Ruby Slippers Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 (edited) I was at the drugstore and I saw this men's body wash in the same scent as my ex's deodorant. I remembered being with him in the drugstore and him asking me to tell him which one (deodorant) I liked best. This one smelled SO GOOD, and it was just a perfect fit for him. So he got it, and I always associated that smell with him. I thought it was sweet that he got a scented one just because he knew I would like it. He was very bare bones with his products otherwise, and playfully poked fun at me for my "432 bottles of stuff" in the bathroom. Today, I bought the (men's) body wash in the same scent (it's new), and tonight I took a bubble bath in it. I thought this seemed a little pathetic, but it was my little secret (which I am now telling you). Yes, of course it made me think about him and all the great times we had together. It was almost like I was bathing in him and my memories with him. Pretty cool. Scent has so much power to awaken memories, and I am just a sentimental fool. Mostly, it was bringing all those happy, hopeful feelings back. Those feelings that everything was wonderful, I loved and was loved, and we had this beautiful future to look forward to. I had almost forgotten what that felt like. I have been feeling so cynical and hopeless, especially about men and love. So maybe it wasn't such a bad thing. Edited May 21, 2010 by Ruby Slippers
USMCHokie Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Ruby, this isn't so weird at all...but as a guy I probably wouldn't rock the bath...but you're right, sometimes it's ok to just relish in past memories for a little while, just to remind yourself that love exists and will happen again for you... It's been so long for me now that I don't even remember her scent anymore...all I've got now is this hella expensive photo we took on our cruise together...but it certainly does its job of reminding me of the good times that were had...
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 You might rock if it I was in there waiting for you, huh? I'm sitting here with my hair in a towel, and the scent is all over me. It's stirring up quite a mix of emotions. It's been a year and a half!! But the fact is I still have powerful memories of my boyfriend from a decade ago. Emotional memories are so potent for me. And I remember exactly the way he smelled even with nothing scented on his body. He smelled clean and just slightly sweet, kind of like a pine forest. It's raining tonight. I always get so sentimental when it's raining! And I'm going on a weekend trip tomorrow, to visit one of my oldest friends. I was her maid of honor. She has a 2-year-old now. Our lives are very different. Thanks for saying it's not that weird.
Toki Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Must be nice, it's a funny thing how after a breakup you can remember these things for awhile, and it brings you back to some random special time in the relationship where everything was going so well, and so smoothly, and you never thought life could possibly get better. Despite the sadness, and grief of the now, how much power a good memory has... it makes you sadder than the bad memories, because you know you will never be able to have that moment again. All of these things, that I used to remember about the only girl I've ever really loved have gone away for me. It's hard for me to remember the good things, and although I'm long over what came to be, it makes me sad that those good memories don't seem real anymore. It's like she's just vanished out of existence, and what happens now doesn't matter anymore. I don't remember her scent, or her voice, or even really what she looks like, if I saw her now, I don't even know if I could recognize her. And if being around that scent even brings you a minute of temporary peace, I think it's okay, as long you don't begin to dwell on the negatives. Who knows how much longer it will be before you forget, or they take that particular scent off of production? All of those good memories will go away in time, and hopefully they will be replaced by better memories.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Who knows how much longer it will be before you forget, or they take that particular scent off of production? All of those good memories will go away in time, and hopefully they will be replaced by better memories. I know. I was thinking I should stock up. But then I thought no, just enjoy this one. Let it be fleeting, like the love was. Enjoy it while it lasts, and when the last drop goes, let it go. I have been VERY negative lately, and really beating myself up about past decisions and mistakes. It's been a hard time. This was a relatively healthy diversion. Better than some of my favorite vices.
USMCHokie Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 You might rock if it I was in there waiting for you, huh? Uhhh, ya damn right...
GrayClouds Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Originally Posted by Ruby Slippers You might rock if it I was in there waiting for you, huh? Uhhh, ya damn right... Hey we got some lonely, heartbroken people around here, they do not need to see this blatant flirting going on, they would be at the club if they wanted to see that.
