Eeyore79 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I don't see why inexperience is a problem tbh. As others have said, he can learn... I'd have much more problems with a guy who had slept with too many women rather than one who has slept with too few. His sexual experience has no bearing on who he is as a person... you're supposed to like someone for who they are, not for how many other women they've banged. I'd expect him to have more of a problem with you tbh, because you've been around a bit and have failed in at least ten relationships.
Lakeside_runner Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 In a year or two this guy will posting on LS heartbroken because she broke it off with him or did something worse. Why are people encouraging her to prolong his pain instead of just cutting him loose? 'Cause stupid me still believes in people... :laugh:
Woggle Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 'Cause stupid me still believes in people... :laugh: Then you should stop.
You'reasian Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 'Cause stupid me still believes in people... :laugh: Nuthin' wrong in believing in people, so long as your belief is sound and make your best effort. This woman may decide to end it with this guy and hook up with a guy named "Upgrayedd" with alotta street cred and a nice technicolor jacket. What can you do?
Lakeside_runner Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Nuthin' wrong in believing in people, so long as your belief is sound and make your best effort. This woman may decide to end it with this guy and hook up with a guy named "Upgrayedd" with alotta street cred and a nice technicolor jacket. What can you do? I can't do anything! All one could do in this situation is just make her think about what she's about to do. Well, she came here for advice and she got both points of view: 1. yes - dump him because he is a 34-year old virgin and 2. no - don't dump him and think about why are you having doubts. She called her pastor, talked to him and he talked some sense into her. We can't predict what's gonna happen. Maybe the whole situation made her realize that she's being immature and needs to make up her mind what she wants from life. And that's fine. Yes, there is nothing wrong in believing in people. Of course one cannot be naive but walking around and thinking that all people are selfish, bad and don't care about anything is just sad and wrong.
FoxMulder Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Our chemistry is outstanding and I'm attracted to him. I love him. He sent another love text now. I don't know what I'm thinking. Yet you are going to break up with him because he is a virgin. I hope that guy can find someone less shallow than you and find a woman who accepts him for who he is.
FoxMulder Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I called my pastor who I've known since I was a baby. I told him what has happened. We talked and he was blunt with me. I'm the immature one and I, not my dear boyfriend need to mature. I'm staying with my boyfriend because he is what I want and am not wavering. I'm soooo sorry. Nah, let him find someone better than you. Let him find a woman who can accept him for who he is and love him back just as much.
FoxMulder Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 ^Did you miss her proceeding posts, or what? Yeah, I almost hope she breaks up with him now so he can find someone better. I feel sorry for that guy.
Lakeside_runner Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Yeah, I almost hope she breaks up with him now so he can find someone better. I feel sorry for that guy. Just to be clear - that's a whole different story! It is sad that this guy seems to be head over heals over this girl and she considered dumping him because of such a silly reason.
Author Lizzie Me Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 I owe my boyfriend in a huge way. I just had a talk with him and a special night is planned. He will not be a virgin anymore in several hours. I almost threw it all away. Thank God I didn't.
FoxMulder Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Just to be clear - that's a whole different story! It is sad that this guy seems to be head over heals over this girl and she considered dumping him because of such a silly reason. I agree, it is sad. If she really did love him she wouldn't even consider dumping him just because he is a virgin.
Author Lizzie Me Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Looking to punch his V-card, eh? Sounds good. It's about time. The big picture is I want to be the girlfriend that I can be and the girlfriend he deserves.
Author Lizzie Me Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 There will be no breakup. I love him soooo very much. Thank you all for the tough love. He's on his way to my place now.
Cracker Jack Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Glad we could help you shift your opinion in the right direction. Take care.
D-D Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 I'm really glad to hear you decided to give him a shot. I bet that is why he is still a virgin at 34 years old. Every woman he dated left him as soon as they found that out. I'm a 26 year old virgin, and I am petrified to tell people I date this fact fearing that they will run away. I hope I find someone like you someday! I haven't really dated anyone long enough that we talked about sex, so I have yet to have that conversation. At least by sleeping with him, even if it doesn't work out, you will relieve probably 15 years of his sexual frustration and he won't be a virgin for his next relationship if things don't work out between you two. How did it go?
Lakeside_runner Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Wouldn't that just be ironic if afterwards he would dump her because of bad sex for instance? :lmao:
D-D Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Wouldn't that just be ironic if afterwards he would dump her because of bad sex for instance? :lmao: From someone in his situation, at least he wouldn't be a virgin. I would rather have that than get dumped and be a virgin. He will be much more confident with the next woman he dates.
Author Lizzie Me Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 I dressed in my sexiest outfit just for him. We cuddled for and talked for hours and then we did it. It was out of this world and to think I almost threw it all away. We are in love.
Author Lizzie Me Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 Wouldn't that just be ironic if afterwards he would dump her because of bad sex for instance? :lmao: The sex was the best I've had. I'm a lucky woman and my love is estatic to not be a virgin anymore. We are closer than ever.
Lakeside_runner Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 The sex was the best I've had. I'm a lucky woman and my love is estatic to not be a virgin anymore. We are closer than ever. Good for ya! Happy that it worked out
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