lindberg711 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I am just so sick and tired of life. I try to be positive and work on myself and my persona, trying to be unselfish and to find joy. Everything has turned gray to me. Ever since my ex and I broke up a year ago I just can't find peace of mind. I have always been over-sensitive and insecure for no reason, and I am just in a state of self pity far too often. I am so stressed out all the time and just don't know how to cope with it. Life is good, I know. That is the attitude I must show to the world every day.
USMCHokie Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I definitely know how you feel...I'm a few months short of a year since my breakup, and I still sometimes get sick of everything...so you're definitely not the only one...but it seems like you're showing off that good attitude to the world but not believing it yourself...and until you can believe that life is good and that things will get better in time, you will constantly live on this up and down roller coaster of emotions... Perhaps you should find something new to do...whether it's a sport, activity, or a new social circle...the novelty of a new experience often helps to prevent your mind from fixating on the past... The best piece of advice I get on LS whenever I'm posting about feeling down: "stop feeling sorry for yourself." You've got to know and believe that you're a great person...as long as you hold a negative outlook on life, you'll never escape from that rut...
Author lindberg711 Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Complete truth. I say thanks and think about how lucky I am every day. My situation is better than a lot of people. I just see the world the way it should be and how I long for it to be different. Sounds funny, but I'd compare myself to Dave Matthews if anyone. It is true though, everything you say. Losing love is just such a difficult thing. I hope you are doing well and handling the loss well too.
sambo crockett Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Dude I have the same problem. I live on the beach, dont have to pay rent, go to school, and pretty much have it made. I have a hard time looking at the positives in my life and instead Im stupid and focus on the negative and it causes me to drag my ass around when Im by myself. I just started being able to deal with being told I wasnt what my x wanted for herself and I find that just the act of telling my self to not be such a pussy works pretty good I know it sounds stupid but it works for me because the more I think about it the angrier I get and from angry I transition back to happy crazy me. Life is what you make it......make of it what you want dude......But just remember in general that usually life is like a **** sandwhich and everyday you gotta take another bite
Author lindberg711 Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Dude I have the same problem. I live on the beach, dont have to pay rent, go to school, and pretty much have it made. I have a hard time looking at the positives in my life and instead Im stupid and focus on the negative and it causes me to drag my ass around when Im by myself. I just started being able to deal with being told I wasnt what my x wanted for herself and I find that just the act of telling my self to not be such a pussy works pretty good I know it sounds stupid but it works for me because the more I think about it the angrier I get and from angry I transition back to happy crazy me. Life is what you make it......make of it what you want dude......But just remember in general that usually life is like a **** sandwhich and everyday you gotta take another bite Good to see that someone else knows what I am feeling. I also enjoy that last quote, LOL.
SilentWitness Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I'm there are thousands of guys that have this problem, including myself, but things get better one day at a time. We all gotta take a turn being raped by life at some time I guess.
GrayClouds Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Sometimes despite our best efforts we need a little more help to get there. It may be time to talk to a professional about your mood to see if your doing all that you can to improve it such as talking through things, eating right, exercising, getting on some vitamin and or meds.
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