ConflictedGuy27 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I thought I'd pose a question to the group regarding a situation I had earlier today. So I have a class I'm taking on Thursdays and it gets a bit boring from time to time. For the past week or two I've been eyeing this very cute girl and just gathering info on her through observation. Today I sit close and pass a note to her after she gave a presentation. We've glanced at each other here n there, whatever. I asked her in the note: "nice presentation, can I ask you something after class?" she writes back: "thank you Of course, ask away." I talk to her after class and before I get much info she says you can text me, here's my number... She practically offered it immediatley. I say I'll talk to her later. I debated whether to wait a few days and call or whatever, but I sent her a MSG saying, "so I have another question for you now, busy?" and she texts back asking if it's me. She's like "Bob?" and I'm like, "yup it's Bob." No text back... Atleast not immediatley. Wha tha? Lol.
USMCHokie Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 This is why you call to ask a girl out...please don't text...
marsle85 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 please don't text... Please don't text. I've considered telling guys I don't HAVE a text plan to avoid this.
Author ConflictedGuy27 Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Normally I'd agree with you guys, but she offered her # saying I could text her. That kinda threw me off. She's like 22 - 23 so I just figured what the hell; throw out a txt and see what happens. Lol. So, let's talk recovery then, if the consensus was shooting her a txt. Ultimately she seems cool; like someone I'd like to get to kno better. I agree that a call may have been a better choice; but was willing to throw it out there just to see.
USMCHokie Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Normally I'd agree with you guys, but she offered her # saying I could text her. That kinda threw me off. She's like 22 - 23 so I just figured what the hell; throw out a txt and see what happens. Lol. Whenever you get a number, you call...especially if you're contacting her to ask her out...no exceptions...if she gets offended by you calling her rather than texting her, then she's f'in nuts and you'd probably be best to just move on...seriously... As far as recovery, give her a call tomorrow and ask her out. If she's not there, leave a voicemail and leave it at that. If she doesn't respond, then LAUNCH...she's not interested...
Author ConflictedGuy27 Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Whenever you get a number, you call...especially if you're contacting her to ask her out...no exceptions...if she gets offended by you calling her rather than texting her, then she's f'in nuts and you'd probably be best to just move on...seriously... As far as recovery, give her a call tomorrow and ask her out. If she's not there, leave a voicemail and leave it at that. If she doesn't respond, then LAUNCH...she's not interested... I'll consider calling to ask her out tomorrow. Anybody second this approach?? Anybody completely disagree?? Thanks.
Confusedalways Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I'm 22. When I offer my number for someone to text me, I want them to text me. If I got a phone call, I'd be confused but not put off. I think it would definitely break the mold, as most men have 'lost the art' of a phone call. That's weird she didn't text you back quickly though. When people have questions for me I'm always curious!
Author ConflictedGuy27 Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 I'm 22. When I offer my number for someone to text me, I want them to text me. If I got a phone call, I'd be confused but not put off. I think it would definitely break the mold, as most men have 'lost the art' of a phone call. That's weird she didn't text you back quickly though. When people have questions for me I'm always curious! lol. Yeah, that worked up front initally in class. It may not have been the best thing to follow up with after I got digits. A buddy of mine mentioned I likely killed most of the interest by acting too eager and txting so soon. I can see that. I'm hosting a preparty before doing some clubbing on Saturday. Thought I'd shoot her an invite to both events. Maybe that's down the drain. If so, oh well. If not, that would be cool. Same buddy suggested inviting her tomorrow would be a good salvage attempt. Otherwise just stay silent until next face-to-face.
Confusedalways Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 That would definitely be a good attempt, if she doesn't know your friends she may end up not wanting to go, but don't take it personally. I usually like to at least know someone but the inviter if I'm going somewhere, or that I'm welcome to drag my friends along with me. Hopefully she can at least meet you out at the club? Anyway- I don't think you're dead in the water with the texting situation.
OpenGL Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 lol at people saying to call her even though she gave him her number and specifically asked him to text her. Creppy/Needy much? You did the right thing bro. Young girls have the attention span of a gnat, so don't be suprised if you never hear from her again. Even if a chick gives you her number there is only a very small chance it will lead to anything at all, let alone any kind of date.
Author ConflictedGuy27 Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 But she did reply eventually, or no? Only texted back to confirm it was me. I initially txted asking: So, I have another question for you, busy?" She's like, "Bob?" and i say yeah its me. End of txt convo. Lol.
Author ConflictedGuy27 Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 lol at people saying to call her even though she gave him her number and specifically asked him to text her. Creppy/Needy much? You did the right thing bro. Young girls have the attention span of a gnat, so don't be suprised if you never hear from her again. Even if a chick gives you her number there is only a very small chance it will lead to anything at all, let alone any kind of date. Good info. We'll see what happens.
legallyblonde289 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 she might have still been waiting for your question. you had told her you had a question for her but when she made sure it was you you never asked the question. she probably should have said "hey whats up" but i'd give it another shot then if she blows you off ignore her
USMCHokie Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 lol at people saying to call her even though she gave him her number and specifically asked him to text her. Creppy/Needy much? It shocks me that women actually do this...but I do find it funny that they do...in my opinion, a girl who insists that a guy can only text her is much worse than the guy who'd rather call when asked to text...and probably has a few screws loose...unless you're in middle school or something...because apparently it's pretty hip and cool to text in middle school...
stillafool Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 she might have still been waiting for your question. you had told her you had a question for her but when she made sure it was you you never asked the question. she probably should have said "hey whats up" but i'd give it another shot then if she blows you off ignore her This is what I'm thinking. She was waiting for the question and probably became confused because you didn't respond. Definitely ask her out (via telephone).
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