Cannondale Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Me and my current gf have been going out about 1.5mo, and needless to say there have already been some issues. She states that I always argue with her about stuff or always have to make a debate about everything. I mean I do certainly argue with people if I think I'm right, but she acts like I do it all the time which is not the case. I just feel like I can never have my say on stuff without her telling me I'm arguing and then a fight ensues. I have noticed that the couple of fights we have had have mostly occurred when she is on PMS week, and she states that she can be horrible during this week also...so I think this may have something to do with it. She told me tonight she is "doubting" stuff a bit bec. it's already irritating her etc etc. I just told her nicely that I think she is misunderstanding me, and that stuff is getting blown way out of context. Idk, I just always feel like I have to take the blame for everything in the relationship incl. this, and I was wondering if there is any advice to be given on how to deal with this? Thanks much!
TaraMaiden Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 1.5 months. Doubts already? Ok.... How much effort is this worth? Really? if you think that you're at loggerheads over this now, then down the line, is it going to get better or worse? ask her to define what she sees as the difference between argument and discussion? Are you arguing or discussing? Because it depends on how she defines things... if discussion is 'basically agreeing with everything I say, and argument is you stepping out of line'.... Then step out of line big time. et the guy behind you, have her......
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