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Taintedpixle

By Taintedpixle
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Taintedpixle New Member

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I have always prided myself in been as honest and as faithful as possible. I have a man in my life who gives me everything I want and more. He is amazing and I dont want to lose him.

BUT ...I am soooo attracted to my co worker....IT is driving me insane. I cry because I want him and I know its wrong, but I cannot contain myself, but most of all I cry because I dont know if the feelings are the same, and if they are, will I be able to stop it :lmao:

Cracker Jack Established Member

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Well, all I can say is think about the amount of pain you'll cause to this ''amazing'' boyfriend if you continue on this path. I would advise you to talk to him, but I doubt you will. If you want the other guy, though, your relationship is basically non-existant at this point.

phineas Established Member

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He can't be that amazing if your ready to toss him aside for a quickie in the stock room with a co worker.

St. Nick Established Member

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Agreed. If you're thinking about cheating on your bf then you don't think he's all that amazing.

lostsunsets Established Member

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I would disagree. The BF probably is amazing. She's the one that is not so amazing. Pride? Talk to your BF. Let him go, so you can get back to the stockroom.

Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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Well, the OP is not married, after all. Perhaps this is her wake-up call that it is not time to be in a committed relationship no matter how amazing the boyfriend.

 

OP, I just hope you will do the honorable thing and break up with your boyfriend if you, in your heart of hearts, know that you need to be free to explore other options. Otherwise, you need to find a way to rid yourself of the obsession with your co-worker. Please don't be a cheater!

Mimolicious Established Member

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Another one bites the dust! :rolleyes: (about to)

 

I agree. I don't think you are digging your amazing BF anymore. When you are goo-goo gaa-gaa about someone :love: you don't even want to look sideways.

 

You can read it over and over again, all over these boards what happens to people who cheat on their SO. They get caught, get dumped and live miserable after. There are few exceptions where the whole "we were with the wrong OP, we are real soulmates and meant to be" story but very few.

 

You can either follow the instant gratification yet eternal heartbreak that cheating can produce and CHEAT! (Feels all warm and fuzzy inside and the thrill is amazing, to be honest!) Then deal with the roller-coaster ride.

 

Break up with your BF and hit the supply room with a free conscience.

 

Or nuture your relationship with your amazing BF by hitting the supply room with HIM and not your Co-worker.

 

You said you are not even sure if your co-worker is into you though...

 

Employment is tough to find nowadays too. Hope you are able to understand the dynamics of screwing around with co-workers. :o

DadofTwoGirls Established Member

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I say go for it...you're not married and obviously attracted to only the nice things about your BF...do it..if it's all you thought it would be..great..if not..at least you'll know and can put it in your memory bank in case you really do find someone you truly love you'll know the grass isn't greener if it is already green.

Mimolicious Established Member

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I say go for it...you're not married and obviously attracted to only the nice things about your BF...do it..if it's all you thought it would be..great..if not..at least you'll know and can put it in your memory bank in case you really do find someone you truly love you'll know the grass isn't greener if it is already green.

 

And her BF is supposed to have the sign "Open for STD Business" on the open side, right?:rolleyes:

 

You only live "once" not "at once".

DadofTwoGirls Established Member

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she will address the issue at the appropriate time..sometimes 'once' is not enough.

Mimolicious Established Member

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I see, the attitude is "Post-Event". Nice!

 

I mean, what does it matter what we say...

The title of this thread is "I really want to" after all. :rolleyes:

 

Good luck Taintedpixle. See you after the jump!

Dexter Morgan Established Member

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I have always prided myself in been as honest and as faithful as possible. I have a man in my life who gives me everything I want and more. He is amazing and I dont want to lose him.

BUT ...I am soooo attracted to my co worker....IT is driving me insane. I cry because I want him and I know its wrong, but I cannot contain myself, but most of all I cry because I dont know if the feelings are the same, and if they are, will I be able to stop it :lmao:

 

set your bf free so he can find someone he deserves and someone that deserves him.

 

ya I know...yadda yadda yadda....they are just feelings and you aren't doing anything wrong.

 

but with someone like you and the kind of feelings you have, you would cheat on him given the perfect opportunity.

 

so why not let a good man find someone that is going to be true to him....emotionally or otherwise.

