purpleplanet Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I'm a somewhat newly single (been single for almost a year but just now ready to date) 28 yr old woman. I don't want to waste time on someone who I'm not interested in, also, I don't want to waste time on someone who is not interested in me. Last time I was single, I was 23 and not really looking for a relationship, so I just had fun and waited until a guy showed interest, then moved from there. But at this point, I don't want to wait around, and I know what I like. I'm not desperate, but neither do I want to play coy games and act aloof. So I meet a man I like, we go on a few dates, and I want him to know that I am definitely interested. The question is, how do I show interest without scaring him off or appearing desperate? Do I just up and say, "Hey, I like you, how do you feel?" Is that too forward? Should I not say anything and hope he just "gets it" ? What do you guys prefer?
bac Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Do you want show interest in what? casual sex? FWBs? a LTR? marriage & making babies?
phineas Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Nothing a woman says to me these days means anything unless they follow through with actions. Make an effort to spend time with him. Be proactive. If he's willing to spend at least two nights a week with you after 4 dates he probably likes you & isn't in it for just the sex. However, most men won't buy the car until they've taken it on a test drive if you know what I mean.
Author purpleplanet Posted May 20, 2010 Author Posted May 20, 2010 Do you want show interest in what? casual sex? FWBs? a LTR? marriage & making babies? ha, guess I should have been more clear. I'm interested in a long term, real relationship.
carhill Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Make an effort to spend time with him. Be proactive. If he's willing to spend at least two nights a week with you after 4 dates he probably likes you & isn't in it for just the sex. Here's some good advice from a balanced man and I endorse it. Good luck
FitChick Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Actions speak louder than words. That goes for both sexes. In fact, I'd say don't bother talking about your relationship until you are ready to have the exclusive talk.
sagetalk Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Do I just up and say, "Hey, I like you, how do you feel?" Is that too forward? Should I not say anything and hope he just "gets it" ? What do you guys prefer? If he's dense and shy it will take him a long time. Just cut the crap and make a comment that is unmistakable. Say "That ______ makes you look/smell hot, I really like it" then smile. Insert whatever you want to in the blank. Flirt with the guy in an obvious way, and he should get the message. If he doesn't respond, he may just be too dumb or not interested.
Engadget Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 One of the big ones is showing their neck to you, it's subconscious a lot and I watched a girl recently do it to me numerous times. Touching you, obviously. Even seemingly innocuous touching if it's not a family member/friend, then yeah. Eye contact, huge one. If you just google women's signs of flirting, they list them out.
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