Chitowngirl Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 If you date someone, and find conversation difficult -- does that mean you don't have chemistry, or one of you is a bad conversationalist? I dated a man who I felt we had chemistry -- I was attracted to him, we had passionate kisses, I enjoyed being around him, learning from him -- but, he was horribly quiet and private. I would ask him questions, he would answer, and then drop the conversation. He hardly asked me questions. He would call me twice a day and we'd speak for about 10 minutes top each time, just discussing our day, nothing deeper. He didn't seem to have a sense of humor as I don't remember laughing at anything he ever said. Does that equal lack of chemistry or we just didn't find common ground to talk about? I never dated someone like this before, and thankfully (I guess) he dumped me saying we didn't have chemistry. I wanted to tell him, No, you just didn't know how to converse with me as I was the only one asking questions.
Engadget Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 If you date someone, and find conversation difficult -- does that mean you don't have chemistry, or one of you is a bad conversationalist? I dated a man who I felt we had chemistry -- I was attracted to him, we had passionate kisses, I enjoyed being around him, learning from him -- but, he was horribly quiet and private. I would ask him questions, he would answer, and then drop the conversation. He hardly asked me questions. He would call me twice a day and we'd speak for about 10 minutes top each time, just discussing our day, nothing deeper. He didn't seem to have a sense of humor as I don't remember laughing at anything he ever said. Does that equal lack of chemistry or we just didn't find common ground to talk about? I never dated someone like this before, and thankfully (I guess) he dumped me saying we didn't have chemistry. I wanted to tell him, No, you just didn't know how to converse with me as I was the only one asking questions. Being able to carry a conversation is essential to me, so I'd have to say yes.
stepka Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I've had bad conversation but great chemistry with some men, so it's possible, but I don't consider that enough to pin a relationship on. I've had those kind of relationships, but never again. Reminds me--last summer I went on a few dates with a man. He was handsome, he had a sailboat, and he had plans to sail it to Europe this summer and wanted me to go with him. That would be my dream, but I couldn't do it--the man bored me to tears--but we had chemistry.
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