Sex question - is this odd?

[ppge4]

I've noticed a trend with him. When we have sex once or twice a week, it's alright. It's definitely not bad sex but it feels like we're going through the motions. If we wait a week or two, it's amazing. There's a lot more passion which I love.

 

Does this seem strange?

[FitChick]

Different people have different sexual needs. If you know what your man's "timetable" is, you know not to let him go longer than that without sex or he might look elsewhere.

[BetterOffWithoutYou]

sounds like he has a low sex drive. it takes him a while to get his urges. i guess the best question to ask is if you want to have really amazing sex once a week or have ok sex twice a week. please make sure you are getting needs met sexually though, otherwise you won't be happy in the long run. having open communication with him is the key! best of luck!

[ppge4]

Yeah I think it is a low sex drive. He has major ADHD which doesn't seem to help the situation.

 

Unfortunately I just don't think this is an issue that can be "talked out". My problem isn't that he won't have sex, it's that he isn't passionate enough when we do it frequently. I think communicating this will only put pressure on the situation.

 

I feel like I either accept it and just have great sex less frequently or realize that we aren't compatible. Hmmm

[bac]

how old is he?

[marsle85]

I feel like I either accept it and just have great sex less frequently or realize that we aren't compatible. Hmmm

 

 

Accepting you won't have great sex IS realizing you aren't compatible.

[ppge4]

He is 23.

 

marsle- We *do* have great sex when we wait a week or so. When we do it multiple times in the week I'd say it's "medium", like a 6 out of 10.

[FitChick]

Is he overweight? Overweight men have low testosterone and higher estrogen which means a weak sex drive. Get him to stop eating junk food and start working out.