SadandConfusedWA Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Ugh, years ago, I bought my ex bfs cologne ($80 one) and would spray it on my pillows every night and feel like he is still sharing the bed with me. How is that for pathetic
Woggle Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 You still have it bad for this guy if you want to bathe in his scent. If it made you feel better why not but don't make a habit out of it.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 You still have it bad for this guy if you want to bathe in his scent. If it made you feel better why not but don't make a habit out of it. Not really -- but I agree it's not a good idea to make it a habit. I am pretty sure that if I called him up today and told him I wanted to get back together, he would. In the big picture, I know he wasn't the right guy for me, but I loved him very much and have potent memories of our great times together. I'm a passionate person, and having intense memories for years after the fact can be both good and bad.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 24, 2010 Author Posted May 24, 2010 Ugh, years ago, I bought my ex bfs cologne ($80 one) and would spray it on my pillows every night and feel like he is still sharing the bed with me. How is that for pathetic Awww. I get it, though. Scent is so powerfully evocative of memories. For me, it's more powerful than sounds, sights, sensations, and tastes.
mamadee Posted May 25, 2010 Posted May 25, 2010 scents are incredibly powerful... the scent of bacon and coffee is my grandparents' house... my husband has a very distinct scent... even my ex-boyfriend smelled a certain way, tho i can't really remember what it is since i haven't seen him forever--i do remember knowing when he was near me just because of his scent (HIS scent, not a cologne or deodorant) not weird at all to want to be surrounded by that scent...i work nights and my husband works days--i sleep on his pillow so i can feel like he's there...
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 26, 2010 Author Posted May 26, 2010 not weird at all to want to be surrounded by that scent...i work nights and my husband works days--i sleep on his pillow so i can feel like he's there... Yeah, before he moved to my city, at the end of a visit he would leave one of his t-shirts for me so I could sleep in it. Bacon and coffee sounds like a good grandparents' house smell! Hey we got some lonely, heartbroken people around here, they do not need to see this blatant flirting going on, they would be at the club if they wanted to see that. Oh, hush, and get in the tub.
USMCHokie Posted May 26, 2010 Posted May 26, 2010 Oh, hush, and get in the tub. Indeed, the water's nice. Oh, and the bubbles...THE BUBBLES!!!
jlr Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 I know what you mean. I still get a whiff of her scent in the air. Or passing people in public, someone wearing her perfume will bring it all back. Or a certain smell reminds me of a moment. Scent is an amazing thing. I don't see anything wrong with it this once. But, I wouldn't reccommend doing it again. The thing is, the bath brings up the great memories, which is nice. But remember, if it was meant to be, HE'D be there, and you wouldn't need to do that, you know? You have to sort of merge the bad memories with the good, to get a bigger picture. We're all guilty of basking in t he good memories. But after a while, that can be just as destructive as being bitter about the bad ones. It's a balance.
xxChemical Posted May 27, 2010 Posted May 27, 2010 What you did isent weird at all.Its nice to remember the good memories.As long as what you did doesent bring up any anger towards him or,past hate,bad memories then i think it was a great thing to do:)
Author Ruby Slippers Posted May 28, 2010 Author Posted May 28, 2010 What you did isent weird at all.Its nice to remember the good memories.As long as what you did doesent bring up any anger towards him or,past hate,bad memories then i think it was a great thing to do:) Well, a few days later I was reading through my old journal, and I came to the time when we were together. Man, those entries just got darker and darker. And I was thinking about what a lame-o he could be and how much he hurt me. But it was my own fault because I was so naive and inexperienced with cynical men like him. It's so easy to see with the benefit of hindsight just how going nowhere that relationship was. I was TOTALLY hypnotized by the great sex. It took me way too long to snap out of that. But I did learn an important lesson. And I am not at all sorry about all the great sex. I never felt more like a sex bomb, and just totally unleashed. I'll take some of those memories to my grave. lol
JustJoe Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 Ruby, this isn't even close to weird. Smell is a very powerful trigger for memories. The first girl I ever really, truly loved gave me her cherry at a summer party. The honeysuckle were blooming, and the fragrance was everywhere. Now , whenever I smell honeysuckle, I can close my eyes and see her face, and feel her love. How could that possibly be weird?
sedgwick Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 gave me her cherry Um...ewww. There was just no other way to say that, huh?
JustJoe Posted May 28, 2010 Posted May 28, 2010 How about.....let's see......offered me her maidenhood..... plucked the flower of her youth.......ravished her nubile innocence,,,, I like that one best. I'm from Texas, that's what we called it in HS, so sue me.
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