Over it but I guess still wondering. Complete NC from dumper.

[WhereDoesTheGoodGo]

My ex dumped me in November. Went NC straight away, haven't seen him since, nor heard from him expect when thanking me for remembering his birthday.

 

I'm over him except for not understanding how he could never ever contact me again? We dated for nearly a year. Then nothing. I didn't cheat, sure I had my problems but doesn't everyone? I just wish for one sign of weakness, just small text saying he was sorry about everything, that it wasn't all my fault, all in my head. How to get that final piece of closure? I'm over the relationship but very hurt at times because of how he vanished from my life never looking back.

[northstar1]

Stop torturing yourself! There are many reasons he hasn't contacted you and you will exhaust yourself trying to figure out which it is.

 

He has done you a favor by not stringing you along, as harsh as not hearing from someone you loved is.

 

Closure will only come if you accept it is over and your happiness is in your hands, not his.

[LisaUk]

I feel for you, I understand this, my ex jilted me after 18 years together (ie we had just booked our wedding and he took off, no warning, nothing), he went total NC immediately and would only speak to me about legal things like the house. I have not heard from him in a year, not even a Christmas or birthday card. I didn't do anything wrong or dreadful to him either. I will never understand how someone could do that after all that time, hurtful doesn't begin to describe it. More than that though I don't want to know or understand how he could it, to be able to understand it would make me as dispicable as him and that is a place I never want to be.

 

My advice is to consider that perhaps anyone who could do what he did to you for no good reason is not worth you, you deserve someone who is in for the long haul and can treat someone that they shared their life with, with respect.

[LoveTruthChaos]

I'm gong through somethign very similar right now. My ex left me for someone else last month, and it sucks. I'll never hear from him again, I'll never ever get closure. I never got an explination, a concluding paragraph to say that he enjoyed the time we spent together. Nothing. We were together for a year and a half, and he was my first.

 

I'm trying to be strong about it every day. I write, I create, I talk to my friends, and pray that Karma will hit him. Somehow, that all helps

 

It hurts, to know that he cheated on me and I'll never hear from him, like I meant nothing. Don't waste your time holding out for closure that you know deep down will never come. Just keep busy, write how you want to be treated by someone and never waiver form that list, and I wish you all the best - because we both deserve MUCH better! xx