Mombot Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 I find all kinds of calls on his phone, not for a lot of minutes, but to numbers that are a. women's numbers and b. foreign women. I think he may have a lot more going on than he tells me. We live long distance and he travels for work not at this location and I go see him now and then. He finally admitted he was separated but not divorced... I am a new fool at an old game. and yet i enjoy him a lot. Suspicious....
reboot Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 "If he cheats on her with me..." No offense intended, but, duh?
Author Mombot Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 May I ask how you know about these calls? We have cell phones on the same plan... he is my additional line and I can see all the calls he makes.
jthorne Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Frankly, I'd be more worried about the fact that he lied to you about being divorced. What was his excuse for that lie? Seems like if he's a halfway skilled cheater, he wouldn't make calls to OW on a phone in which you can monitor. Now, if he had a second phone that you don't know about...
2sunny Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 why would you put him on your plan? is he not capable of getting his own phone? all i can think is - geeez, what a leach. and then to take things further and reach other women too? and he's lied by saying he's divorced when he's not... NONE of it looks good. dump him - without even saying a word. get the phone back and tell him you never need to speak to him again - unless you only intend to hear more lies straight from the horses mouth.
Spark1111 Posted May 23, 2010 Posted May 23, 2010 Sounds like he is separated and playing the field. You may be the "nicest" woman he sees as you are affording him a cell phone, but I suspect he is talking to many women and trawling the waters. Be careful here.
Fallen Angel Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Sounds like he is separated and playing the field. You may be the "nicest" woman he sees as you are affording him a cell phone, but I suspect he is talking to many women and trawling the waters. Be careful here. This resonates as the truth to me as well. Has he told you that he is seeing only you? I personally am not of a mind that a separated man who is dating is "cheating". A separated (and divorcing) man is free to date in my opinion. (except in my state ) If he has not commited to seeing only you then perhaps if that is what you want you need to tell him. If he has told you he is commited to dating only you but you have doubts about his fidelity then you should voice those doubts to him. Have you told him of your concern? If so, what did he tell you was the reason for the calls? Honestly, I do not believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" theory and again I would not consider that he has "cheated" on his wife if he is truly separated from her. Which begs to question, are you sure, given that he travels so much for work, that he is truly separated? Or is that perhaps a "truth flub" and he is only "separated" when he is away on buisness?
Woman In Blue Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 We have cell phones on the same plan... he is my additional line and I can see all the calls he makes. You provided a phone for this guy on YOUR plan (which no doubt means you pay for it as well) so he can use it to sleaze it up with other women in different ports of call, as well? Plus, he LIED about his marital status to you? First claiming to be divorced, and then changing it to separated? What a prince. I don't think he's "separated" at ALL. I think whatever bullsh*t story he gave you as to why he doesn't have a cell phone is garbage. He probably DOES have one, he just can't use it to do all his sleazing around because his WIFE will see a record of it. It's past time to dump this loser.
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