Author 2sure Posted May 21, 2010 Author Posted May 21, 2010 Wanted to add something else interesting. When my friend met him, he was separated from his first wife who he depicted as mentally slow, an addict, and unfit. He did get custody of his daughter . I met the woman myself and she did seem as he described. So now, after a year plus of being gaslighted by this man...my friend has once been hospitalized with a physical health issue caused by stress, is on depression medication, has had several public outbursts, has on occasion just broken down. I'm sure he describes her to new OW as an unfit nutjob. And she kind of is just at the moment....but she WAS FINE BEFORE SHE MET HIM. I'm wondering now if his first wife was a promising Harvard Bio Chemist prior to being put through his manipulations. Yeah, sometimes the BS seem like shrews, controlling, mental cases...but you know...we didnt start out that way
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Behind every crazy B of a BS is a married man who made her that way???? :lmao: The only variable that remains unchanged is the MM himself. The woman are merely the catalyst.
SarahRose Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 How sad for any woman to end up with a man like that. What a f**king L-O-S-E-R. The really sad part is these women think they got a prize with their dumpster diving.
Hazyhead Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 What a situation! I'm sorry for the pain your friend is in 2Sure but I hope she finds her peace soon without him holding her back. I noticed this thread when it was in the OW/OM forum and I thought it served an excellent purpose there. I just hope users of that forum who are being dragged along in 'I'll leave... maybe. Please wait,' affairs will check over here too. There is a lot to be learned.
turnstone Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Sigh. I have so much love for you all right now. I think sometimes I am taking this harder than she is. I grew up with her. She was always the stable, true, smart one. I cannot believe she and I are dealing with the same ****. These guys are good, aren't they? They make me sick. I am soo afraid that in August, when my own papers are signed...I'm gonna lose my sh*t. Of course I will, why be afraid too? Because its about control and losing control of your life. Well, those papers give you back control. 100%.
MizFit Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 The really sad part is these women think they got a prize with their dumpster diving. I have a friend who was lied to about similar things...how much money he made, how often he went on holiday, his relationships with family, and he always seemed to come to her rescue. She believed it all...every bit of it. Then it was too late and she ended up marrying someone she barely recognized. He was single and they met at the grocery store. We believe what we want to believe. A BS takes back their S because they want to believe the lies were part of a fog and that this time it's different. We believe what we want about the people we love.
OWoman Posted May 22, 2010 Posted May 22, 2010 Again, 1000 apologies for my clearly poor choice of words No sweat JW - I should have paid more attention and seen that it was YOU posting it, and realised that you wouldn't have intended that the way I read it. BTW, was the thread moved here for a reason? I'd have thought it "fitted" better on the OW page, but I guess that's why I'm not a mod....
Mimolicious Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 Wanted to add something else interesting. When my friend met him, he was separated from his first wife who he depicted as mentally slow, an addict, and unfit. He did get custody of his daughter . I met the woman myself and she did seem as he described. So now, after a year plus of being gaslighted by this man...my friend has once been hospitalized with a physical health issue caused by stress, is on depression medication, has had several public outbursts, has on occasion just broken down. I'm sure he describes her to new OW as an unfit nutjob. And she kind of is just at the moment....but she WAS FINE BEFORE SHE MET HIM. I'm wondering now if his first wife was a promising Harvard Bio Chemist prior to being put through his manipulations. Yeah, sometimes the BS seem like shrews, controlling, mental cases...but you know...we didnt start out that way You think!? I grew up with a single parent because my dad was murdered when I was a toddler. I never ever had psychological issues because of this ... sure indeed, I ended on the faiting couch after this pathetic marriage. If I knew then...
Snowflower Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 We believe what we want to believe. A BS takes back their S because they want to believe the lies were part of a fog and that this time it's different. Yes, we believe what we want to believe, I guess.
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