Kris30 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 So I had a first date last night with a guy I don't know really well. We went for drinks and, well, I had a little too much and got pretty silly. Ended up making out in his car and talking for hours. He wants to be exclusive now and I think I'm wanting to give it a try. Is that crazy? He is a totally sweet guy... Comments?
sagetalk Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 If you're desperate, then go for it. If you're unattractive, go for it. If you're neither of those, then give it more time. I don't think I've ever heard of exclusive after the first date . Since you've already made out with the guy, I wouldn't call it crazy to be exclusive, but that is really fast and going to be hard to keep that pace up.
Art_Critic Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 IMO.. being exclusive after the first date is kinda weird.. I think he is just trying to hold onto you and acting kinda desperate. What about him doesn't he want you to know or find out about till he already has you emotionally hooked ? He doesn't even know you.. and you don't even know him yet.. That being said.. If you both hit it off then it would be a great thing.. Why not just date for a time first and then worry about being exclusive after you have had sex or you decide to go further with the relationship ? Waiting on exclusivity till you get to know one another certainly couldn't hurt the relationship..
Author Kris30 Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Well, I'm fine with only dating him I think, and so far I do really like him... But I do feel like its all moving a bit too fast and we need to slow it down some. He is going to call me today and we may go out again tomorrow so I will talk to him about it. Just tell him I think we need to slow down a little. Any advice on talking to him?
malala7 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Well, I'm fine with only dating him I think, and so far I do really like him... But I do feel like its all moving a bit too fast and we need to slow it down some. He is going to call me today and we may go out again tomorrow so I will talk to him about it. Just tell him I think we need to slow down a little. Any advice on talking to him? I would tell him that although you feel the two of you have a great connection, it would be better to get to know each other better before getting into a relationship. I have seen this happen many times. A guy might want to get in your pants and he knows that being 'exclusive' will grant him easy access without you feeling used.
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