Dexter Morgan Established Member

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I say go for it...you're not married and obviously attracted to only the nice things about your BF...do it..if it's all you thought it would be..great..if not..at least you'll know and can put it in your memory bank in case you really do find someone you truly love you'll know the grass isn't greener if it is already green.

 

I agree, go for it! but only after she has set the bf free from her.

 

her bf shouldn't be the unknowing casualty in some stupid experiment to find out if the grass is greener.

 

someone as amazing as her bf should have someone equally amazing....its clear that she isn't

road Established Member

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Two things can do.

 

Dump BF.

 

Or go NC with the OM. Meaning you have to quit this job.

Woggle Established Member

Woggle

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And women wonder why men become players who use them as sex toys. The next time a woman wonders where all the good men are she should refer to this thread.

alexlakeman Established Member

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Op, take the responses with a grain of salt... one person responds "you're doomed" or "let him go" and every one else does the same, they all went to the same "school" :p

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Two things can do.

 

Dump BF.

 

Or go NC with the OM. Meaning you have to quit this job.

 

LOL no.

 

Double team.

FitChick Established Member

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Some people are missing the obvious: the guy is her co-worker. Always a bad idea to date someone you work with unless you are planning to quit your job if it doesn't work out, and if you don't mind the entire company gossiping about you. In some companies you can even be fired.

 

Have sex with your boyfriend and fantasize that he is your co-worker. :p

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I have always prided myself in been as honest and as faithful as possible. I have a man in my life who gives me everything I want and more. He is amazing and I dont want to lose him.

BUT ...I am soooo attracted to my co worker....IT is driving me insane. I cry because I want him and I know its wrong, but I cannot contain myself, but most of all I cry because I dont know if the feelings are the same, and if they are, will I be able to stop it :lmao:

 

One quick way to stop it, tell your BF what you just told us. One of two things will occur:

1. He'll make sure it doesn't happen

2. He'll kick you to the curb. (then you can go have your fling, and later realize what you threw away)

You Go Girl Established Member

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OP--

these feelings mean that you aren't ready for a monogamous relationship. You need to have the spine to tell your bf that you would like to date other people.

It really is that simple.

Yeah, you might lose him. But you're NOT ready for monogamy, so accept that about yourself. This is having a backbone. It is going to give you character in life. It is going to give you respect for yourself and for others.

How old are you?

Young people too often try to be monogamous far before they are ready.

Reality Drip Member

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We all get confused by this stuff sometimes. It's a tough call but you have to decide if you're having these feelings because something is missing between you and your man.

 

Perhaps the physical side of the relationship is dwindling down in frequency? Spice it up.

 

The answer isn't to mount your co-worker but if you have a feeling something may happen why don't you take some time apart? See if when you're single you'll STILL want to be with the co-worker or if it's a feeling you're having because you're "anchored" right now.

 

There are many million people you'll find attractive on the planet; if you can't find the will to say "no" now then just be prepared to have this sprout up again.

 

Monogamy. bleh.

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orangeorange New Member

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Don't be so quick to judge this person. I am in the same situation, almost.

 

I absolutely love everything about my boyfriend of three years, but there is someone who has caught my eye for whatever reason. I'm not going to jump in a closet with him, but I have to admit I kind of want to.

 

Whatever the reason - someone can STILL LOVE their bf and be SEXUALLY attracted to another.

 

My only advice; don't do it. It will be in no way worth it. I know I'm not going to anyway. Lovely to look at, but if you step over the line consider your relationship gone.

ADF Established Member

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Enough with this "will I be able to stop it?" nonsense. Anything you do will be because you CHOOSE to do it. You need to take responsibility for your own actions. You can live your life however you want. The only obligation you have is not to lie. If you want to be with this other man, break up with your BF first. Don't take away his right to make a choice about you by lying to him.

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Reality Drip Member

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Things happen, people can feel attracted to others while they're in a relationship. The problem here is you may not be ready for a long-term relationship. Perhaps a break? Take some time to do some soul searching.

 

Your boyfriend is "amazing" and I'm sure treats you well. He must be missing something to have you so conflicted about this OP.

 

Besides, let's be honest. "Nice" and "amazing" are synonymous with too sweet and boring so it sounds like you yearn for the appeal of a guy with edge.

 

-Max

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