Electron Manipulator Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Hello everyone . I'm new to this forum and new to divorce. After 6 years of some up's and mostly downs, my wife and I FINALLY called it quits. Throughout our entire relationship, I dealt with lies/manipulation, drug use, a couple of run in's with the law, 6 failed jobs, total irresponsibility, dumping all of myself into this relationship for nada....I could think of more. We never had children so I guess that's somewhat of a blessing (I do like kids by the way). 2 weeks ago we signed the separation papers and I made out pretty good. That turned out to be a relief because I was done! So here I sit in "our" apartment full of her stuff that she needs to be finding a way to get out. No we're not living together. I got the residence. I don't want to come home to this place because a) it's a disaster and b) the majority of it is her crap. Gets kind of depressing walking in here every evening. She is supposedly "looking" for a job and trying to find a place of her own. But judging from the past that could take an enormous amount of time. Matter fact a couple of times I asked about the job situation, she said nothing, hanging out at friends places. I've spoken with a number of friends who told me to break the lease, tell her about it and GTFO with my stuff. The papers gave her the furniture and her items. My landlord is a good fella and would probably let me break the lease with a 60 day notice. But I'm a nice guy and my conscience tells me otherwise. Any suggestions?
mark982 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 any chance of just putting it in one of those storage units?
Gunny376 Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Get a couple of your buddies together, buy a couple of cases of beer, (with one being the designated driver) rent a u-haul, pack up all of crap, rent a storage unit to put in, pay up front for six months, send her the address and the key, tell her she's got six months to (a) find a new place to live to put all her crap, (b) pay for the storage unit for another month to six months (whatever) or © have it sold at public auction. She and her crap are no longer your problem.
heartbrokensj Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 (edited) So here I sit in "our" apartment full of her stuff that she needs to be finding a way to get out. No we're not living together. I got the residence. I don't want to come home to this place because a) it's a disaster and b) the majority of it is her crap. Gets kind of depressing walking in here every evening. She is supposedly "looking" for a job and trying to find a place of her own. But judging from the past that could take an enormous amount of time. Matter fact a couple of times I asked about the job situation, she said nothing, hanging out at friends places. I've spoken with a number of friends who told me to break the lease, tell her about it and GTFO with my stuff. The papers gave her the furniture and her items. My landlord is a good fella and would probably let me break the lease with a 60 day notice. But I'm a nice guy and my conscience tells me otherwise. Any suggestions? Maybe give her a stern ulitamatum as to when she needs to pick up her stuff and then if that doesnt happen call a local charity in your area to donate her stuff and have the local charity pick up her stuff.... Or you could get a couple of your buddies together and drop off her stuff wherever she is staying at? Sorry about all you have been going through. This separation/divorce stuff is so hard to through. Edited May 22, 2010 by heartbrokensj added more info and editing typos
Author Electron Manipulator Posted May 22, 2010 Author Posted May 22, 2010 Gunny, I'd do that but I don't drink . The papers say that she gets the furniture (of her choosing) and all of her personal belongings. Problem is, if I start dispersing her stuff, I fear I may get into some legal trouble. After all, I will be treating her stuff as if were mine. Which technically it isn't anymore. Legally, her name is still on the lease, so she can keep her **** here until that changes. Not sure if I can legally get my landlord to remove her name w/o her consent. If so...it's on like donkeykong! If not then I may have to break the lease completely and force her to be responsible. Then there's a hearing next month to decide whether she should have her probation revoked or not. If her probation gets revoked then she'll more than likely wind up in the clink for a while. This may provide an excellent opportunity for getting her crap out through her family members. Got an idea for this one. Remember, I'm trying to be an amicable guy about this. Just took another look around the rooms....this sucks! Geesh, I'm an electrical engineer and all I wanted was a nice boring drama reduced married life! Thanks guys .
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