colliejoanie Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 At this moment....this point in time....I truly HATE my ex. We have a two year old daughter together, and were a couple for two dysfunctional years before I had her. When she was 9 months old, he went to jail for domestic violence. Since that time, I have tried to keep things civil in the attempt to make my and my daughter's life a little easier. Because my ex gambled our house, cars, and credit away, when I left I had absolutely nothing. I decided to finally better my life and I am now a full time student, full time single mother, and I work two part time jobs - all for which I'm very grateful. The problem is, my ex is a manipulative, diabolical, abusive, crook who has broken my teeth, broken into my apartment, threatened the life of anyone who "helps" me, and the final straw, three weeks ago threatened to slit my throat and leave me for dead because I wouldn't sleep with him. I called the police, he went to jail, we went to court, I have a permanent restraining order for me and a 120 day one for my daughter. Yeah me, right?? Well, in the DA's conference with him, she asked him why he didn't contest the 120 day restraining order for his daughter.....he said "because I don't want anything to do with her". The DA reported this back to me as something good - like you don't have to worry about him fighting you for custody....but it literally felt like someone had kicked me. How can he feel that way about his own child? And then today, the second blow came. He's dating a very young girl (He's 39 and she's 26 - and I'm happy about her because I'm hoping it means he'll stop obsessing over me) but I was just informed today that he and the girl plan on getting married and having children in the next year. Part of me is saying he's only promising her this because she's paying his bills right now....but the other part of me is furious/heartbroken about him having the ability to abandon our beautiful two year old and just replace her! Can someone please say the right thing to me? I know the logical answer. I know that him leaving us the hell alone is the absolute BEST thing that can happen, especially for my daughter. But right now, I'm not thinking about the future. I'm thinking about right now. How do I keep this hatred and resentment toward him from taking over my daily life?? I've got calls into a bunch of different therapists, and so far the soonest appointment is two weeks away....I'm truly worried about how I'm going to cope with the next few weeks! I don't want to obsess, or take anything out on my beautiful little girl!! I already find myself being so impatient with her tonight!!! I'm hoping that's just because of the stress of the day, but would love to hear if there's anyone out there with any suggestions!! Thanks, so much!!!
skydiveaddict Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 You should take your baby to your mom's house, or a friend. Just for a little while (maybe a couple of hours), just so you can de-stress and have a little piece of mind
Author colliejoanie Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 You should take your baby to your mom's house, or a friend. Just for a little while (maybe a couple of hours), just so you can de-stress and have a little piece of mind Thanks. I actually just put her down for the night. I'm lucky she's a LONG sleeper. Unfortunately, my ex and I moved thousands of miles away from all my family and friends.... so i'm literally by myself. I think that's another reason I'm so bitter. Here I am doing all the right things for me and my baby and that irresponsible piece of S. is out partying with people half his age, acting as though life is grand.
skydiveaddict Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Don't worry about what he does. You're better off w/o him. You need to find a single mom support group in your area. I know you will do well good luck
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