kama Sutra
Fallen Angel Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Take a picture of the hickey while he is sleeping, take it with a copy of the current day's newspaper in view and forward it to your lawyer. If your state allows for you to get more in the divorce if you are able to prove infidelity then you want to document everything, even if you do not divorce right now. I would say they are both sending you a message; the message is that you are not a threat to their relationship. The fact that your husband shows such an utter lack of concern for showing you even a modicum of respect should be all the message you need. I am sorry that they are so self-involved as to so blatantly rub your nose in their affair. You deserve better than that. *that being said I too have accidentally left a "love bite" though not on My Sweethearts neck. It was purely accidental. He had enough respect however as to not flaunt it in front of his wife, despite her knowledge of our continued relationship.
Author Star727 Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 The story: A couple of years ago (before the A was discovered), he went out, next morning I noticed the hickey on his neck. I told him, tell whoever you were with last night that yes, I saw the hickey and she can kiss my ass. He swore it wasnt a hickey. Said something bit him, he started rubbing it furiously, so much that he broke the skin. Kept saying "its not a hickey! something bit me" over and over. I kept repeating to him "its a hickey, I used to give them, its a hickey". To this day, he denies it was a hickey. It was a hickey. I should have started snooping around then but I wasnt going to give her the satisfaction. I wanted her to know, that didnt work, if you want me to know, you got to come with something better than that. I figured she was trying to tell me something. But, I got a feeling it wasnt the OW in question, but another one. The one in question is a little too classy and old for those types of games. I think he was messing around with someone else cause there were other numbers on his cell that he called alot and when D-Day came, the coworker OW is the only one that he was still talking to.
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