Ruby Slippers Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I guess I'm weird, because I like it and am not turned off by it. I value total honesty in relationships, as it fosters closeness. It's only when a person, man or woman, admits and faces their sad, angry, and scared feelings that they reveal who they really are. I admire anyone who has the courage to do that. Yes, sometimes you want your man to be a rock for you. But I am strong, and I welcome the opportunity to be a rock for him as well.
Author TouchedByViolet Posted May 20, 2010 Author Posted May 20, 2010 I guess I'm weird, because I like it and am not turned off by it. I value total honesty in relationships, as it fosters closeness. It's only when a person, man or woman, admits and faces their sad, angry, and scared feelings that they reveal who they really are. I admire anyone who has the courage to do that. Yes, sometimes you want your man to be a rock for you. But I am strong, and I welcome the opportunity to be a rock for him as well. Thats awesome Ruby.
Author TouchedByViolet Posted May 20, 2010 Author Posted May 20, 2010 (edited) I find in relationships, venting too much to the guy just frustrates them. This triggers the Mr. Fix-it in them. I would advise something along the lines of: "Aww baby, that sucks. Want me to kill them for you?" (joke-MANLY joke;)) and then a hug and kiss before changing the subject. I'll try something like this more often , humor is the universal fixer upper. Edited May 20, 2010 by TouchedByViolet
Rorschach Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I cry at sad movies and turn into an emotional wreck whenever I start feeling crappy about myself and my life. Other than that I'm not very emotional. My previous girlfriend thought it was cute when I cried at sad movies, and I didn't turn into an emotional wreck back then (that wonderful habit has only popped up recently) so there are some women out there who don't care. Though I must say if I'm going to the movies with a girl, and I start crying when Jenny dies for the 500th time in Forrest Gump, and she has a problem with that, then I'll just show her the door. Its not a character flaw so if she doesn't like it I don't feel bad about it.
Woggle Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 It really is sad that if a man wants to have a relationship with a woman that lasts he pretty much has to be cold and emotionless towards her. If women want to know why so many men are players it is because of this reason. You let your emotions get involved and then all of a sudden she completely loses attraction for you but a man will never go the length for a woman if he feels nothing for her. It is very frustrating. I also agree that women try to force into these emotional games and it is like walking through a minefield. If you show too much emotion you kill the attraction but if you dismiss her she stomps her feer and call you insensitive. I am starting to believe that men do anything right in the eyes of women so why even try. As soon as men realize we will always be wrong no matter what then we will be much better off. Just be the kind of wrong that she wants to have sex with.
Author TouchedByViolet Posted May 20, 2010 Author Posted May 20, 2010 I cry at sad movies and turn into an emotional wreck whenever I start feeling crappy about myself and my life. Other than that I'm not very emotional. My previous girlfriend thought it was cute when I cried at sad movies, and I didn't turn into an emotional wreck back then (that wonderful habit has only popped up recently) so there are some women out there who don't care. Though I must say if I'm going to the movies with a girl, and I start crying when Jenny dies for the 500th time in Forrest Gump, and she has a problem with that, then I'll just show her the door. Its not a character flaw so if she doesn't like it I don't feel bad about it. you are a manly man in my book rorschach It really is sad that if a man wants to have a relationship with a woman that lasts he pretty much has to be cold and emotionless towards her. If women want to know why so many men are players it is because of this reason. You let your emotions get involved and then all of a sudden she completely loses attraction for you but a man will never go the length for a woman if he feels nothing for her. It is very frustrating. I also agree that women try to force into these emotional games and it is like walking through a minefield. If you show too much emotion you kill the attraction but if you dismiss her she stomps her feer and call you insensitive. I am starting to believe that men do anything right in the eyes of women so why even try. As soon as men realize we will always be wrong no matter what then we will be much better off. Just be the kind of wrong that she wants to have sex with. It really can be frustrating and saddening. I have been there and done that. Sometimes I feel like dating women is just a game that some guys know how to play while the rest of us fu** up. The best intentions and honest feelings often yield the worst results. As the saying goes, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Still, I am young, 23years old, and I hope to meet someone wonderful who will appreciate me for who I am. I am a compassionate and empathetic person by nature. I hope I meet a women who will appreciate me for these qualities.
gypsy_nicky Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Man this thread sucks, but its so true when it comes to being desirable to women. Lol. This reminds me of the film bedazzled where the lead dude becomes the sensitive guy and fails big time lol.
Pyro Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 Its all about balance. Don't be overly emotional, and don't be stone cold and show nothing. Either of which will gain you no attraction. I have no issue with showing my emotions and it has not affected me in a negative way. Again, its all about balance.
climbergirl Posted May 20, 2010 Posted May 20, 2010 I don't find an emotional man to be a turn off. My bf got pretty emotional early in our relationship, and although I was caught off guard by it, the only thing that bothered me was that I didn't know him well enough to know what he needed for me help. Bottled up emotions manifest into something bigger, so I appreciate that in him. However, I think Pyro is correct in saying that there should be a balance. Now if he lamented on a particular subject rather than being triggered into being emotional, I may be put off. I may feel like only a sounding board rather than someone he cares about/feels safe enough to share his feelings. I'll take a man who can express himself over one who feels he has to hide his emotions any day.
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