raspy Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 (edited) About a month ago I told the guy I'm seeing that not happy with the fact I only saw him about once a week and that I was feeling unappreciated. He told me that I mean a lot to him, that he really likes me etc but didn't wanna rush things or put pressure on us. He also said "we'll work on it" in regards to seeing each other more. Fast forward 1 month and it's still the same. I'm still only seeing him once a week (neither of us have full time jobs) and he only lives 25 minutes away. It's weird because he's introduced me to his family which was a big step for him. He pretty much hangs out with his best friend about 3 times a week. His best friend and him are VERY close. It's almost co-dependent the relationship and the best friend really doesn't have many friends outside of the guy im dating and tends to get very jealous when my bf is hanging around someone else. My bf is PRETTY WHIPPED in that sense. Anyway, given that it's been a month and nothing has changed where do I go from here? I'm not really happy and I can't understand how he a) doesn't realise this and b) just seems to have ignored my 'ultimatum'. Edited May 21, 2010 by raspy
legallyblonde289 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 you told him before that you werent happy with seeing him once a week. it might be time to telling him this isnt working for you and you're done unless he makes more of an effort and hopefully that'll kick his ass into gear and he'll make more of an effort..if not i'd chalk up to you guys having different requirements when it comes to how much you expect to see your SO
Rorschach Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Don't give ultimatums, guys hate that with a passion you'll drive him away for sure. That said whats wrong with you simply trying to set up dates more than once a week? Certainly you've been in the relationship long enough where he doesn't need to set up everything?
MrNate Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Don't give ultimatums, guys hate that with a passion you'll drive him away for sure. That said whats wrong with you simply trying to set up dates more than once a week? Certainly you've been in the relationship long enough where he doesn't need to set up everything? I agree about the ultimatums. That's just asking for it. I think it would be better to just to continue to let him know you're upset about not seeing him too often. I also have to agree with rorschach: if this guy usually does all the work, and sets up things, how about you help him out?
legallyblonde289 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 i agree ultimatums are ALWAYS are a bad idea and usually backfire. i was under the impression she already gave him an ultimatum and it didnt work. i just think she needs to communicate that the way things are going isnt working for her and shes not happy. if he doesnt make an effort to spend more time with her they might just not be compatible and she might want to split.
phineas Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I don't understand. If the OP calls him up is he just not available or does she sit at home & wait for him to call her?
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