ANJL_BEING Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 One of my best friends has been acting strange lately, and by that, I mean, she is clingy one week and asks me to stay with her 7 days in a row, and the next week, she never follows through on a call or text. She will always return my text that she is sick or at work and will call or text me back... she has yet to answer me on the subject of which date to reschedule our vacation ... I have been patient. Well this morning, she seems to have gotten over the distant persona and txts me and asks if I would like to get together when she got off work this afternoon. I respond "Yes, that would be nice." She txt me back 3 hrs later that she's not sure when she will get off that she is covering for someone... She never contacted me the rest of today. She is clingy one week, and distant the next. I don't expect her to answer me immediately, but for a week straight, she has been acting very strange. I want to confront her about this without making a big deal about it. I do not want to put her on the defensive, but at the same time, I feel I deserve an answer. What could I say? Please give me some examples... and what do I say if she says gives an excuse for every day of this past week she has put me on the backburner? Because she is the type of person that will act like everything is ok tomorrow. In the past, if I confront her on issues that hurt me, she turns it around on me and says, "yeah, I'm just a $h!ttty friend." -as if I'm supposed to feel sorry for voicing my concerns... I know this sounds stupid. I am just very confused, and need a little advice. I feel that if tell her how I feel, she will blow if off and be back to "normal" tomorrow, and act as if that is her apology or explanation... I understand she has obligations, and has a right to give me an excuse. She has the right for me not to jump to conclusions, but this has gone on 7 days in a row. She has been sweet to me, never an indication of anger or irritability, just strange how she has told me 7 days in a row she will get back with me and doesn't. Ok so one day she did say in a text, sorry she didn't call me back, but she STILL hasn't. Our only communication has been through text because I don't want to bother her at work and find it easier for her to respond in her own time, but an example communication on her part would be this response to me: "I just got home. I had to fire a guy today because he was drinking at the restaurant. Long stressful day." I txt and say I am very sorry that happened. Have a good night... And I give her the chance to get back with me the next day. That was many days ago. I do give her her space, but I feel this is getting a little rediculous. I mean, it only takes 2 minutes to talk to me. Is that too much to ask? How, if at all, should I just let her know that I have been patiently waiting on her replies and that I am a little upset that she hasn't taken the time to answer me on things and keeps putting me off? What exactly does a person say in this situation but is careful not to start an argument or put the other person on the defensive?
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