NYChick Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 (edited) My ex and I have been broken up for less than 2 months now and he recently graduated from university. He had texted on my birthday even though we were both doing NC, so I figured I'd be civil back not to burn any bridges too soon. I texted him congratulations and he replied "thank you so much! can't believe it happened" to which I simply responded that I can't wait until its time for me to graduate in a few weeks and for him to have fun on vacation. I stopped there intending it to be a close to the convo, but he responded back "thanks and I will! better go catch my cab" I didn't respond after because that'd be beating a dead horse, and I know he probably won't say text or say anything to me for awhile because he's traveling abroad. I was the one who initiated NC and told him I couldn't be friends until I was ready. He's done some dumb stuff post-break up, but then again, we do stupid things don't we? I figured once the dust settles in a few more months, it can be normal. I guess now, do I have to initiate stuff again in the future, or is it normal to wait and see if he even says anything first? How do I even know if he wants to maintain a friendship versus just saying "I still want you in my life" to lessen his blow? Edited May 19, 2010 by NYChick
yume Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 I hate to burst your bubble but you'll probably have quite a long period of time ahead of you before friendship can happen. I'm slowly coming to terms with this myself, and it ****ing sucks, to say the least. I'm gonna hop on your wagon and pray for the best (both for you and I) in terms of friendship. It's really doubtful, but I can't feel anything but hope at the moment that the situation could improve. I suppose friendship just has to come naturally, whether it be you or him who initiates contact first. Who knows how long it'll take.
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