seibert253 Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 Hey Church Bells---I'm not so sure your statement about BH's is accurate, in that I think there are a whole lot of H's that do not tolerate infidelity at all, they just walk away immediately, they never get to a web site as this or SI----for them one time is a dealbreaker, and it is over----the stats on those situations are never seen on web sites like these. So true. For one of my best friends, it was one and done. He stone cold busted his XW with the OM, kicked her out, immediately D's her, and never looked back. He's a whole lot happier now, while 2 1/2 years out I still have my struggles. Would have been alot easier to say F it and gave up, but that's not me.
You Go Girl Posted June 10, 2010 Posted June 10, 2010 I see this thread is still alive and conspiracy theories are alive and well. Listen, there's no evidence that your w did anything but get drunk, pass out on a couch, and regret that the next day, probably with a big hangover. Her past behavior is the best indicator of her future behavior. She has no history of being a cheater. If you don't let this go, and give her the trust she has developed over the course of your relationship, she is going to start resenting YOU, and thinking you are OCD on this issue. Are you really going to destroy your trust and possibly your marriage over this? There are plenty of men here who are willing to place a 99% sure that your w cheated because they have been cheated on. But their experiences have almost NOTHING to do with yours.
ComputerJock Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 I wonder what happened to OP. Did he give spouse a lie detector test and found out the truth but couldn't handle it? Did he hate the advice he was getting because it made him look deeper into his marriage and found out it was on shaky ground? Or is he just going to ignore her behavior until she sleeps in another man's room again? Makes you wonder what happened.
imagine Posted July 4, 2010 Posted July 4, 2010 SS, thanks for your time in explaining the course of actions. I hope that the correspondence has helped you focus your concentration. I agree with you that a cheater will make mistakes. Too much emphasis will announce your alertness. Please discuss your boundaries were either of you found to be unfaithful. Knowledge of these boundaries will prevent the chances of the event happening. PS. I did not read the other posters. I hope my post is not repetition.
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