Tangerine Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Okay, let me say this...The woman I dated for a little over 7 months broke it off a little over a week ago. We both fell very hard for each other, but other personal things started arising in both our lives that led to tense moments which may have very well led to our break up. We do have a mutual friend that told me she thought I was becoming a bit needy. Now that I look back upon it, there were moments where I can say I do understand how she would think that. Now I know neediness is not a great trait if you want to keep a woman...but I truly miss her. We have spoken once in the past week and a half or so, and from speaking to her, I can feel she may miss me too. I do not want to act "needy", but I am just a person when finding someone amazing it is hard not to express how I feel. When we spoke during the week, we spoke about seeing each other soon. We weren't a couple that spent every day together. We would always see each other about twice a week due to our busy schedules. I guess my point here is, not to play any games, but is there any way I can rekindle our relationship and prove that I am not so "needy"? I will admit that I would always call and text her and this may have pushed her a way a bit...I just hope that this needy trait may not ruin what I see as a potential life partner. I know people talk about the no-contact rule, but is that really necessary or do I just give her enough space and time to contact me? I guess I may have overdone the "hopeless romantic" way of living my life. Any suggestions would help...Thank you.
GrayClouds Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 (edited) If you have any chance it will be because you read and do perfectly the following: Guide to Second Chances It will feel counter intuitive but it is your best hope. I wish you the best of luck Edited May 20, 2010 by GrayClouds
cafe267 Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 The first response you got was best...I'm in a similar position except I pushed her to the breaking point and lost her. You really have to try as best you can to let go...Its been almost 2 months now since we've officially been done and I still think about her all the time but I've been spending more time w/friends and hitting up the gym again and I'm starting to feel better. I'm contemplating one more relapse before I really send her on her way and hope for the best but then we have a child together and I want to make sure I say my piece before I let her and our child go for now... Stay strong...a long time ago another ex left me and 8 months later she wanted nothing more than for us to try again...I believe if people really loved one another there's always a chance, when you love someone you give them a piece of your heart and if it was true love they'll always have that part of you and you them
Author Tangerine Posted May 20, 2010 Author Posted May 20, 2010 Grey Clouds, thank you for posting the guide...I will be following it as much as possible and hopefully I do not get off track. Being someone who always felt you need to go after the person you love, this may become difficult...but as far as I know, the way I go about things have always failed. I will do whatever I can to at least get another chance because I truly fell in love with her. Cafe267, I am sorry that you have to go through this, especially with a child in your life. I know I have not been with this person a great deal of time, but I have never met a more amazing person in my life...and it hurts to feel you are losing her. When you said you pushed her to the breaking point, was it the constant pressure that was put on her as I feel I may be doing now? Thank you for your encouragement, you stay strong too and lets hope everything works out for the best. As you said, that piece of heart is what we have to maintain the strength to be patient.
GrayClouds Posted May 21, 2010 Posted May 21, 2010 Grey Clouds, thank you for posting the guide...I will be following it as much as possible and hopefully I do not get off track. Being someone who always felt you need to go after the person you love, this may become difficult...but as far as I know, the way I go about things have always failed. I will do whatever I can to at least get another chance because I truly fell in love with her. . I understand you desire to chase but that stuff generally does not work in real life, great for movies, but it ends up painful and humiliating in reality. She can not miss you if your always there, if she truly needs space you will just anger her by not giving it, and if she is having doubts about you then acting on your instincts will just confirm her doubts. Your full of emotions at the moment, but emotions do not always make the best decisions. Focus on yourself, work on making yourself better. Good luck.
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